Well, my worst fears have come true.

Went to EPAC this morning due to some mild pains and although I was worried, I was 90% sure all would be okay as had much worse pains than this in previous pregnancy and all was okay then. I should've been 10 weeks plus a few days but the fetus hasn't grown since my last scan 4 weeks ago (when I had a bleed). I'm having an EVAC tomorrow which is good as its been there for 4 weeks and my body hasn't got rid of it and the weird thing is my boobs are still really tender, apparently it takes a while for hormone levels to drop. I'm really upset (quite obviously) but deffo dealing with it better this time around (I had a miscarriage in 2004 before my son was born in 2005) and have to keep going for him but you still think "why me" - maybe that's really selfish but it still entered my head. The shape of the fetus is irregular so that info and my way of dealing with it is that my body is doing it's job and not letting an abnormal fetus develop any further. Still heartbreaking tho.

Hubby keeps asking if I want anything and the only thing I want (and he hasn't given) is a cuddle! Bloody men, so insensitive sometimes! He wasn't over the moon when I'd got pregnant anyway so I guess he got what he wanted!

Anyway, lots of luck to everyone on here and hope to be back soon but next time I want my hubby to want a baby as much as me!! What a fab start to 2008 eh! Things can only get better I spose!

Thank you to everyone for advice given, it was much appreciated. Take care

Bea

So sorry to hear your news, very sad and disappointing for you. You take care of yourself, get over today and take each day as it comes. Life is soo unfair.

As for DH, sometimes they just have to be told how to deal with these things as they (especially my own) are crap with emotions and feelings! Just tell him that you need a hug and that you need him to hold you, the penny will drop then!

You take care of yourself Bea and give yourself some time. Thinking of you. Sharon 6wks

my thoughts are with you hun xx

So sorry to hear your story, you must be heartbroken.

Im sure you will be back on here before you know it.

Dont worry about your husband, men are useless at the best of times.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Take care

Stacey x x

hi Bea

so sorry to hear your news. Life can be so cruel at times. Take care of yourself and hope to see you back here soon. You are looking at things in the right way, as hard as it is. I hope tomorrow goes Ok for you (or as well as it can anyway) and tell your hubby you need a hug, he is probably at a loss as to what to do - men and emotions often don't mix.

Jx

to hear that but you are looking at it right it just wasn't meant to be and the year can only get better.

i wish you and your family all the luck and next time hubby asks if you need anything just tell him you want a cuddle. i think men sometimes find it hard to know what to do particularly if it wasn't planned but i'm sure he's hurting to

Love and hugs
Lis x

I'm so sorry to hear that. It's such a hard thing to get over. I know exactly how you feel, I've been there twice myself. You are looking at it in the right way and as you know, time does heal.

We'll look forward to having you back soon.

Stay strong, lots of love and big hugs.

Sarah. xxx