I'm most definetely not judging, but I've noticed that so many folk on the forum know what sex their baby is and I'm wondering what motivates you to find out and if you feel you miss out on a lovely surprise? I'd love to find out out of sheer nosiness but I've never asked with any the 5, not even at 3d scan when I asked not to film genitals. Why so keen to find out before birth?

Hope everyone's well

Jen 33 + 6 with no 5 xx

I just wanted to..for no particular reason.
I just wanted to know what we were having and Hubby was the same. We are in our 30's, this is our 1st and I had been told that I couldnt have kids..well maybe that has some thing to do with it, but we have waited a long time for this, so maybe if I was a teen or a 20 some thing perhapes things would be different...whos knows?

Hugs
Mrs Moo xx
25+2wks and its a boy by the way.

Although I can see the attraction of being able to have a name and all the clothes ready I really wanted the surprise.
I've been surprised though how little baby stuff is neutral and unisex, a lot of things we've got are probably slightly more boy (a bit of light blue here and there). I'm not a big fan of all the pink frilly girly stuff anyway though so this suits me fine!
The one problem is we're still struggling for a boy's name although had no problem thinking of girls. If we'd found out the sex and it was a boy it would have given us an extra 20 weeks to come up with something good!

because OH family haven't had a girl for 7 generations and were convinced we were having a boy, his family had sort of brainwashed him into thinking he'd only ever produce a boy. Although we had chosen a name for a boy we still found out just so he wasnt shocked at the birth if we were to have a girl.

At our 20wk scan we asked and was told we were in fact having a GIRL!!!!!!! Both were over the moon but it did take a few days for him to realise that it can happen. So we did it purely and simply to put his mind at rest. His family still was convinced until Ellie was born.

Zoe and Ellie Dawn (3wks and 6days)

but a friend of a friend lost her baby at just over 6 months, she was stillborn. Thay had bought Everything for her and had chosen a name. It really scared us (it happened a day after our 12 weeks scan) so we decided to wait until our baby was born and had fun on bets - everyone said a girl cos I was carrying high but I had a beautiful little boy and I'll always remember the midwife holding him up to me and saying "what have you got Mum?", Looked at my OH and said its a boy and he cried...Bless. Will not be finding out on any more we have.

Good luck

Ellie and Kieran

on this one simply because im going on holiday a few days after im due and i wanted to get all the clothes etc ready for when we go and also at home, hubby was chuffed to bits anyway as were having a boy after 2 girls so the house wont be quite so one sided now lol

I didnt find out with the 1st, 2nd or 3rd pregnancy but just felt that I needed to know on the 4th and also with this one. I must admit I do prefer not to know. Its the best surprise in the world. If I was to have another one after this one then I dont think that I would find out the sex.

I agree with you saying that so many people find out nowadays.

Take care

Sarah

I didn't find out the sex of my baby, and I am so glad we waited for the suprise, although OH really wanted to find out!! If we have any more, we won't be finding out the sex with those pregnanies either!
We painted the nursery neutral, and got some lovely neutral clothes too, and as soon as we announced the birth of our baby girl we were bombarded with girly things, so much that I don't think the clothes we had bought got much wear at all!
...Oh, and I loved guessing and taking other peoples guesses too. My OH's Mum and Aunt put bets on, ha ha, the Aunt won!

Take Care, Hope everyones pregnanies are going well.

Rachael & Eleanor (8 weeks, 1 day old)
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Well me and OH always said that we would never find out the babys sex, we didnt think it was right to know, but then when i became pregnant, the further along i got i totally convinced myself we were having a boy. I wouldnt look at girls things as i was so sure. Anyhow thats why we finally decided to find out, more for confirmation really. I didnt want to go through the rest of the pregnancy bonding with our soon to be son and finding out in actual fact that he was a daughter.

Anyhow had the scan and yes I was right all along, a boy, wasnt even a surprise when she told us at the scan.

Hope everythings going ok with your pregnancy, not long left for you now before you know whether you have a son or daughter.

Tc, Lu & 23wk Blue Piglet
xxxx

"To get organised "

Hey Jen...DH wasnt sure if he wanted to know...but I have always said that I would like to know the sex of baby so I can get organised and buy bits and pieces. Its not even the painting of the babys room, as its in nutural colours, but its the buying wee outfits that I want to know for. Also to bond better with baby in the womb...prepare myself for my little girl. I am not one for surprises at the best of times...what if me/DH had our heart set on a wee boy and a girl came out...naaa I would prefer to be prepared. Names too are a nightmare for me...now that I think I am having a girl...I can concentrate on girl names...pick a couple and when I hold my baby girl I can decide then which one suits her best. So I think its a personal choice finding out. Also a bit of noseyness coming through in me!lol
tc Sharon 24+2wk pink bump xx

me and OH have decided we would like to know at 20 week scan if possible after much deliberation. Was really tempted to save the surprise, like the idea of that 'it's a boy/girl' moment at the birth but our decision was based on two things. It's my first (hubby has 2 kids from first marriage) and I'm still struggling to believe I'm actually gonna be a mom so knowing what we're having kind of makes it easier to feel connected before he/she arrives if that makes sense. Also it just makes it easier to know what to buy, we're on a tight budget and buying pink/blue to start with makes more sense financially, can't afford to buy neutral and then splash out after baby's born. I don't like to be unprepared either so want as much shopping done beforehand as possible, don't like the idea of not buying much til after the birth and then having it all to do afterwards. Hope that sheds some light, think everyone's different really but that's my reasoning anyway! Hope you're well,

love,
Clare 14+3 xxx