i was just sitting and wondering bout the birth and then i thought about hu i'd want there..

I want it to be jus me and OH cuz its going to be the start of our family but then id also like my mum and my sis and best m8 wiv me so now im stumped. plus do you think that having that many people plus m/w would make it more stressful and maybe a little overboard..

This is what happens when u have too much free time on ur hands ladies.lol

i know OH will be wonderful and it would be so special if it was jus us but then wont i need some women around?

so who did you have with you and who do you think i shud have, is it a good idea not to have mum and sis and mate and jus hubby?

Ash 31+5 weeks dayyan bump.

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when i had finlay there was just me, my oh and a midwife which was plenty! Even they were annoying me telling me to breathe and stuff (although they were only trying to help)!

Its up to you..i find the more people that are there, the more fuss they make and the more they annoy you! so i m defo just havin me and oh again next time!

take care xxx

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Hi everyone thanx 4 all ur replies, im having a home birth so im allowed as many as i like with me.

but..i discussed with deen(the OH) last night and he said that if i was happy with it he would like it to be jus us aswell so i thought id go with that - told mum - who was a bit disappointed but understood. i am going to keep her on 'stand by' if deen faints on me.lol

sis and mate will be waiting by their fones aswell in case i call them over..cant wait to do it now. wana meet my little so much!

Ash 31+6 week dayyan bump - feeling absolutely huge today!

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hubby and mum on my first sister and hubby on my 2nd and no one on my 3rd as it was only 2 minutes and everyone missed it lol you best check how many labour partners your allowed at your hospital but have who you think would be best at supporting you xx

my mum there as well as my OH, though i don't know if she'll be visiting at the time. Mum's always a calming presence and is a trained hypno/acupressure/massage therapist to boot, so is quite a useful person to have around! i'm also a trained hypno/acupressure therapist, but i'll be busy :P

take care
elizabeth xxx
14+3wks

I had my mum and hubby when i had my 1st and 2nd babies then Mum baby sat while i had the 3rd and 4th and hubby and I really missed having her there,
she was the one reminding me to push and bear down, while hubby held me and took the tons of abuse i heaped on him,

I would love to have her there for this one as well as Jas but i have no one else to look after the babies and i dont want Jas to miss it, so im hoping i have another amazing MW, like i did with Harry.

But it does so depend on how well your OH copes with stressful situations and how well you get on with your mum/sister/best friend.
they only normally allow no more than 2 people to be present otherwise it can get a bit overwhelming and overcrowded.

good luck picking
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please! I dont think im going to tell my mum when im going in until births over, shes sooooooo over protective and such a worrier shed want to be there but i just want it to be me and OH, if he can handle it! I dont think hell be put off, he watches all those home birth stories etc on TV and theres me closing eyes and grimacing, and he's transfixed! might be different when its real life mind you and happening in front of him, but i cant help but think hell be so excited. I just dont think hes going to like seeing me in pain hes a worrier as well.

I just want my OH there when the time comes! I don't think I would have the patience to put up with anyone else there!! Lol.

Rach xx + 20wk+6 very lively bump!

i had my hubby and my mum with me, hubby was a bit pathetic with my first birth he just didnt know what to do coz im a right stroppy ... my mum knows how to handle me when i get stressed so for the 2nd and 3rd births she was with me, although hubby suprised me this time and he was great. practice makes perfect. lol

emma + 4 week baby sapphire

I'm just going to have my OH there with me!!

I thinks others in the room would make me stressed, and I'm not sure others whould like to hear my vocab if I'm in pain!!! LOL!!!

You could always get someone on 'stand by' just in case OH is no good!?!

Take care,

Janice and 21+4 week Lydia bump
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to have my OH with me at the birth. Hoping he'll be able to cope, if not I've told him I'll send him out of the room and deal with it myself! I'm not joking, I mean it!! Its apparently the "in thing" to have 2 birth partners, according to my midwives. So it might be nice to have either your mum (as she's been through it before!) or your sister with you too. I love my mum to pieces, but I think she might get on my nerves if I had her with me too! Then I'd just end up more stressed than when I started!

I know what you mean about having too much time to think! I'm trying to keep active at the moment to give the bump some encouragement to come out NOW! It doesn't seem to be working though!!

Take care

Misschiefy & Girly Bump (38wks+5) xx

my entire house is spotless even tho my back is killing me ive been cleaning like a freak because i wana keep bizi, was planning on attacking the garden to day but the weather stopped me so now im stuck inside which is giving me time to think stupid thoughts.lol

Fingers crossed for you huni, hope the little one makes her appearance soon. wish i was u so close to ur due date - the waiting is so boring!

I just had Mark there, until I had to have a section, then he called my mum and dad who came. It was nice in one way but they were pretty stressed out and my Dad struggled visibly to see me in pain, whereas mum hid it. I missed out on just me and Mark being together tho, apart from in the theatre obviously, but it was nice they got to see we were both ok.

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I am from the ttc side but i already have a daughter who is 19 months old. We have already had the convo about who is going to be there the 2nd time round & i haven't even got my BFP yet! & it will only be OH.
At my little girls birth i said just my OH & he agreed but my mum who got impatient after waiting 42 hours for any news took it upon herself to come up & walk in just as I was having my epidrual. This rightly so peed of the OH so she stayed about 20 mins & took her cue to leave when she saw i did not feel comfortable with her new husband being in the room & daggers from oh as we had made it clear from about 8 weeks we wanted it to be just us.(47 hours in the end & just us, very special)

TC
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I had just my husband and it will be the same this time.

For me, it was such a personal thing - us becoming a family, that there was no way I wanted other people there. It was about Rob and I and our baby and no one else! Once Oliver was born the midwives left us alone for a little while, just us and our baby, and it was amazing.

I think that other people there would have stressed me out and my mum in particular, I would probably have jumped off the bed and strangled.

I am not sure you really do the fellow female solidarity as you do have your midwife and they have usually been through it themselves - I have to say, mine were absolutely fantastic.

I do know people that have had their mums there, but it is definitely not for me.

Good luck!
Kelly, Oliver 6 months and 6 week bean!
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with everyone else, just the OH in the room when I'm in labour/giving birth thank you, but each to there own.

Rachael & Eleanor (5months old)
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i thought u could only have 2 people in anyways..?

I am having mum and partner so that he there for me to scream at and my mum to make me feel safe and ok - i think if she werent there then i would think i was dying lol!!

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