I enclosed what you write and then I answer you:

"More dramatic"
Posted by charlotte841 8 July at 13:06

You havent got family in spain, there are living somewhere else.
You havent got a job but you are pregnant.
You want to come on holiday (how can you think about taking holiday without thinking looking for a job instead ??) in London and want to stay here.

Do you plan to live on the benefit the country can give you?

I dont know you but you sound young and that can be the reason why you want to come here to have your baby, cause a teenager having a baby is more accepted here than in the other country.

If you dont like hospital, where do you think you will go here? In a private one ? you have to pay for that. Hospital are free of charge and they provide a good services, as they might do in Spain.


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First of all, I'm not a teenager and I know exactly what I am doing. I'm pregnant because we wanted it, it's not a mistake.

Don't be so "British", here in Spain pepole are so used to teenagers having babies as English are. What I said is that I have no family living in the same city as me, they are in other places of Spain, so it would be the same if I wanted to be with my family. And of course, I didn't talk about London, I'm from the north.

I didn't said that I don't like hospitals, what I said is that I don't like the hospital where I would have to go if I keep living here, because I had bad experiences there. And what I said is that I wanted a more natural birth, without oxitoscine, episiotomies, anesthesia or cesarean. And In England it is posible in public hospitals if ypur pregnancy has no risk, aor at least, that's what I've benn told by a friend of mine who lives there.

Other point you talk about is my job. I don't have a job and of course I'm looking for another one but no one wants to give a job when someone is expecting. So... it's going to be difficult anyway. The father is still with me and he could postpone his holidays till December and come to meet me in England (as i would go on September). So don't worry, I'm not going to live on the benefit of any country and I'm not going to "your" country as an immigrant to "steal" your money.

But anyway, I wanted all you to explain to me how is having a baby in England in a public hospital. And not to advice me about travelling, working, beeing alone or something like that. Don't worry, I'm Ok and you don't have to get so alarmed.

But it doesn't matter. Take care of yourselves and I'll do the same for me. I'll get the info somewhere else. I hope ypu can open your mind someday and realize that another way to give birth and bring up children is posible.

I agree with charlotte, but am concerned about what you put here:

"Other point you talk about is my job. I don't have a job and of course I'm looking for another one but no one wants to give a job when someone is expecting. So... it's going to be difficult anyway. The father is still with me and he could postpone his holidays till December and come to meet me in England (as i would go on September). So don't worry, I'm not going to live on the benefit of any country and I'm not going to "your" country as an immigrant to "steal" your money."

Moving to another country without a job is difficult and stressful at the best of times, but when you're pregnant I can't imagine anything worse! If you're not going to "live off the benefits of [our] country", then who are you going to live off? Because that's exactly what it looks like to me. Be realistic, you can't live off thin air, you ahve a responsibility to your unborn child to look after both of you in every way, that includes financially.

I think we all know that "another way" to have children is available, but travelling to another country tongive birth is plain ridiculous and frankly unsafe, as they won't have your medical notes unless you come over for the whole of your pregnancy, which you don't seem able to do with no job to finance yourself.

Hi, just want to tell you that i dont want to continue this conversation with you cause you are a waste of time.
C.