Hi all, I'm very new to this but i couldn't help but share my excitement. I have just found out today that i am pregnant. It wasn't planned, me and my partner of a year and a half were going to wait until we had our own place and were married first but it looks like we have done it the other way round. My only concern is that i don't really know how my boyfriend feels about it. I know we need to discuss the options but i have really already made up my mind about what i want to do. There is so much to consider, money, a decent place to live, being ready but i know i am ready and have been for a long time ( I get extremely broody when i see my friends kids)Should i just tell him how i feel or go with how he feels because i don't want to lose him. He is a loving partner who would stand by me through anything i just dont want him to feel like i am tying him down!!! I suppose i am feeling very happy but also very confused at the same time!!!

Wow, congratulation on your pregnancy.. discuss with your partner and open up.. good luck!!

Hi

I've recently found out that I'm pregnant too. I had some very, very similar worries to you but for some different reasons. I didn't want my boyfriend (I'm 41 and feel very old to be saying "boyfriend"!) to feel trapped or cornered, etc, etc. I knew for about four days before I told him and I also didn't want to tell anyone else until I'd spoken to him. I didn't seem fair. In the end, I was really open and honest with him. I told him all my fears about how he would feel and how I wanted to be fair to him, etc. This is the first time I've ever considered having a child and it's scary for me too so we talked about that as well. In the end, his honesty surprised and delighted me. Our situation is far from ideal but he's changed since I told him - much more loving and concerned about me. We still haven't made a final decision but I think we'll be keeping the baby. What I'm trying to say is, if you're honest and hide nothing I hope your boyrfriend will respond in the same way and you can make the decision together.

Good luck...

I think you should definitely talk about your options with your boyfriend. Even if you have made up your mind, it's still a good thing to communicate how you guys feel about it. If he is a loving partner, Im sure after the initial shock, he will be happy and excited just as you are, and you guys wil do just fine. Just be open and honest with eachother, but don't let him or anyone else convince you to do something you don't want to do (in any aspect of your life, not just your pregnancy)

Anyways, Congrats, and I wish you the best with everything.

once u give a birth & he sees the baby he'll love it.remember a lot of the people who have had abortion regret afterwards & theres no turning back.listen your insticts.how old are you by the way?