hi i hope u dont mind me leaving a message for you. i was just replying to the girl who is scared to do her own test and is waiting for a scan and i seen your answer. it says you have had 2 miscarriges and an eptopic. i had a miscarrige 2 and a half year ago and then an eptopic at xmas. ive just split with my husband as since xmas hes been an arse and blamed me for me bein eptopic he says im f***** up and that women carry babys all the time and whats wrong with me. anyway just after he left i found out im preg i will be 7 weeks on friday but im absolutely terrified. ive had scans which showed a strong heartbeat and everythings in the right place but boy im so nervous ive had to go to the doctors as everytime i get a twinge i was taking a panic attack. im kinda calm now but i feel utterly alone. my mum wants me 2 abort. no chance. so i dont have my family or my husband thank god ive got my frienda though. xxx suzy

hi ladies,

i'm 8 weeks pregnant today and am panicking about losing my baby big time. i haven't been this bad so far so i've no idea why i am today but i want this baby so much as i'm sure all of us here do (want their own i mean) and am constantly praying that he/she is kept safe.

i still have nausea, tiredness, cramps, no appetite which should indicate that i'm still pregnant but i just feel like i need some reassurance! the only proof i have is the doctor's positive pregnancy test i took a couple of weeks ago and although he's referred me to guy's and st thomas's hospital for an early scan they haven't called me yet with a date! I'm too scared to do a home test in case it comes out negative.

is anyone else freaking out at this early stage and can i justify it??

Laura x

Hi there.
take a deep breath and calm down im in the same boat and ok so maybe i have a cheek as im terrified as well. im about 6-7 weeks gone and my last preg at xmas was eptopic which nearly killed me. the only reason why ive had scans so early this time was to check that i wasnt eptopic again, but everythings fine and in the right place, but im terrified i cant loose another baby, i couldnt cope, im so desperate as i been trying with my husband for 3 and a half years, but ive just split up with my husband over the stress of trying for a baby and found out once he had left that im already bloody pregnant. its unbeleivable but i refuse to take him back as hes been so nasty. anyway enough about me. please calm down and take a deep breath. the doctors confirmed it so go on if u want and do a test. ive done 7 and i still keep doing them just to check incase its a dream. the fact that your sick etc lets you know right away that its strong. im sick morning noon and night but its great as i know its for a reason. i was told last week that i had lost my baby but i had a scan 3 days later which showed a very strong heartbeat, but i was worried as ive had quite a lot of spotting. i had my first child when i was 18 and he will be 8 in november. things have changed alot since then i feel like this is my first again. so go on girl!!! take the bull by the horns and buy a multipack of tests and u can squeel with delight at every positive. if i can do this then so can you.
if u do me a favour and stay strong then i will take my own advice 2!!! lots of love and take care. hope to hear back. suzy

thanks for the reply, i had a scan at my local early pregnancy unit as i needed peace of mind, it really helped and was so amazing seeing the tiny little baby sleeping inside me with his heart beating away really fast!

the only thing is that now, i'm either 11 or 12 weeks today and i feel scared again! i think it's because i keep hearing these awful stories about women who have had missed miscarriages - i had never even heard of these before i got pregnant. so anyway i have my scan in exactly a week and literally cannot wait, it's torture.

sorry to hear about your previous pregnancy problems and about your husband. do you think you will patch things up? i'm a single mum-to-be and have the usual concerns but i think i will do just fine without the father interfering and stressing me out.

Laura x

hi laura,
how you feeling???

i know what your feeling,,,i had a missed mc in january and found out last week that im pregnant!! i want so so much to jump up and down but i just cant!!! i have not bought myself to even go to the dr!!!! i took another test this morning also positive!!! its 2 months since my last period...my hospital say you can just drop into the Early preg unit if your really worried.your dr should be able to get you a scan be persistant or call the hosptal yourself..
i can tell you that with my first child i worried all the way till he was born, i too prayed every day( im not really religiuos) so dont worry i would say its normal to worry your a mum!!!!!
lots of love xxx

Hi Laura,
I know exactly how you feel!! I am now 6+6, and am in total panic!!!
I have already had 2 mc's, and an ectopic, so I'm soooo worried I will loose this baby!!!
I do not understand why your dr didn't call the hospital and make an early pregnancy scan appointment on the phone!! I had one at 6+1 (waited to be 6 weeks), and my GP called my local EPU at lunch time, and I went at 8am the following morning for the scan!! Has your GP booked you in for a dating scan (which happens at about 12 weeks), and not an early scan???
I wish you the best of luck with everything, and try to relax (which is so much easier said than done)!!!! Fingers crossed!!!
Janice
x.

hi i hope u dont mind me leaving a message for you. i was just replying to the girl who is scared to do her own test and is waiting for a scan and i seen your answer. it says you have had 2 miscarriges and an eptopic. i had a miscarrige 2 and a half year ago and then an eptopic at xmas. ive just split with my husband as since xmas hes been an arse and blamed me for me bein eptopic he says im f***** up and that women carry babys all the time and whats wrong with me. anyway just after he left i found out im preg i will be 7 weeks on friday but im absolutely terrified. ive had scans which showed a strong heartbeat and everythings in the right place but boy im so nervous ive had to go to the doctors as everytime i get a twinge i was taking a panic attack. im kinda calm now but i feel utterly alone. my mum wants me 2 abort. no chance. so i dont have my family or my husband thank god ive got my frienda though. xxx suzy

hi janice,

good to know i'm not the only one! sorry for your previous losses, it sounds like you've been through hell and back.

you probably got an early scan because of the previous problems. my doctor had to send off a referral form to the hospital who then call me to give me an appointment...

i've just got off the phone to them and they've lost the fax my doc sent them and said it takes 10 days just to be given an appointment so i'm looking at at least 2-3 weeks for the scan! i said that defeats the object of my doctor wanting me to have an early scan and she said that it will be early?! some people are so unhelpful! i'm thinking about going private as i can't wait that long!

good luck with your pregnancy, keep us updated on the progress xxx