hi ladies,

hope u are all well and happy..

yesterday i spent a full day in the hospital wiv Deen, they were doing physio with him and he asked me to stay for support, by the end of the day i was worn out..today he has all day physio again and wants me to come, i know me being there really helps him but i dont think i have the energy to spend the whole day again.

I want him to get better so much, to be there for the birth and i feel so guilty not being there for him but i dont feel i can support him today i feel so drained and seeing me in a state wont help him will it? I told him il come but only for a little while, i heard the dissapointment in his voice when he said ok - so now ive got my stupid hormones playing up - they're making my eyes leak!!!



Sorry everyone but you all know i love moaning.

xx

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thank you everyone,

i went in a yesterday and stood in the corner he hadnt realised i was there so i overheard talking to the nurse, telling her how much he wants to be home with me it made me feel even more guilty so i burst into tears in fromt of him! silly girl, i know! lol

anyway we had a chat and elizabeth you were absolutely rite, he did understand, he knows if i could be there i would and when im not there he knows i need him and it makes him work harder to get better..so i feel much better today even though Dayyan bump is still making his overly stressed mummy very uncomfy!

cant say it enough, love you ladies..

Ash 37 + 3 xx

can work wonders. sometimes we bottle things up and dont dare talk to our partners sometimes but it really can take the weight off your shoulders. take care hun xxx

"Hi hun "

really glad you sorted that out with deen i hope you manage to get some proper rest after that conversation

hehe i'd burst into tears aswell, i'm sure of it, and no, i don't think you're silly, you're just pregnant and in love

huge hugs from us
elizabeth xxx
20+2week pink Siri bump

Youre heavily pregnant and you dont want bubs to pop out early i think you need to relax as much as possible and dont wear yourself out. I get tired doing nothing and im only 20wks so i cant imagine how exhausted you must be. I know you want to be there for your OH and im sure hes a little disappointed, being in hospital is no fun and physio is hard work and im sure just seeing you makes it all better even for a short while, you know hes thinking of you and his baby too and im sure he will understand your need to rest a little.
I bet he even appreciates that little while its better than nothing and i bet it will lift his spirits. Im not surprised youre emotional youve had a rough few weeks girl! On top of having a bun baking in the oven haha i get teary over an advert so youre doing incredibly well right now!
Just look after yourself and baby Bun as im sure your OH wants to see you feeling fine rather than a stressed out wreck, that wont be good for anyone. Take care

I agree with Elizabeth, it is important that you rest too. Deen will understand. Has he got other family who could be with him today?

You are not moaning........you are so brave I don't know how I would have coped going through all that you've been through in the last few weeks. No wonder you're feeling drained. You will be so much better off for having a break and able to give your best to him tomorrow again.

Take care and enjoy a break today

xxxxx

good to hear from you

you know, if i wanted my OH there and he couldn't be, of course i would be disappointed, but i would also totally understand and part of me would also probably want him to stay home and rest and be healthy (amusing image in my mind of my OH being pregnant lol), i would know that he was still supporting me and would be with me if he could. I am sure Deen will be thinking similar things, and the nurses who are looking after him will tell him the same, they all know how much you want to be there for him, and they also all know how very important it is that you rest.
It's natural for him to want you there all the time, as you would him, just another sign of love, but also absolutely fine for you to need to be at home and relax, in fact, it's incredibly important for both of you, you have to be healthy, even more so now deen is going to take a while to get totally better. you have to ensure that you get enough rest so you can easily cope when your little one is born.

and you know, you not being there all the time forces him to think of you and everything to do with your relationship, it should help his memory recover even more. he also has to learn to do these things without you as you'll be unable to both hold the baby and him. he will get stronger from having to work without you there at his side all the time and you'll both be stronger for it.

better that he knows you are also getting the care and attention you and the baby need, it wouldn't help him to feel guilty about the time and effort you have put into helping him, and it won't help you to exhaust yourself, and you are very right, you being exhausted would not be a good thing when being with him, it's such a difficult thing to see those we love in such a way and in pain that we need all of the energy we can muster in order to be of any use to them.
after some proper rest you'll have more energy and be more able to support both yourself and Deen.

i really hope you are feeling better and that you are eating properly!

lots of love and hugs
elizabeth xxx
20+1 pink Siri bump