hello everyone,

This is rather personal but would be great to get other women's views..

38 weeks but trying to have sex is hopeless!! I just feel huge, although I am not particualy. I feel I have lost all my agility if you know what I mean. We seldom have sex now and when we do it's just not happening. I feel I have to hurl my weight around. I feel quite ridiculous. It's terrible!!! My husband comes so quickly too as he is anxious about hurting the baby and only can do it from behiend. I find this position really boring to be honest and just feel like a toy for him in that state. He doesn't seem to care about pleasing me, it's all his pleasure and the baby's safety!I have told him the baby is fine during sex but he can't get his head around it. I guess that from behiend he can't see I am pregnant although he was always partial to that position! I don't want to talk to him about it as it might cause some anxiety for him about sex and he may not be able to do it at all! Excuse the details. The only way I can get any stimulation is on top but all we feel is the baby on his stomach, it just doesn't happen for me!!


I am terribly frustrated that I can't experience orgasm with my husband anymore. I am also worried that after birth I might lose all sensation in the clitoral department!! I have heard this can happen.

There is also another factor and that is the dreaded THRUSH. I have had it since week 15 and it just kept coming back. My poor husband ended up getting it ( about time he knew how it feels!) and I treated it but he didn't completly so we reinfected one another with it!! Now it hurts him to have sex for a long period of time anyway. I think I should just FORGET about it altogether until a long time after our baby is born.

We once had a very healthy relationship sexually although my husband can be rather selfish at times..i.e cuts to the result and forgets the process...
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I just feel I am all breasts, bum and stomach at the moment and frankly quite sick of it although pregnancy is such a beautiful thing I think I really have to say goodbye to sex for a while longer yet!

Other than just the sex thing I just want it all to happen now, it's a real waiting game.

ANYONE ELSE FEEL FRUSTRATED????????!

me an oh had this prob as he was scared of hurting babs an latley always went with the doggy pos which i got fed up of as i felt huge with belly an breasts hanging everywhere an not getting much pleasure and it didnt feel like making love it just felt like a quick hows ya father which can get boring!

so we do the spoons now so he dont see the bump an he gets his from behind picture an i get to be comfortable on my side with the option of raisin a leg for more access an pleasure as oh can also reach round an help with having that ultimate climax! soz if to much info but i had to giv my 2 pennies worth haha

tc shell xx

Hi girls,

Thankyou for the replies..keep them coming! It's great to get another's view..

My OH is concerned that his unborn daughter knows what mummy and daddy are doing! No she dont she just feels the adrenaline!! H dont understand that so he is always reluctant to have sex. To be fair my sex drive has gone mad since being pregnant and his has drop-yet before we were more compable.

I'm not one for being on top but if thats better for you but your OH doesnt like to see your bump then maybe try facing the other way? I know thats what my OH wants but I cant. Like your OH he doesnt like to see my bump as it makes him uneasy with the sex thing. The only time we have sex now is in the morning coz he hasnt had time to think about the baby, whereas in the day or evening all he sees is my belly.

Your not alone but they dont understand.

Take care

Zoe and 36wks + 1day pink bump

xx