"Please give your opinions...."

Hi, im new here and i am not yet pregnant. I have a slight problem, and would like to hear some of your opinions. I am 21 years old and my fiance is 22, we have been together for almost six years now, we both work full time and have our own house. We have been on holiday together, had so much fun and feel ready to settle down. The thing is, we really want to try for a baby. But im a little worried about what my parents would say, i guess its always a worry though. I get the feeling my mum wants us to wait a little longer but I feel ready, and would love to have our own baby. Am i to young, or am i at the right age and in the right situation to bring up a child? So for all you experienced mums out there, your opinion would be very welcome. Please dont read this and think im silly, im just a little worried about making the next step to start a family. Thanks for reading x

Hi Hun

im 22 and 15 weeks and 6 days and my partner is 30 year old. We tried for a baby for 2 years and it happened this year i am so excited i broke the news to my mum and dad and my mum was upset because she wanted us to wait even though ive got my own house and been with my fiance 5 years. after 2 or 3 days of my mum getting over the news she is more excited than me now about my bump. If you feel ready go for it i did and i dont regret anything. x x

Ok you are not by far too young. I am 18 and getting ready ot have my baby. When youa re ready, and your fiance is ready, it doesn't matter who else thinks you are. If you want a baby GO for it. Good luck!

hiya just to let you no only you will no when you are ready im 20 and my partner is 23 and im 14.5 weeks pregnant my parents were over the moon. we only rent so the fact you have your own house is such a good start
xx good luck

Hi,
If you and your fiancee feel ready and feel like it is the right thing for you to do then go for it! It is your life and only you can truely know when the timing is right for you. Your parents may want you to wait a bit longer but then what is the point of waiting for waitings sake? They will be happy for you and i can't imagine any parent whoes daughter is in a stable relationship and thought the whole thing through to not be supportive and excited about being a grandparent. If you want to start a family then do, it is the most amazing feeling when you find out your pregnant and will enrich your life more than you can imagine. Good luck and congrats on the engagement.

xxx

I am 22 and my boyfriend is 23, we have been together nearly five years, and we have our own house! We also work full time in good jobs! I came off the pill as we both wanted to start a family and I fell pregnant straight away! We are both so eexcited and cant wait to become parents! We were worried about telling our parents, but when we did they were over the moon! They have been so supportive and are very excited about becoming grandparents! I am now 15 weeks pregnant and everyone is so happy!

Hope this helps and good luck with what ever you decide!

Nat x

hi there,
you are not silly for asking this question. it is a very genuine situation to be in, and i can understand completely.i think your parents would be honoured to know how much their opinion means to you. so, i personally respect you.

i had my first child at 19,(have 3 now) and it was hard telling my parents. we had been together for 3 years, but i was worried how they would react. it was even hard telling them i was pregnant the second, and third time. so believe me you are not alone.

at first they were a bit shocked, but like you, we both had jobs, our own house.
they realized, that we were in a stable relationship, and after the shock, only a few days, they were so supportive.

so, i think they will probably react the same. at the end of the day, it is the next step, apart from marriage, that they would expect you to take.

you are both adults, and they need to let you run your own life, and if having a child is what you both want, then go for it!!

i will guess, that soon after, your mum will be cooing over baby clothes, and loving the idea of becoming a grandparent.

you could have a meal with your parents, and discuss things if you would like to talk it over with them. i didn't plan my pregnancy, so i couldn't do this, and truthfully don't know if i'd have the nerve to either. it's just a thought though, if it would make you feel less anxious about trying.

good luck, try not to worry, things will work out fine.

take care, let me know how you go!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

"Thanks......."

Well.....thank god for that, im not going nuts after all! Your comments were really positive, and they proved that having kids wont ruin your life (its what ive always been told!)I will settle into my new job and see how the land lies......if anyone has any information about maternity leave, i would also be greatful for that...thanks again girlies x

I am in exactly the same position, im 22 and my boyfriend is 24, we have been together 2 years although we have known each other for years ! We have always been so happy together but I am also soooo scared about having to tell my parents !! I have just come off the pill because i have been on it for years and the health risks scare me but also I am absolutely besotted with babies !! We want one of our own ! All i can think about is having a baby, The best site for maternity pay info is the direct.gov etc... theres loads of good things to know on there, Its all i have been looking at recently !! I work full time and would definately be coming back even if i drop a few days, Me and my bf have both got really good jobs and are earning great money (even if i have a few debts here and there to clear) but at least there a while to save !! You should be entitled to statatory maternity pay regardless of how long you have worked there but double check !
Keep in touch and I will let you know how long it takes me to catch- I have worked out my most fertile days (and roughly when im ovulating ) I have my heart set on a baby !!!