hi, im 16 and pregnant i would like the baby but i always wanted to make something of my life. i wanted to go to college and then to university and get a decent job. my mum said that if i keep the baby then how was i expecting to do these things. i was just wondering would i still be able to have the life i always wanted or me having a baby before i reach this prevent me from acheiving this? can some help me please.

hey, chelsea here, im 17 and expecting first baby boy in 6 weeks, believe me it hasnt been easy, as in getting my head around becoming a mommy, lol. But when you think about it, how many other people have done it and turned out ok. your life will only be over if you let it. Ive only recently decided after weeks of blubbering to not let it take over my life, no way! lol. It defo wont be easy but what im saying is its doable. Im still in college, well left for maternity leave, but im returnin in september. So basically its a decision your gonna have to make on your own, but i nearly had an abortion in the early weeks and it was the best thing i ever did when i didnt show up at that clinic.I cant wait to eet my baby boy now!


Good luck! xxxxx 34+2 baby boy xxxxx

Hi there
I'm living proof that you can have a young child and go onto university as I had my eldest boy when I was 17. I then had problems getting employement as this was in 1991/1992 right in the middle of the recession. So I went back to college and studied for 3 a levels. Something I wouldn't even have considered, if i hadn't had my son. He went to the college creche.
I then got caught up with the whole 'you are going on to university aren't you?' as my teachers were pleased with how I was doing with my studies and didn't want me to waste it. So I applied for a place at Portsmouth University to study history. I lived in London at the time.
In the meantime I met my youngest son's father. To cut a long story short I deferred my university place for 1 year, had son number 2 and put him down for university nursery place before he was even born!
So when I started university in Sept 1995 I had 2 young children. Eldest was 4 and had to go university nursery for half an academic year until he could start school. Youngest started nursery as the eldest one left to start school.
Sorry if this seems like my life story but I would never have done a levels or a degree if I hand't had my boys. I just wouldn't have had the chance to.
Most colleges and universities have creche and nurseries and in my mind I think sometimes its probably easier to go to college or university with a small child than it is to work!
Incidently I'm now expecting baby number 3. My youngest son is now 13. But it took me almost a year to find a job after I left university but I've been in my job now 7 and half years.
I do wish you good luck in whatever you decide to do, but don't be put off of studying cos you've got a young child. In most cases women in our position work harder and are model students as their studies mean more to them than some of the other students.
Good luck once again and don't give up on your dreams
Best wishes
Sarah and 10 wk bean
xx

"Hey"

im 17 now, and im 22weeks pregnant its not easy or something that ever gets planned, but you can have your cake and eat it too. speak toa connexions advisor because ify ou feel you wouldnt want to or abortion is something you'd regret, it more then likely would be, consider all of your options because if you kill someone that you love already for no reason it could mess you up for longer and make these things you want to achieve further away. it may take you longer but at the same time there will the people who are your age- striving for the same qualifications- without half the love you have already? you need to work out whats best for you, message me if you like xx

on how much you want it, it will be a bit of a struggle at first but if you were really determined you can do anything you could do before, you'll have to be organised though. i had my first at 16 and having kids hasn't stopped me doing anything.

emma

Sorry but it really is up to you myself I had my daughter at 17 and ive still gone onto study it takes a bit longer and is slightly more time consuming with juggling everything but if you want both you can have both, and with most mums working now youll find it is much easier now to get childcare etc and you do get help, at the end of the day the decision is entirely your make sure you make it on your own * and with bf if hes involved* but if you want something then just grab it , having a family isnt an excuse to not do anything. sorry not much help

like nicki i had my first at 17 and i still went to college and other courses there is plenty available out there for who want to study/work.

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