If not married - which surname?

For the the unmarried out there - which surname are you going to have for your baby? I want my baby to have my surname because I'm an only child so want to keep the name going. Plus I like my surname better than my OHs. And also if I do get married in the future I wouldn't give up my surname anyway (bit of a feminist at times lol!).

Luckily my OH doesn't mind as he's not traditional but some people I've told have looked at me funny like I'm behaving outrageously!

Wondered what other people have done/are going to do.

Hope all is well with everyone, Cherry x 28+3

Hiya

well I wasnt married when I had my 1st daughter but as I said to my hubby at the time shes your daughter at the end of the day if we split up shed still be his daughter so she had his name then we were married anyway by the time number 2 came along so it wasn;t an issue as the other ladies said its up to you at the end of the day but you only have the 1st six months or something to change bubs name if you decide otherwise

Hi

I had the same problem before Kieran was born. I told my OH if we were never getting married then he would have my surname but if one day we were to get married he could have his surname. Well, he took his Dad's name and he popped the question on Valentine day this year!!

But I will say this, If your baby takes your partners name it can't later be changed back to your surname if you split or something but if they take your name it can be changed if you get married. And also your child will need to be re-registered in both situations because your status is changed.

Thats what they told us when we registered Kierans birth.

Just go with whatever is best for you.

Take care

Ellie and Kieran

Hiya

Although my OH name is an absolute nightmare to pronounce...... (I'm used to it by now, but you should see when we get post from a new company - you think, how did they spell it like that??) .....our bambino will deffo be taking his name.

We're not married (engaged), I just know that if I gave the baby my surname it would make people who don't know us question to themselves whether my OH is the father and then to think "well, why has she done that for?"

I know my best mate gave her baby her surname until her partner marries her (kinda terms & conditions I guess!) and she said as soon as the ring is on her finger she'll change it to his name......otherwise she thought he'd never bother to get married.

Also as my OH is Italian, we get to chose some glamourous names and get away with it, rather than our child having the same name as four other kids in the class.

I know that my fella would be very insulted as well if I even suggested not to take his name (in fact, it hasn't even been discussed - it has been presumed that the little 'un will be "Baby De Azevedo"

I guess it all depends on what is important to you. I'm one of those types of people that would question why you wouldn't give the baby the fathers surname, so I would assume (wrongly so) that everyone else would be the same as me.

That's what makes us all unique though!

Lots of Love
Jen & Peanut
20weeks today (...and still no movement)
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Hi

I'm also going with my name because I like it a lot better than my OH's and fortunately he's quite easygoing about the whole thing. I know what you mean though about getting funny looks, a lot of people at my work seem to find it weird!

Hey cherry

my little one will be taking both our names. luckly they go really well together so its fine but as were not together anymore i wanted her to have my name at least in part and i wanted her to have his name too so this was the best solution for us both that way she gets both too.

its completely up to you and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it

Lis and 33+5week girl bump x

Hi

Hi, my babys gonna have its daddys last name too...we arent married but are enagaged and he would be gutted if it was gna be my name and not his....Its entirely up to you hun dont let other peoples opinions get in the way do what you want, its your baby.
Good luck
Brooke 37 weeks x

Hi

my baby will be taking db surname as we were spose be getting married in october anyway,but its now on hold so it makes sese as were getting married in the next few years anyway
linzi

Oh's

My baby will be taking OH's surname, I want us to all have the same surname, but unfortunalty I'll be the odd one out, for now at least!... We considered hyphonating the babys name, which sounded rubbish... we have no wedding plans as yet (not engaged either by the way) we've been together for over 3 years, OH says I should just change my name by deed poll, but I think thats a bit silly really, I'd rather have the big day and everything, ha ha!
We mentioned keeping my surname for baby, but for various reasons decided against it.

I think it's totally up to you what you call your baby and I don't think it's at all silly whether you use your surname or your partners.

Best of luck
Rachael (37+6)
xxxx

Hiya

We are going to give the baby my OH's surname simply becasue I am divorced but still have my married name and definitely don't want my baby to have my married name!!

Only thing that I'm a bit concerned about is that my OH and I have no plans to marry at any point in the future. Don't get me wrong he loves me and wants to be with me for ever but he has no intention of asking me to marry him. Which would have been fine if we weren't expecting a baby on Saturday and I'm going to have a different last name to my baby....which does make me a little uneasy as I guess it will raise some akward questions from other people and eventually from the little man himself.

Thankfully your OH is ok about your baby taking your surname, most men would not be so easy going!!

Debz and Flump

Hey

Hi Cherry,

Our baby will be taking my OH's surname, we plan on getting married next year too and i will take his surname then, i really like the idea of us all having the same surname but i do know loads of friends who haven't taken their OH's surname when they have got married, i just think its a personal choice and if your OH is happy with your choice then sod everyone else!!!!

Take care

Donna(38+1)

ps....i love your name...that is on my list!