well this is half pregnancy related but not on my part, my sister told me and my mum today that shes 8 weeks pregnant i knew she was going to be trying for another at some point and there will be 16 months between her 2, now what has got me and i know it sounds ridiculous and petty and i hate feeling like this but im incredibly jelous! i dont know if its the fact that with my family im basically the outcast i can never do anything right and even if i do theres always a putdown somewhere, anyway was telling my mum about my accident with the condom the other day and she said oh no you wouldnt want 2 that close together then my sister tells us shes pregnant all of half an hour later and shes crying because she is overjoyed.Theres always nasty comments towards myself and my kids and if my hubby does one thing wrong everyone jumps on him yet with her and her hubby its " oh thats just the way they are deal with it" im absolutley fuming have about a million different emotions runnig around and im feeling really horrible about myself for thinking this way, anyway im waffling now theres more but i think this is long enough lol just wanted some opinions please? xxxx

you always put things into perspective for me im feeling much more calm today and yes my sis does only have the one and preg with another * she is 30 though* so i can understand her getting them all in before she feels too old, and chelle i do think your right im always put down by my family my sisters the smart pretty one and i was the one with common sense but that went out the window with me having isabel at 17 lol as my OH says its the way they are and i should just stop taking it to heart but with my kids they will always be treated the same whether they decide to start a family at 16 or 40, anyways just wanted to say thanks * hugs* xxx

cos you have the 2 girls as well? Has your sis just got this one kid and the unborn one? Think you might be just a bit sad cos you've decided that not having more and then so soon after it your sis is and this is making you vulnerable to off the cuff remarks that maybe normally not bother you.

dunno if that is true, just food for though. After all your sis could have 7 other kids for all I know.

Hey, I can't believe you speak to your mum bout stuff like that. You must have a better relationship with her than you think. Even tho my mum has seen me give birth 3 times, I've never so much as told her I was pg and I've been pg 7 times, whilst OH is beaming and announces it I stare at the carpet twiddling my hair thinking OMG my parents know I done 'it' Even tho there's some of my children actually there. he he

You'll be fine, you're just feeling a bit delicate the now.
PS - twice in 2 days OH has said something to kids like 'tell your mum you want a sister'!!!!!!

Jen xxxxxxand a huggy hugxxxxxxxx

That does sound very unfair for it to be great news her having 2 so close together but not you. You must have a close relationship with your mum to tell her about the condom problem - I couldn't picture discussing something like that with my mum *blushes*.

No matter how certain you are that your family is complete it's going to be hard knowing this is the last baby. I guess the timing of your sister's announcement just rubs it in.

I'm sorry that's not a lot of help but I can understand why you're feeling upset about the situation ((hugs)).

i hate it when that happens whats good for one is good for the other! i would feel the same at the end of the day its your life an if you wanted 10 kids in row well thats up to you, im prob just reading between the lines but your prob not jelous cos she having another baby its prob down to the fact of how your mums reacted to her news and cos she puts you down an not your sis you prob feel jelous and its understanable also you may feel the way you do cos hubby is sopposed to be having the snip? and well your putting a final stop on having anymore and your mums going to be buzzing round your sis the next 9months so you prob feeling a few amotions hun.

x