hi i have 2 girls and im 6 weeks pregnent, i married the father of my children just before i got pregnant with my 2nd daughter,But with my first born as we were not married she took my surname and we just changed hers when we got married...And the end of the day its just a name and no matter whos name your baby takes..It will always be YOUR baby....

Hope it helps a little...

I am 17 and 1 1/2 months pregnant. My boyfriend and i are arguing about the surname of the baby (i know it is probably a bit early). I want the baby in my surname and he wants the baby in his. I can understand why he wants this, but when me and my boyfriend get married next year i will not be taking his name because i have only just changed my name by deed poll and i want to keep it. I have suggested a double barrell name but he don't think our two names match. Am i being unfair? and Should i give in and let him have his way?

I am so confussed advise please ........

I have to say, unless there is an extremely personal reason why you want your baby to have your name then i would say give your child the fathers name. If he was just your boyfriend then i would probably say try the whole double - barrelled thing - if it went of course. But you are marrying the baby's father then speaking from experience, save him/her the hassle of having to explain it all to other people as he grows up in school - you may think it wouldn't cause any problems but it does get annoying.

Hi

I posted a similar message on here a while back. Im 16 weeks pregnant and want my baby to have my name - and he/she will, whether the father likes it or not!! We have no plans to get married, and I don't see why, as the primary carer, my baby shouldn't have my name!

He was disappointed at first, but he knows I mean it. I will be the one taking him/her to doctors, nursery, school, etc, so it makes sense to me to give the baby my name. If we were to split, I wouldn't be able to get the baby's name changed back to mine, as the father automatically gets parental responsibilty and would have to give consent, so I would rather do it the other way around and have it changed to his name if we married.

I've looked into this quite a lot, as you can tell! Don't take any stick - it's your body, and you're the one carrying the baby.

Good luck! x

i was told that if you are not married the baby would automatically take the mothers surname, not sure if this is right or not, or if its a scottish law, but i was told this, good luck.

hi i have 2 girls and im 6 weeks pregnent, i married the father of my children just before i got pregnant with my 2nd daughter,But with my first born as we were not married she took my surname and we just changed hers when we got married...And the end of the day its just a name and no matter whos name your baby takes..It will always be YOUR baby....

Hope it helps a little...

Hi,

I think the sex of the baby should be taken into consideration before making such a decision. If the baby is a girl, her name will more than likely change when she marries so it wont make a lot of difference but a lot of men believe it is important for their sons to carry on the family name.
Are there any other family members that can carry on the fathers name if your baby doesnt?

My DD has a double surname (mine and her fathers) but at school, she just uses mine. Her father and I arent together anymore (he left me when I was still pregnant) and it will be up to her to choose which name she prefers when she's older, she may even choose to keep both.

I do think its important for both parents to compromise, it did take 2 to make the baby ater all so you both have equal rights.

Myself and the father of our coming baby arent married but in a very loving relationship and our baby will take his/her fathers name.

Good Luck with whatever you decide!!

XXX

I am 14 weeks pregnant with my frist, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly five years! We have decided to give our baby my b/fs surname! Everyone is different and may have different views. At the end of the day its your choice.

Good luck on deciding xx

i had my son last year and me and my partner didnt even talk bout whos surname he would tke cus we both knew he would take hes dads! we are engaged but in no rush to marry still young! i prefer my son havin hes dads surname cus it will b easier when we finally marry! and wen my nxt child is born this year the baby will have dads surname again! i tink its up to u but if ur gettin married nxt year then y does it matter if the baby has hes surname? your stil the babys mum and its only a surname! there first name matters more! xx