hi gals,

i have 6 weeks to go before i go in for c/s and my partner says that we dont need to go out and buy anything til baby comes as il be in hospital for 5 days, but i have no basinett, change table with bath tub, car seat, or clothes for hospital or nappies or nothing at all.
he reckons hes gonna go out and get all the stuff while im in hospital but im stressing out that im not prepared.
is anyone else have same problem with their partners???? it drives me insane the way he is behaving its like he wants to be in control of everything and i feel that he doesnt want to do the shopping together and get the things we neeed for bubz before it comes. he goes on about we dont know if we having boy/girl and thinks we have to get the boy/girl stuff, but not everything comes in those exact colours, even the car seat he is saying we dont get til we know what we having i mean it sounds rediculious it really does.

im really stressing about not being prepared......

lauren

Men!!! Soooooo frustrating! Suggest to him that it would be nice if u both went out together and bought some stuff. I got really excited when i went out and bought the cot etc, but my bf really wasnt that fussed and i had to keep on at him til we went! If he still refuses to go together ask a friend or a family member to go with u. Get ur partners credit card, go shopping and suprise him when he gets home from work!!! Just tell him u thought ud save him the hassel!! If u dont wanna go out and get it all, order it online and get them to deliver (even better!)

Hope he sorts himself out...im still working on my bf!!

G'luck with the section

Lots of love Becky and Freddy 2 weeks 2 days xx

you really need to talk to him or go out and buy the stuff yourself. whats the baby going to wear when you have just given birth to it?? you neede vests, sleepsuits, nappies, blankets, mittnes, socks, cotton wool balls, hats, bibs, birp clothes, all just in the first few hours of having the baby. the hospital wont provide all this.
also he thinks he will get it all while your in hospital... i dont think he realises how stressful it will be when baby comes and you will need him to be at hospital helping you. cos you will be doing the sleepless nights on your own.
have you got bottles?? or you breastfeeding. you will need loads of nappies, milk, cotton wool when you get home. also you cant take baby from hospital if you havent a car seat.

you also will need alot of stuff... not sure if its same when you have a c section cos i think they clear you out but i didnt buy enough maternity pads and your are sooo tired from sleepless nights and birth (includung your partner) so we had to get family to fetch things round and we thought we were prepared!

have a good talk to him or get family to help you to get baby things together. you really need to be as prepared as poss. you will be like a hermit for the few weeks after. you may even like to come home early from hospital.

take care
and good luck with birth and new arrival
Stacey & 10wk Olivia
x x x

haven't been in your situation as only 6 weeks preg with first baby but do know what it's like to have a partner who's so laid back he's pretty much horizontal and never does anything til the last minute. Have you tried telling him how much this is stressing you out? If that doesn't work (and don't forget you have hormones as an excuse to turn on the waterworks if he still doesn't grasp how important this is for you) is there any way you could go and get what you need without him? Maybe take a friend or family member instead then at least your mind would be at rest. Know this is the sort of thing you really should do together but if it's worrying you and he won't play ball he's really not leaving you with much option. There's bound to be plenty of stuff he can go and get afterwards but you need to know you have the essentials to put your mind at ease, the last thing you need right now is extra stress and if he can't see that then he can't blame you for taking matters into your own hands. Good luck, hope you manage to get it sorted.

Love,
Clare xxx