Hey Ladies.

I was hoping to get through my pregnancy without any drama. But I guess theres no chance of that happening. I am a month away from meeting my angel and things are turning sour in my marriage. I tried hard ignoring the situation at hand only for my babies sake, but my pateince has run out.

See the thing is my husband has this female cousin who he is really close to. I didnt realise how close they were until I found text messages from one to the other.
I confronted him about it and he spilled the beans. I told him to stop contacting and he promised that he would. A few days later while going through his phone I find a whole lota text messages from this lady and I got real mad. It became obvious that he lied to me about stopping.

I got real mad and we had a huge argument, but he is always defending her saying that she is just his cousin. From what I see he is in love with her, and doesnt realise it because he will do anything for her and his always defending his realtionship with her.

Whenever I bring up the topic its like I am the one with the problem and he cant see what the big deal is.

I realsied that this thing is not goingh to work between us and decided that once my baby is born I am going to ditch him. This is going to put alot of pressure on me and being a mom at the same time

I dont know wat to do. Please help!!!

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I just want to say the way your husband is treating you is totally unexceptable! He should be supporting you now at this time instead of going through a feeling sorry for himself/attention seeking crisis!! A good kick up the you know what is what he needs! Does he have a family member that you can talk to that could talk a bit of sense into him! I wouldnt go chucking the towel in just yet! When the baby is born things will be different, I would hope! All he needs now is a wake up call to what he would be loosing if you left him and he had no you or baby!

Have you been married long, or has he ever done anything like this in the past? You have obviously tried the sitting him down and having a good firm talk to him, threaten him, the usual tactics! If you can, try and not make any final decisions until after the baby is born and see what happens. Once you have your wee baby, you may feel a lot stronger to deal with him and have a clearer head as the worry of having/delivering baby is over you. Nows the time that you need to get your friends and family rallied round you! Dont be afraid to tell them, they will help you deal with it!

tc Sharon xxx

i no its hard for you rite now but try an enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and when babs is born im sure it all will become a bit more clearer for you cos your prioritys will change an you will no which is the best direction to go for you an babs. takecare shell&bean xx

i sort of know how your feeling. a few months back my partners brother had a 21st birthday party. my partner totally ignored me the whole night and left me sat on my own. he didnt leave his female cousin and he even kept nipping outside with her.

people kept giving me comments saying 'whos he with' and 'arent they close'. they couldnt keep there hands off each other. his excuse was 'shes going through a rough time' (her mums a alcholic but his cousin lives down south and only visits ever so often)

it hurt the most that i was 7months pregnant, feeling fat and ugly and there she was a young attractive lass.
she knew it was winding me up so she kept putting her hands round him etc.

anyway in the end i stormed out... even his grandma was ashamed. he has seen her a few times since then and everything has been ok so i think it was the drink (but still no excuse!)

he never paid much attention to my pregnancy and sometimes treated me quite bad but i had my little girl 3weeks ago and he has totally changed. hes helping out alot more.

all i can say is see how he is when bumps born... but dont just stay with him for the sake of the baby its not fair on you. make sure you have your family and friends on hand to help you when you have the baby cos its hard work.

good luck chick and i hope you do whats best for you and the baby.

Stacey & 3wk 1day Olivia
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well i can;t offer any advice as i've never been through this myself, but i know its going to be extremly hard for you over the next few months but if you can just take one day at a time, the way your hubby is treating you is appauling and i don;t blame you in the slightest for what your doing, try and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and you will have your baby soon and then after your sorted can you think about how to go about your divorce etc maybe when the baby comes tings will change i don;t know but i really really hope everything works out well for you. take care xxxxx

when you get pregnant? It's like they suddenly realise they wont be the be all and end all of everything anymore and they panic. They seem to do anything to get attention!

I think what he's doing is completely immature and stupid and you do deserve better. Dont be hastey though, it's a very sensitive time for both of you. Try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, you and that baby are far more important than any man. Once baby is born he may well come to his senses and realise what an idiot he's been.

Lots of love and hugs, and loads of luck.

Sarah & Jelly 17+5 weeks. xxx