hi, i had my little one a month ago tomorrow and had to have an emergency caesarean because he was side on and got stuck in the birth canal. it was a bit traumatic and i've been really emotional and teary for this past month, although its getting better now. I really wanted a natural birth and when he was born we had to go straight back to the hospital for two nights as he had high levels of jaundice and needed a dose of phototherapy, the docs said this was because his blood had reacted with mine as i'm rhesus negative. Because of this he was really sleepy and falling asleep on my breast while feeding and became dehydrated and i didn't end up producing enough milk as there wasn't enough demand. I know this is ridiculous but just kept thinking, 'can i do anything right?' i can't even feed him properly, nothing went to plan and it's left me feeling a bit useless, silly i know as these things happen. Now i've read an article in mother & baby mag this month and it says some hospitals don't even allow you to try for a normal delivery after a c-section because your scar could rupture. I'd be gutted if i couldn't at least try again. And i know this may sound contradictory but i would also feel nervous that if i did go for a normal birth the baby would get stuck again as a health worker who came to talk to me after the birth said that it might have been the shape of my pelvis that caused the problem. I know i don't really need to think of my next birth just yet! but it's just on my mind and just feeling totally paranoid at the mo.

Anne-Marie & Zac

Hi, I just had to reply to your message. I have three lovely children and each birth was very different. My first was a horrible experience due to circumstances - my father suffered a heart attack and I was 8 1/2 moths preg, I went into labour at the end of his funeral and was not mentally fit for childbirth. I had an emergency c/section after a long labour, so I thought next time would be the one. 20 months later my second child was about to be born, half the labour time, all ready for birth and the doctor decided she needed to take a blood sample from the baby's head, slipped and cut her head badly, she reversed and went breach - another emergency c/section! I was so upset, I felt the birth had been taken from me and actually swore at the doctor (how bad is that!). Anyway third time lucky - I had my next child again 20 months later and 1 1/2 labour, biggest baby so far 9lb 1oz and all arrived safe and well with totally natural birth. I had a great team in the hospital that supported my wishes for a natural birth. I agreed that if there was any medical reason that they should intervene then so be it it, but there was no need - I was fully aware of the dangers and was monitored by the hospital and midwife through the last weeks, and because I felt safe I was relaxed and calm and couldn't of wished for more. Sorry to have such a long message but it is possible, but if it doesn't happen its not a problem either - the most important thing is that you are safe and you bring your child into the world safely aswell. So what if they come out the sun roof, a had a sister in law say to me after the first c/s 'what couldn't you hack child birth' Other peoples comments can hurt, but this is your body, you do what feels right.

It Is Posible That You Can Have A Normal Birth After But My Son Was A Caesarean Baby, But We Had Deeper Issues He Is Now Surverly Disbale But No Worries, I Had A Daughter After I Booked Her In For A C-Section But The Birth Was Long And Qwite Painful, I Do Sugest You Take A Vist To Your GP Befor You Become Pregant Again =]

Hope I Helped
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hi Anne-Marie!

so sorry to hear your problems, but you are not alone!! my first was an emergancie c-section after she got stuck in my hip! it was a very stressful and emotional blow to me as you know. but all is not lost i sussefully delievered my 2nd girl 2 years ago by a natural delievery so yes it is possible to deliever again! you will be refured to a specialist Dr who will moniter you bumps progress towards the end of pregnancy for any abnormal stretches or tares, but if all goes to plan you should be able to deliver. but the emotion that comes with it is again quite a task! the endless thoughts of will she get stuck again, will i encur more problems this time? but my problems where soon joy as she was a perfect delivery. no problems. i think it was down to the shear determination that i was going to do it properly this time!! i never sat down the whole time i was in labour all i did was walk walk walk. i told them what i wanted and was strong and positive through out and that is the key!! i just hope i have the same this time round with no 3!! its a boy so who knows!! keep your head up and just put theses times down to experience and motherhood!!

love nai 26 weeks with #3

Hi
I'm sorry to hear you about the difficult time you had in birthing your baby. I too am hoping for a natural birth and can empathise with how hard it must be to have that taken away from you....but at the end of the day it was totally out with your control. I hope things are picking up for you and your baby boy now x
I have a close friend who had quite a traumatic birth with her first daughter - baby was back to back and they never told her til she was advanced in labour. It was very stressful and in the end she had an emergency section. She then went on to give birth easily and naturally to her second daughter 2 1/2 yrs later. The MW's were astounded that she had had such a difficult time birthing her first when the second was a breeze. My friend puts this down to having better knowledge and confidence in her second. She refused any ideas of being booked in for a section as standard, and for induction. Instead she let nature take it's course. She maintains that if she had been told her first daughter was back to back she may have been able to do something about it and not had the same trauma.
Lots of people go on to birth naturally after a c-section. Every pregnancy and birth is unique so just put this one down to a tough learning experience and dont fret about the next time just yet. Enjoy bonding with the baby you have now
lots of love to you both x

for your answers girls, they've made me feel a bit more positive now

Anne-Marie & Zac