hi, im sorry for the subject but im getting worried now,my little one is 14 weeks now and im still not in the mood hubby says he understands but i dont think he can wait anymore.
im just so tired all the time im constantly thinking ive got this and that to do is it just me but i have this list in my head where im planning my day and unfortunately hubby and sex aint there.
it sounds bad i love hubby to pieces and i want to but im always thiking of other stuff.

aaaarrrrggghhh
help how long does it normally take

karen
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Me and OH had decided to wait a while before experimenting again but Ihave tosay last night we sort of got caught up in the moment and one thing led to another. I've never had a high sex drive but since having Ellie it seems to have heightened!!!

Anyway Ellie is only 16days old, I think you just have to take each day as it comes and try not to focus on it and ask hubby not to mention it. You may find that will help and then it may just happen when your not expecting it or planning it!!

Zoe and 16day old Ellie

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You're baby was 15 days old yesterday and you had sex last night!!!! You're the bravest women I know. Were you not scared? Or even too tired looking after Ellie? For at least 8 weeks I felt like I'd had a severe kicking downstairs not to mention feeling like I could of housed a family up there. I found that every baby I've had (4) it's taken longer and longer to have sex but I take my hat off to you and I'll be making sure my husband never sees a post where women are happy to have sex again so soon lol.
PS - Hope you were protected as I'm currently 32 wk preg and have 42 wk old baby

Jen and no 5

hi its upto you when you have sex and if your not interested...well he has a hand lol.
I know wot u mean about him feeling fed up though. All ppl r diff and sum want it soon others dnt, i had the urge for sex 3 weeks after i had mine and shes only 5 week now. I only bled for a week and i was back to normal between 2-3 week.

good luck
brooke and olivia x

"Date night "

Hey, this is my 1st baby Karen..but listening to my friends who have had babies and they really didnt feel in the mood or have the energy for sex for a while after. One of my friends made a conscious effort with hubby and set a date night aside, every couple of weeks, got baby down to her mums, got takeaway in and a bottle of wine..chilled out - set the scene so to speak. You could try something like that? Also, I love lists and they are a great idea to freeing up the space in the brain!

Good luck! Sharon 22+3wk bump xx

if not then it wont hurt him to run the hoover round and give the house a flick over with the duster!

i am just starting to get ben into a bit of a routine (he is 6 weeks) especially nap times during the day when i rush around like a mad woman to get things done!! find that writing a target for the day helps ad making it realistic, this helps me sleep at night for some reason, this way i am not too tired in the morning!

i also get the shopping done one evening so it is one less thing to do at the weekend!!

fyi (tmi coming up) i have found sex wwwaaaaaaaaaayyyyy better than before i had a baby!!!!!

tina & ben x

hi chicky, i totally relate to you, Emilie is nearly 21 weeks and its only in the last couple of weeks that i actually felt like doing it. it took four months to heal from my stitches and the thought of having sex scared me to death incase i did any further damage. we did do it after 4 months but it was a quick 5 mins and not much fun. it doesn't help that we're back to using bloody condoms which i hate and we havn't used for years but because im still breastfeeding i could only have the min pill and i found it rubbish!
by the time we went to bed i didn't want to waste valuable sleep time!
try during the day at weekend...lock the door, put baby in a bouncy chair facing the tv and have a cuddle on the sofa, once you get all cuddled up you never know what might hapen!
dont get stressed though...the more you think about it the more you'll stress!
(little tip, invest in some lubricant so you dont get sore) i can honestly say now i've started to get back into it i enjoy it more than before!
good luck hun xxx

of everything you need to do, stick it on the fridge and tick stuff off as its done. Can he help you with stuff so you can get it done quicker and have more time together? Could someone have little one for you one evening then you could have a relaxing meal and a bath and get in the mood? Or just get intimate kissing, etc if youre not up for the full works!
I know its all easier said than done though, good luck

Anne-Marie & Zac 8 weeks