letting the baby sleep with you in bed at night?

Elise was feeling a bit under the weather yesterday, was sick after her feeds twice and wouldn't settle all day unless she was being cuddled. So last night we decided to let her sleep in with us, just on the bottom sheet in between the pillows in her sleepsuit (she had more room them we did!). She woke up for her feeds but went straight back to sleep and we all laid in 'til 10am! She slept really well. Plus it was lovely to wake up and have the three of us together!

She's normally in her moses basket by my side of bed.

She's a bit better today but I was planning of letting her sleep in with us tonight too. Do any of you girls have your babies in with you?

This is probably a silly question and me being a twitchy Mummy again, but just had to ask!

Thanxs

Much love

Misschiefy & Elise (15 days old) xx

except Francis cos he's a fab wee sleeper and has only been in once which was at the weekend. I had him and Charlie in too so I had one eye open but they had colds and seemed to need to be close.

The other babies I brought in through desperation for a sleep and had them on my chest or I was breastfeeding half asleep.

I agree it's not great but any time I've had a baby in my bed there's something instinctive and you know they'll be ok with you.

The biggest problem I found was getting them back out again. Jude was in our bed thill the night before his 2nd birthday but I love to wake up to the special sweetness of a little ones breath on my face instead of a big sweaty snory one.

Jen x

we are one of the few countries that dont think this is the norm.

personally, ben used to come in with us to get to sleep in the arly days and he can now settle himself. most nights he sleeps 12-13 hours in his cot in his own oom without a problem but the odd night he will wake (usually around 5 ish) and usually cos he is teething or a bit chilly and i bring him in with us and we all snuggle up, i love it and its great to wake up and look at your baby smiling awy to you.

i think i have the best of both, an un-clingy baby (he sleeps at one of his grannies (3 of them) a couple of times a month) and the closeness of co-sleeping. couldnt do it all the time tho asme & oh dont sleep properly once he is in with us.

when finlay was first born we could not get him into a moses basket to save his life..for the first 2 weeks he slept either on my chest or my oh on the settee and then once he got used to his basket he would sleep in it (not for very long i might add) but atleast he was in there. We ve never really had the problem since then..he slept in with me a few weeks back as he was unwell but even then once he d settled i put him back into his cot..think the main thing was with us is that yes to settle him he came in with us but once he d calmed down and fallen back to sleep he would be put back into his cot.

i m not too keen personally on letting baby sleep with me mainly because i wriggle a lot when i am sleeping and i d hate for something to happen to him as a result. and when he does i cant sleep properly myself as i m frightened of rolling on him or something. And besides, i think you make a rod of your own back when you allow baby to sleep in with you all the time as my newphew has just turned two and will not sleep in his own bed and makes my sisters husband sleep on the settee as he does not want him there..needless to say he is extremely clingy to him mum, wont let her out of his sight and cries hysterically when he is left without her..whereas finn sleeps in his own cot in his own room (has done from 3 months), happily stays with people all the time and is only clingy towards me when he is tired! And the other one is six and we never had any trouble getting him to bed!

there is no right or wrong answer i think its all personal choice at the end of the day. Every so often is ok but you dont want to make a habit of it as one day she is going to be left on her own. I know i agree it is lovely when you wake up or are woken up in my case sometimes by baby (being hit across the face is a speciality of finns) and cuddling up at night but its better to tackle sleeping head on i think...you have to remember that you need your sleep too and i like to think that bedtime is a chance for you and your oh to cuddle up or whatever!lol

anway after this long post i shall shut up now!

tc xx

Its not something I'll do all the time, cos (and I don't mean this horribly) I don't want to make a rod for my own back! Just don't want it to become habit but if she's not feeling well, it will be a place of comfort for her to be with us.

Will pop her back in her moses basket tonight and see how we go.

Just wanted your thoughts on the subject, it seems like we've all done it when we've been desperate for our babies to settle and for them to get a good nights sleep (us too!)

When I was pregnant it was something I said I'd never do, perhaps Elise was listening and thought "I'll show you, Mum!" Haha!

But thanxs for your comments.

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but there were some nights when Kieran just wouldn't settle anywhere, but with me. I didn't sleep well when he was in bed with us, so kept it to a minimum. He slept in our bed maybe 7-8 times in the early days (so much easier to breastfeed)

He went from his moses basket to a cot at about 3 months, and was sleeping through from 4 months.

Co-sleeping is something I said I would never do, because of the risks they inform you of. But, when you are desperate for half an hours sleep and you risk not being able to cope due to the lack of sleep - you do anything!! I think it is something that many people don't admit to because it is so frowned upon and something very hard to comment on if you've never been in that situation.

Take care
Ellie, Kieran and 7 week bean
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is is not for me, I think in sounds like a lovely idea, sleeping close, especially for breast feeding mothers, but we didn't do it, Eleanor slept in a moses basket in our room for 5 weeks, then in her cot in our room and then in her own room in her own cot, and it's all been very smooth...I think I sleep far to heavily, despite the fact I do not smoke, I'm not on medication and so on I'd be worried I'd roll into Eleanor or something, I fidgit an awful lot in bed too, nice idea, but may cause complications with getting Elise into her own bed like the others say.

Rachael & Eleanor (almost 6 months old)
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we let Erin in the bed if she just would not settle, but I did not sleep well at all as I was worried. She is now in her cot and just comes in on a morning when we are awake. I have a friend with a 17 week old baby, and she has let her sleep in bed with them, not only that but on her chest since birth, needless to say she is struggling to get her into a cot now, and she has not slept herself properly since she was born, which to me is madness xx

co slept with my first daughter until she was 2 weeks old because i was breastfeeding on demand and she bearly slept to begin with then she went straight into her cot, my 2nd daughter had 3 nights in my bed then straight into a cot charlie went straight into a cot but has had 1 night in with me as he had a bad chest, im usually a huge wriggler but i tend to cat nap when bubs are in bed with me so i don't move and i used to seperate the bed off * its big enough lol* i think its fine in my book so long as you don;t do it alll the time as she will get used to it and you'll have a heck of a game trying to get her into her own bed xxx

i have to say

they can over heat, they should be under blankets not duvets and just the extra heat of being inbetween to other people.

also if one of you rolls over or pulls the duvet up to high near her face.

pillows are another no go of she is lying in a gap between your pillows her face could easily become covered.

others may disagree but thats just my opinion.

our son used to end up getting out of his bed in the night and getting in to ours and its easier just to let him get in than get out and put him back half a dozen times....but then you never you never end up with a good nights sleep as your always being woken up

he will be 4 in nov and its only the last few months we have kept putting him back and he also shares a room with his twin sister now and he seems to settle better.

all im saying is it might be easy now but it wont be when she gets to 4 and is still in your bed!!

my sisters lad is 7 and still ends up her bed!

rachx
16+4weeks

I take Harry into bed with me most mornings .. he sleeps in his cot through the night then wakes ar around 6am for a cuddle lol

According to my book you shouldnt let baby share your bed at night if ...

You smoke

You have been drinking alcohol

You have been taking medication that makes you drowsy

Baby was premature or low birth weight

Baby is less than 3 months old


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I wouldn't let my baby sleep with me in bed all night but sometimes I bring him into my bed in the mornings if he wakes up early. If I put the TV on he usually dozes off again and I can stay in bed an extra hour, although I don't really get back to sleep incase I squash him!! I put him in his own blankets though and not under my duvet so he doesn't get too hot.

Claire x x x

Ello how u and Elise..

Erm i don't really agree with young babies in the bed - personnel opion so don't let it phase ur own - im a wriggler in the bed and the amount of times i have heard my dog yelp when she comes in my bed i would be to scared to let the baby in the bed with me, I wouldnt be able to trust myself with her in the bed with me. Bless when it came to letting her back in the moses basket i wouldnt want to so i would get to attached to her being in bed with me, she will also get used to your surroundings and feel different back into her moses basket.

Hope i aint upset u in anyway just my personnel opion. i think its a 50/50 topic!

Had my antenatle classes yesterday - thought they were boring i liked the tour though and the whole thing did put me at ease - i didnt go to the sunday one though didnt see the point!

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hi there

My baby is 7 weeks old 2moro, i dont take him into bed with us at night but in the mornings i have started to take him in beside us as he refuses to go back to sleep after his 7-7.30 feed unless he's lying beside us, sometimes it works sometimes it dosent lol

carys came in our bed a few times last week when she was ill either that or her moses with her init was coming in our bed lol because of her breathing i had to have her right next to me i suppose its ok every now an then but dont let her get to used to as she will always be in with you an hard to get into her own cot later!
but if your happy to have her in there i wouldnt worry an like you say shes not under the quilt or anything.

tc shell x

my daughter sleeps in with me sometimes if im feeling extra tired or if shes got a cold. I find shes sleeps better this way and as long as you havn't been drinking and youre careful with the covers, its fine. I try not to do it too often though so she dosnt get too used to it and then wont sleep in her own bed.
Gemma and Leigha

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