Hi Girls!
I hope you all enjoy our sunny week end!!!
Thursday I had my 16 weeks appointment and I was really excited about it. But it was not what I was expecting at all. I saw the midwife 10 minutes, we heard the heart beat ( what was great!! of course) and she asked me if everything was ok which I replied yes in general, no major concers. All my blood test were ok.
And after that she said to me to make an appointment week 20 with the GP to check my heart and that the Gp will give me my next date to see the midwife....... So I don't have any clue them I will see her again! But she told me of course if something change or if I have some quesions I can call them....
I know my preganancy is low risk but it is my first one and I am not reassure at all. My husband keep saying to me that it is really good because everything is ok and goes easily but it is not enought for me!
What do you think????? Did you have that kind of situation???
I live in east london and there is lots of teenager pregnancy, and indian women who don't speak any english and have medical conditions so I have got the feeling that I am not a major problem and I shouldn't worry...... Perhaps I should try relaxation lesson!
Bonne fin de week end!

i m sorry you were disappointed by your midwife for not sharing your joy, but it's not fair you don't know your pregnancy shedule so here is a copy of mine:
- 12-14 weeks : booking visit
- 16-18 weeks : to collect notes
- 20-23 weeks : ultrasounds dept
- 24 weeks : gp/midwife
- 28-30 weeks : local hosp 4 blood test
- 30 weeks : gp/midwife
- 33 weeks : gp/midwife
- 34 weeks : local hosp 4 blood test
- 36 weeks : gp/midwife
- 38 weeks : gp/midwife
- 40 weeks : gp/idwife
- 41 weeks : hosp visit
I can't believe they actually didn't give you that list, well if u haven't already got it , hopr that helps
nat

i hope it will help her, i dont understand why they didnt give her !
In my case, i havent been to the hospital for the blood test, the midwife does it. I am in my 31 weeks and from now, i will see the midwife every 2 weeks cause she measures my tummy, she found that it is a bit bigger than the normal, and i might have a 3rd scan to redefine the due date.

Otherwise, how are you ? you are close now, arent you?

I think keeping calm is the key, I've 'been through' pregnancies with various friends and they've all been more or less fine. trut the doctors, they know what they're doing.

of trusting the doctors, cause of course, they know what they do. What we are saying is that GP and midwifes are so busy, they dont take time to speak really with you. an example ? i changed of surgery cause i was not happy with the one i was registered in, my midwife asked me why and as i started to tell her my reason, she started to write something on my file, i so realised that she wasnt listening to me and i stopped. She didnt notice, and ask me another question. I wanted to tell her something but what do you want to do, honestly ?? nothing !

Another case ? you go for an antenatal visit and the GP starts by saying that actually this visit is not necessary and that women in England are having more visits than what they really need. Do you think you can stay calm when you hear that ? IF you can, me i cant.

Hiya,

I was left feeling really bewildered when I first met my midwife. I don't know what I was expecting but I think I wanted someone to be excited for me as at the time I still hadn't told family and friends and felt quite lonely. However, I quickly realised that I am just another number in amongst all the pregnant ladies she will see each day and how busy she is but still .... this is my first, and all new to me. A little reassurance would help. Since then I have seen her twice and each time she is pleasant and friendly but not exactly oozing with the enthusiasm I had hoped for. When I listened to my babies heart beat no sooner had she put the device on had she wipped it back off again so I only heard it for about 5 seconds.She says everything is fine and so I have learnt to relax now after been so anxious for weeks. I have enough people round me now who are excited so this compensates. I also don't get any written confirmation of appointments or an appointment card but have to write everything down in my diary. Then I panic that I have written it down wrong and might miss my appointment. I just thought that I would have more guidance than that I have received so far but maybe that is my role to ensure that I am clear of what I am doing? Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well. Best wishes.

You never know if you will be happy with an appointment in here !!
One day I was happy, one day I wasn't.
I've learned to be happy when they tell me that everything is normal, otherwise I would have been upset all along. My partner is English and does not understand when I feel frustrated after an appointment when they tell me that baby is fine.
Once i asked my midwife if baby had its head at the bottom and she said "it's hard to tell", two weeks after, my doctor told me exactly the position of my baby....
Don't worry and enjoy your pregnancy !

Yes I am going to enjoy every moment and start yoga for sure!!!
Charlotte no the midwife didn't give me the paper with all the antenatal appointment..... So i don't really know what's happening next time! I know by reading but that's all!
This week end I am going to France for my birthday and the friend we are staying with has got 2 daughters ( 1 and 4)I thing the ante natal appointment subjet is going to be "funny" and i will try my best to do not do any comparaisons! Promis!!!!
Thanks to you all!
Emilie

I was ust as anxious with my first child, but trust the doctors and people looking after you, it will be fine in the end and with your next one you'll wonder why you were so worried! trust your body as well.
You can always call your midwife with any problems.
Maybe try yoga? I found it helped my to relax and stay calm, especially in the later stages.

I read again your post. Things are very different depends the area in LOndon cause i only heard my babys beating heart at my 24 weeks visit or yes normally, the midwife is supposed to listen it at the 16 weeks too so you are lucky!!
Netherless, I am surprised that the midwife didnt tell you when you were going to see her again. Normally, she gives you a paper with all the different antenatal appointment with a description of what is going to be checked. She didnt give it to you?

The week end was great with this sunshine, what a pleasure !!
About your appointment, i am not surprised at all, it was the same for me.
When i read that you were excited and had a lot of questions, i was very curious to know how it was going to be!! and of course the reaction of your husband doesnt surprised me cause my boyfriend has got the same. If the midwife says that everything is ok so why should i worry and what should i worry about??!!
When i saw the midwife the first time, she just completed my field, asked me some questions, she didnt even weigh me !! she did a blood test and checked my urine; told me what was happening afterwards for all the appointments i will have until the end. Because my pregnancy is going well, she told me to continue the same way and to contact her if something goes wrong. She has been nice, and effectively, as my boyfriend told me, if i had any real matter, she would have been more concerned but everything is fine so ...
Like you, i left her sad and feeling empty, as if finally my pregnancy has nothing of "magical".
It is only the beginning, now believe me i am more "realistic", unfortunately.
Enjoy your pregnancy and be happy that you have no problem, it is wonderful.
Speak to you later
Charlotte