I had my first scan today, and the baby was there without a heart beat (11 1/2 weeks)!!!!
Our world has fallen apart!
I have to go in on Wednesday to be 'cleaned out'. Whats this like!!!
Any advice on loosing a baby would be great, I just don't know what to do!!!
Janice.

im sorry that you lost the baby! thinking of you! i lost mine at 11 weeks and it happened while having my scan it upset me more as i had seen it for a second then it was gone ,i hope things look up for you, x

oh you poor love you must be heart broken the same happend to a friend of mine not long a go, theres nothing no one can say but we all feel for you.

im so sorry to hear of your loss. i too lost mine in january at 10 weeks, i opted for a natural management for my womb to clear but i had a very heavy bleed. i can only say that you will have another chance as soon as you feel fit. dont rush things until you feel ready. look after each other and all the best, i have just found out im pregnant again, just under 2 months since my miscarriage i hope this gives you hope xx

Hi,

The same happened to me last November, I like you were 11 & half wks gone when I started to lightly bleed, they sent me for a scan & found that the baby had stopped growing at 7wks 1 day & was no heartbeat. I was gutted. I also went in for the evacuation (d&c), I started bleeding the night before & it was very painful, but they continued with the op after scanning me again seing there was still some of the contents inside me. You will be ok, I know its very hard but don't blame yourself. I am now 8 wks pregnant again, only having 2 shorter than normal periods following the op. Good luck & my heart goes out to you . Cath xxx

Hi I am really sorry to hear this, I had exaxctly the same happen to me about 3 years ago, had no signs or anything so went for scan and just couldnt take in what had been said. Had d&c 2 days after and had a kind of 'mini labour' which I have to say was very painful (had shot of pethadine for it!). It then took me about 3 or 4 months to start to feel like a real person again and still now I think about that baby.

I would just prepare yourself for a painful and distressing experience to be honest - i ended up 'passing' that baby intact and although it was small i could make out clear baby shape and that was just awful. I gave the same advice to another ady on here and she emailed me pivately a few weeks after to say that it was exactly like taht for her too. I'm just trying to be honest cos I know its a very very hard thing to deal with.

If you want any more chats/private info just email me. There is hope though, after a 2nd miscarriage I went on to have a gorgeous little boy with my 3rd pregnancy and am now pregnant again.

Hang in there Janice, thinking of you xxx

so sorry to hear your loss.many years ago i had blood clots, after a scan it showed the shadow were the baby should have been, i was gutted, i was booked in for a d and c, this doesnt hurt,emotionally yes it will.
i hope you can try again,and so sorry for your loss. xx

hi sweetheart
im so sorry to hear your news. its so heartbreaking.im not going to go on, and on.
to be 'cleaned out', means having a d&c. its just a simple op, to clear your womb. some docs let things happen naturally. but believe me this is much more pleasant.

im sure they will tell you this, but afterwards, if you have SEVERE cramps, or pass any clots, about the size of a 50p, you should inform the hospital/clinic. it could mean that there is still some tissue left, and can cause infection.

cramps are normal after, as it is surgery, and you may feel tender for a few days. take things very easy, and try to relax.

i hope you will be ok, my thoughts are with you. best of luck sweetheart. all the best. i hope this may be of some help to you. xxxxx

hi, im sorry to hear of your loss. i had a miscarriage in october of last year on my birthday. and i was absolutely devastated. i didnt have to be 'cleaned out' as i lost everything naturally...although when it 'came away' i knew and i was freaked out for a while. i found out i was pregnant again 2 weeks later and im now 23 weeks pregnant with a little boy. i hope everythin is ok for you. and my thoughts are with you.

mel x x x