so sorry to hear what's been happening to you. I know it must seem like there are no answers at the moment but there is no immediate rush for you to decide what to do. Will your mum really be mad at you or will she come round? What kind of relationship do you have with her? It's times like this that we really need our mums to help us work out what to do and even if she is initially angry and shocked she might come round, mum's are usually quite good at knowing the right thing to do. If you don't get along so well with your mum, do you have a person who's opinion you can trust? Your head must be spinning at the moment and you just need to be gentle with yourself and give yourself time.

Take care sweetie and i know it doesn't feel like it at the moment but things will work out the way they're supposed to x x x

im 7+6wks pregnant and yesterday my boyfriend split up with me and he's moving out tomorrow.

it's come as a bit of a shock, he says our relationship hasn't been right for months and he didn't tell me because he said if it was 'mean't to be' then it would have sorted itself out. but i wasn't even aware anything was wrong?! if there was something wrong he shouldn't have moved into a new flat with me and he should have kept it in his trousers!

he says hes not ready to have a family but if i decide to have the baby then he wants to be involved, he just doesn't 'want' me.

now im in a predicament, im only 19 and my mom is going to be so mad when she finds out. I never wanted this for my child but which is better, live a life like that or not live at all? im not selfish i just dont know whether im coming or going and i don't know what to expect. Ihave so many people saying different things 2 me.

what do i do?

ashleigh

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Hello Ashleigh,

I was in the same situation when my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks. we were both absolutely devastated, not to mention terrified. we are both 20 years old, although he was 19 when we found out.
At first, his initial reaction was anger then fear though he said he will support me in whatever I decide to do after blaming me for getting pregnant! we were considering our options and abortion was 1 of them. we both couldnt face telling our parents. His family are very religious and this sort of thing is unacceptable.
So I visited an abortion clinic for advice, made an appointment and when it came down to it couldnt face goin. I made another appoitment to give me time to play with and eventually my boyfrend and I fell out when the date got closer. We both knew it was wrong and my morals wer tellin me not to do it. I saw more positives in having th baby than terminating it. My boyfrend was not happy. I broke down in tears and he told me to leave his house. I left feelin utterly alone and foned dad as I wasnt thinkin strait and knew he wood move heaven and earth to be ther for me. He instantly knew something was wrong and demanded to know what had happend. He was so supportive and I regret not telling my famlee sooner now. My dad informed my partners parents and they wer very distant and made my Bf feel ashamed. We split up for 3 months of my pregnancy and I was very reluctant to let him bak in, but realised he was just scared of becomin a daddy. I am now 27 weeks and we are bak together and looking forward to becomin parents
Dont worry, ashleigh. Your boyfrend will just need time adapting to the idea but hes sure to be ther for u in the end. and if he isnt, you have your mother and thats all a person needs in life. Th support of ther parents
Hope everyfin works out, keep in touch and let us know how things go
Siobhan xx

for all your kind words and advice and encouragement. i feel more positive about stuff now, my world may have fallen down all around me but i have the chance to start again with my beautiful baby.

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You're very welcome, we all feel for you.

Glad you're feeling more positive today, the only two people who matter in all of this are you and the bump.

Take care and keep us posted.

Misschiefy & Girly Bump xx

"That's good "

Glad you are feeling more positive now.

Take care

Rach xx

I'm really sorry you're having such a tough time of it. It sounds like you might be better off without him, at least for the time being. But you and the bump deserve better than this.

I'm sure things will be fine with your Mum, she won't be mad at you. How could she be, if there's been no problems previously. Perhaps he's got cold feet, and he might realise what he's done and come running back to you. And then its up to you where you go from here.

You're not being selfish at all, your head must be all over the place. Take some time to think things through. Listen to the pros and cons from the advice of those close to you. You'll make the right decision for you, just trust in yourself.

Take care

Misschiefy & Girly Bump (35wks+4) xx

so sorry to hear what's been happening to you. I know it must seem like there are no answers at the moment but there is no immediate rush for you to decide what to do. Will your mum really be mad at you or will she come round? What kind of relationship do you have with her? It's times like this that we really need our mums to help us work out what to do and even if she is initially angry and shocked she might come round, mum's are usually quite good at knowing the right thing to do. If you don't get along so well with your mum, do you have a person who's opinion you can trust? Your head must be spinning at the moment and you just need to be gentle with yourself and give yourself time.

Take care sweetie and i know it doesn't feel like it at the moment but things will work out the way they're supposed to x x x

lots of my friends and family know. and i was so excited cos i didnt no there was anything wrong. now i feel stupid.

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You weren't to know, its not your fault you have been let down!! Have you got plenty of people to support you?

Rach xx

his mom has been really good 2 me and his nan and aunty have told me that my baby will always be a part of their family and they r really disgusted with him and what he has done. im sure people will be there but it just comes down to the fact that some people are going to tell me im throwing my life away i.e. my mom. i think i would be more disgusted with myself if i didnt give this baby a chance at life, after all this is my own flesh and blood, its my baby and i cant hurt it.

Its good that you have some good support and you need to make sure you do what you want. Remember it's your life not anyone elses. What do you want to do?

Rach xx

i want my baby. its my own flesh and blood and its not the baby's fault that all this has happened, as long as people are there to fuss and love my baby, that's all that matters to me.

i just never wanted to be doing this on my own, at 19.

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You should stick to what you want. If you have people around you to support you then you can do it. Remember we are all here if you need to talk or rant about anything!

Rach xx

im so sorry to hear what has happened.

at the end of the day hun its your decision-you have to do what you think is right as its your life, your mum might not be impressed at first but im sure she wont fall out with you over it.

i was only 19 when i got pregnant with my twins and i couldnt of cared less what anyone thought-and they all knew that which was why no one said anything!lol granted i did have the help of my partner and we are still together now.

you wont be the only person to bring up a baby alone and you wont be the last

rachx
9 weeks

Hiya hun, thats awful I'm so sorry to hear that. Have you told anyone else you are pregnant?

Rach xx 17wk+3