hey guys, nice and calm today lol,
does anyone think i've been unreasonable, i asked kieron today if he see's a future- basically am i making a home ... i dont knwo if it was the right thing to do because in his eyes would him still being with me now be him saying that? well i asked him anyway and he said i was worrying aobut nothing because its not this massive deal im making it.. yeh right? he said all of the strains on him, i think he means his exams etc? he said something about college anyway. again. lol
i did mention the point that i have to consider someone else now,and that if we have a future together him and his baby get a joint first in my priorities( obviously baby more but wheres the sense in being mean?) but if we're not we're gonna have to work something out, i also said that im not asking him for financial help but if i have his emotional support cause if i dont then there isnt a point in us being together becasue it isnt just him anymore?
well he went home not in a bad mood but thinking about what i said, i know this because i rang him and he was in the same depressed mood- we havent argued and i think im right but does anyone think ive pushed too hard? xx

I really think you need to give Kieron a bit of time to take everything in. You're halfway through your pregnancy and he has only just found out I know it's gotta be hard for you because you want everything to be settled and you want to know where you stand, unfortunatley this isnt going to happen until he knows where his head is.

He is probably feeling a huge amount of pressure at the moment and like Jules said, he is a teenage boy. God, Chris is a 28 year old policeman, we own our own house and cars and we are settled but even he can act like a right child sometimes, we had some terrible arguments in the beginning because he just didnt seem to realise that things needed to change to accomodate the baby. He's great now but I'm 20.4 weeks and he's known the whole time about the pregnancy, not only that, we planned it. For Kieron it's even harder because he is just a boy and he hasnt known very long.

I would suggest you take a step back and let him digest everything that's happened. Men need their own time to think without us girls bending their ear all the time. They dont see it as a discussion, they see it at nagging and they close off to it. Let him absorb the idea of the baby first, then focus on the relationship, take one step at a time, keep it simple (Men freak out when things get complicated and over emotional) and let thing develope as they will. I hope everything will be fine, he's just getting his head around the fact that being a teenager and life as he knew it, will never be the same again. It's a lot to take in.

Lots of luck hun.

Sarah & 20+4 wk pink bump. xxx

I think you being a little unfair on keiron. You have had 20 + weeks to prepare yourself and get used to the fact your going to be a mum, but Keiron hasn't, you kept this all from him for such a long time, he now needs time to get his head around the idea too. And you have to remember, he is a teenage boy, they are immature at the best of times, he does need to grow up and take responsibility but this isn't going to happen overnight.

You seem to be all over the place at the moment about what you want and to be honest I get confused by some of your posts so Keiron must be struggling to keep up with you.

Its perfectly understanderable for you to be a bit all over the shop, your young too and this is a lot to take on, but I think for now you need to think long and hard about what you want for you and your son. Once you are settled with your decision then talk to Keiron. Men are easily confused at the best of times and if your giving him mixed signals he won't react well.

Put yourself and your son first, decide what you want and go from there. Its the only advise I can give you

good luck

Julie x