Hi girls,

I'm on a few months pregnant but I'm so pleased and have been ecstatic until last night. I cried myself to sleep and woke up crying and i'm so tearful today. I think the shock has worn off. Now i've cme bk down to earth with a bang. Me and my partner were at a bad stage but I pushed it to one side. Now i'm scared things are going to get worse between us and i'll be in a relationship where I'm not happy and i'll have a baby so it will be harder to seperate.

Any advice agony aunts????

During the first 3 or 4 months of my pregnancy I thought I was going mad! really nuts!
I was really happy about being pregnant but I was going to bed crying alot and very very moody! Im sure it was awful for my partner, We argued alot at the start and I thought that maybe we wouldnt get through it either! Its just your hormones are all over the place, I found that after these first few months that things settled down alot and now im just really excited, Still a few tears now and again but nothing compared to what I was like at the start. Very Happy now! Both of us! Cant wait! It feels like its never going to end but It will!
Take care xxx

It is very easy for it to get worse between you - you need to talk to him and try to fix it - if you ignore it, the added stresses & strains of pregnancy & baby are almost guaranteed to create even more problems.

So try not ignore the problems or hope they will go away - they won't. You might be able to fix them now, or manage them - ignored they will probably just get bigger.

GOOD LUCK!

Just have to let you know, that you are so not alone. I cry every day. I can't sleep because of all my worries, my guilt, my fears. Most days I'm a wreck, and since about last week i haven't been enjoying my pregnancy how i should be. I know you're going through a seimilar situation, so if you need to talk i'm here, coz i DEFINITELY know what you're going through, and i know how rough it is sometimes.. I feel like a mental woman half the time! lol Unfortunately i can't give any advice to you about the crying and that, coz it's just a natural thing, but one of the girlies is right in sayin try not to go mental at your partner and explain to him how you're feeling at the mo, hopefully it will help... Momtobe x

Ah bless ya I just wanna hug ya. I know what ya sayin though. I keep asking myself everyday how on earth did I get in this situation. And what am I gonna do. As you can relate!!

Sarah xxx

you must understand that during pregnancy ur hormones go completely crazy.. you can be happy one minute and in tears the next and thats just the way it goes... i wouldnt recommend ignoring the issues with ur partner but trying to patch them up BEFORE the baby arrives as that will put a lot more strain and pressure on the pair of u and u will be lucky to find the time to sit and talk, a baby wont patch things up for u both either so try and sit and chat now, very difficult with hormones going crazy but do ur best. good luck

I've tried to explain things to him I really have. Way before I copped out but it's just a friggin nightmare. I swear he's an emotional retard. Bless him I love him to bits but I'm so frusterated with him at the minute. Right here's the story girls.

One day lol!!! We've been together since last June. Not long I know!! We were all over each other all the time sex like 5-6 times a day. And I'm aware of the honey moon period. It went from that to Once a week which is barable I suppose then I fell Preggers last July thanks to Antibiotics then I found out a wk before I miscarried. And he was gutted bless him as was I but I felt I had to be strong for him. Then things kind of got bk to normal but he didn't want sex after that because he said he couldn't go thru that again which I understand. Then it was every excuse in the book not to have sex. And when we tried he couldn't get an erection??? How bad did I feel? Then he could get an erection only thru anal sex I know digusting but I was desperate to turn him on. He still can't keep his erection and I don't do Anal sex anymore. I just feel so crap and unloved. I know he loves me but I think it's just like companionship really. There's no sex or intimacy. He's very affectionate but it's like having a best friend live with me. I'm highly sexed anyway and so was he. I feel I just don't do it for him anymore. I know i'm being a drama queen
but I can't help how I feel. Help!!!

Sarah xxx

You will get more of these 'crazy moments' it is good that you have recognised that your feelings have heightened. Keep tabs on this for the future. He will use your'mad' behaviour as an excuse to leave so don't give him that excuse if you want to keep him..but do you? What are your support systems like? Do you have a Mum, sister, friends etc who you can talk-to? Even if you do ...your sisters are here too!Please don't expect him to understand how you feel,he won't know (like a girl does)how to support you.. just ask him to accept you are going through a lot, and will be for the next uhm 18 years,(second thoughts tell him'quite a while) and it won't be easy to help you, but for him just to listen and hug you lots would be great. Telling you about the good things and giving you stuff to look forward-to is also helpful. What was wrong before? You are going to need calm secure stability around you...can he give you that? Men just need to know what you need..they are not mind readers we have to help them - they are hint-immune. If you talk to him come form the 'I am feeling all emotional..don't acuse or criticise him--or you'll have a fight.
If you give us a few issues , maybe we can advise you a bit more accurately?
All the best for now and remember you are not alone..we are here
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