Talk about mood swings and stress

well im stressed today i just blew out at my fiance for no reason really, well there was a reason but i wasnt angry at him i was angry at his son. you see this is our first baby together but he has 3 kids of his own and 1 of them lives with us hes 16 turning 17 in may, and he has lived with us since he was 12. nice kid but a compulsive lyer he hates his dad shows no respect for him nore me or my kids (i have 2 boys 9 and 7) and he is sooo lazy he doesnt do anything to help around the house AT ALL!!! he has a fulltime job but doesnt pay a cent for board ort food or nothing at all but he expects me to do his washing and cook for him. i have had enough and i dont know what to do. his dad dont do nothing about it. the things is i am a very respectful person and i cant stand the total disrepect he has for his father even tho his dad does everything for him.
it drives me insane that i have to sit back and watch this go on for so long. we are expecting our first child together in 6 weeks and i am worried asbout the situation with his son.

to be honest i dont want him living with us.

today i got so angry thyat i drove him outta the house that he rang his other son to go stay with him for the night.
he wont see my point he thinks im mad at him but im angry with his son and the way he carries on.

i dont know what to do anymore and im worried about us having the baby and how im gonna cope with everything.

my partner is very helpful with me. but i dont feel close to him anymore.

im sorry this is a long post but im stressed and need to let this out. im worried that im not gonna cope with the baby and im worried that il end up being depressed.

with my other 2 boys i was married before to their dad and when we had our second child i ended up with postnatal depression it scares me that this will happen again if things stay the way they are.

i have had stress from the very start of this pregnancy with us fighting and nearly ending the relationship then we work it out and we had a death in the family my brother committed suicide i had already lost my other 1 9 years ago when i was pregnant with my first child and now my other brother has gone as well. i cant deal with anything anymore.

i dont know what to do
anyway sorry to have wrote such a long post.

regards lauren

Awww lauren

Your not having an easy time of it Lauren, pregnancy is stressful enough without the added burdens of your stepson playing up. You need to clear your head, go for a walk, call OH and get him round to talk to him. Even write down the points you want to make beforehand. Make sure you have no intruptions. Keep it cool and dont be getting yourself stressed out. But I think you need to address certain issues with him/OH in a calm manner. They are not going to go away and if you dont deal with them they will fester and multiply. Talking is great for clearing the head. Sometimes I just have to call my DH to one side and give him a good talking to and then its done, rather than rowing about it. Keep positive, deal with it, come to some sort of compromise/solution and time to move forward and look forward to the arrival of your little one, without this cloud hanging over your head. Hope all works out for you! tc Sharon 14+4 xxx