I knew my boyfriend was cheating. Back when i was pregnant, i wrote in here, that i thought he was, shortly after i had Jakob, i found out the truth, he was living a double life. None of his family knew about me or the baby. He was cheating with his other baby's mum.
Should i forgive him? He's being so mean to me now. His ex knows she was getting played to cos i told her..... What can i do?

wll i found out hes been doing it again, so im off ladies lol

And forget about him! You wont ever be able to forgive him, no matter what you tell yourself and no matter how much you love him now. You are hurting and you want it back to the way it was, but he was living a lie. If you did take him back, you would be forever thinking where is he, is he away with her etc etc. It will wreck your head and you will be forever fighting about it. You deserve so much better, you dont have to settle for that! I was in somewhat similar situation to you, found it very hard to let him go and played along for a few weeks, but I knew in my heart that he was no good for me and would drag me down as I couldnt trust him! Thank god I did let him go as I wouldnt have met my DH! Theres is better out there for you! You have to put you and little Jakob first and think of your future! You will meet the right person, give yourself time.

Big hugs. Sharon xx

awww hun i know how your feeling right now,with no doubt u love this man and u want a stable family unit for your son n even that hes the father of your child hes no good for you or baby jakob,u will always be wandering who hes with and what hes doing n whenever he goes out the door youll relive what hes done 2 u my ex and my daughters father dumped me at 7mths pregnant 200m away from home n ran off with his ex who he has a 4yr old son with and who he had been cheating on me with for months.it wont feel like it now but u reallY need to move on without him and concentrate on being a mum n whats best for your son im sure ull be fine and ull get through this good luck babe take care Jade n Mia-Neve xx

focus on you and your little boy he is not worth wasting time on. i know its hard i still love my ex but then he didn't cheat yet if you get back into a relationship with him you will always wonder what h's doing and who he's with. like someone said you can't have a relationship which is not based on trust.

you can do it without him, focus on little Jakob who needs his mum to be strong for him and protect him. and you need to protect your heart to. you both deserve better and in time your'll find it.

good luck and i hope it works out
Lis and 34+3week girl bump x

but I would wash your hands of him completely. A relationship has to be built on trust and well you cannot trust this man. He couldn't of behaved any worse, I feel so angry for you.

If the other women is stupid enough to want him let her have him, its only a matter of time before he does the same thing again.

His actions showed you or your child no respect whatsoever and you can't believe a word he says. So in answer no I don't think you should forgive him, and with regards to what you should do, think yourself lucky that you found out what he was and move on. I know it will be difficult at first but one day you will find the right man for you and you will look back and think thank god I am not with that looser anymore.

x

I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been going through and can't imagine what it feels like. But think of your baby...what kind of man leads a double life and is away with another women while you are at home, pregnant, and now bringing up your little boy? You don't need someone like that in your life, let alone in your little boys life - what kind of role model will he be around? I know it is terribly hard and you are probably hugely torn about what to do... but please listen to our advice and make a break - it might seem awful now but I promise you its the right decision. Once a cheat - always a cheat. It is true I'm afraid. Obviously let him see his son if he wants too - your boy will need his dad, but having him around full time will do neither of you any good. Make a clean break and focus on Jakob - in time you will see this is the right thing to do - focus on your litle boy now without the stress of this cheating b*stard in your life, and when you're ready focus on finding someone who doesn't do that kind of thing. Good luck xxx

Heya hun,

normally i am all for second chances, BUT!(and if i had been able to underline that but i would have done) it sounds to me like he isn't the least bit sorry for what he has done to either you or the other woman, men like him don't deserve a decent woman who loves them let alone two women, i personally would print posters with his picture and post them through every door within a 5 mile radius warning women to keep well clear...sorry hun but he is never gonna change, as hard as it is cut your losses and move on, you and Jakob are better off without him, what kind of a role model will he be for little Jakob.

huge hugs and much love
Keep your chin up chick
Leitia & Harry(23 days old)
XxxxxX

I agree - once a cheat always a cheat - don't do it! Put yourself and the baby first....
Take Care... x

always a cheat!

dont set yourself up for more heartache, you will never trust him again and that will cause problems in your relationship.

you and your baby deserve better.

emma