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hi there, i am new to this so hello!
was wondering if anyone has had success with vasectomy reversal?
i got married on the 1st february and my husband who is 33 already had 2children from a previous relationship.
however, i am only 21 and obviously want children of my own.
i stopped taking the pill about two weeks ago and things seem to be going ok with me.
however, i have found out from the nurse today theat our local nhs does not do rversals and we will have to go private.
i just want to know if we are going to be wasting our time?
i keep getting quite upset about it and paranoid that if we do have a baby he wont love it because ha already has two!
help, im just feeling so confused and depressed.
thankyou x

My fiance is having the reversal in about 4 weeks and the closer it gets the more doubtful I am getting!
I can't talk to him about it properly as he is so positive, but I don't know if thats because he knows i'm having doubts!
I think we have a good chance as he had the vasectomy about 3 1/2 years ago and he is 34 and I am 22. So really we stand a good chance!
It would just be really good to hear some similar success stories!! xx

Hi, I just wanted to drop you a quick note as I was in the same position as you... My hubby and I decided we wanted another 2 children! we have 2 and my hubby had his vasectomy 6 years ago, we are 33 & 34. We paid private (£2100) He had it done in the june, and im now 6 weeeks pregnant!!!! So happy!!! Keep trying and keep positive, the more you worry the less likely it is to happen, I know thats easier said than done, but its true. Good Luck

x x

Hi

I am new to this site so please bare with me....

My husband had a vasectomy reversal 4 years ago, but unfortunately it was unsuccessful. This was devastating as you can imagine, yet it wasn't going to put us off. Two years ago we started searching for other reversal specialists and eventually found one that we were happy with. We had the consultation in July 07 and last week my husband underwent he's second reversal. The surgeon told us that one side had been badly damaged and had quite a bit of scarring on it so he couldn't really do much to "re-knit" the tube etc. However the other side was completely differet, thank God! He managed to re join this tube and said it was 100% successful. During the operation there was no live sperm seen but as the surgeon said this can take upto 8 months plus to come through. We now just have to let nature run it's coarse and keep our fingers crossed. My advice to you would be keep strong for yourself and for husband and DO think positive... your husband needs alot of reassurance and support too. Good luck with all x

We have an 60 - 65% chance of the semen getting through. Has anybody else had similar results and got pregnant? xx

hiya my partner had a vasectomy reversal 3 years ago im 26 and hes 35 and he has 5 kids from a previous relationship tests show he has live sperm hat r swimming at 60% and all of my tests have come back normal but were still trying im really stressing which prob dont help sutrgon says there is no reason why it cant happen so were still trying good luck your end

my husband has 3 kids from a prev relationship and had the snip 12 years ago we got it reversed private 2 years ago and have a 19 month old girl. I felt like you but you have got to take the chance. wish you all the best X

hi, i'm new to this, my husband had a vasectomy 15yrs ago when in a preveious relationship.
we are now in the process of finding a hospital(unfortunately private)near us to have a reversal. we are unsure if it will work but after reading your message it has lifted are spirits alittle. could i ask where you had the op done and the cost? thanks

Hi there
I know exactly what youre going through,my husband and I have been married for 2 years now (he has 2 kids from his previous relationship) we decided to have his vasectomy reversed in March 2008 and Im still waiting its nearly been 4 months and nothing yet but i was told that it can take up to a year so patience is the virtue. Your hubby will def love your baby that you guys will make together dont worry. My hubby is so excited he has already chosen names for the baby and im not even pregnant yet. Just take it easy and love each other during this time.
Laura (south africa)

hello i'm new to this too. i'm 28 and my partner is 46 and had his vasectomy reversal 5months ago after 13yrs. i know how you feel its so frustrating and you feel like there is no one to talk to. in our case it didn't look good as the original vasectomy was a butcher job but with a great surgeon he had a successful reversal and has sperm in his vas. we just keeping our fingers crossed that i will get pregnant. and a child you make together will be so special and what you have to go through to achieve it. goodluck x

My partner had a vasectomy done 13 years ago. I am 45 and he is 49. He is considering a reversal as we have discussed the possibility of having another child. I have three children and he has two. I had mine quite late in life at 34, 35 and 37 and fell quite quickly each time. I would be interested to know if anyone has actually had any success from a reversal done so long ago. I suppose it would be advisable for me to have a fertility test first before he has the reversal. It would seem pointless otherwise.

Are we too old too, for it to possibily be successful?

Thanks

My husband recently had a reversal after 13 years . Gladly, the op went well and we are taking things day by day and letting nature run its course. On the day of the operation the surgeon told us that he had carried out reversals on men who had had their vasectomies 20 years ago, AND to patients who were in their 50/60's (the eldest being 70!!!!). So all i would say to you is GO FOR IT if this is what both you and your husband want, then why not??

Your never too old!!

Good luck x

hi lyddybop.i got married for 2nd time last july my husband and i have children from previous relationships,but wanted one of our own so december last year my husband went to bupa and we paid private (£1700) we are still waiting to find out if it is going to work. the doctor told us we had 75% chance as he had the vasectomy within 8 years,i dont think your wasting your time if you have the funds to pay for it go for it ive got a friend who's husband had a vasectomy 20 years ago had a reversal 2 years ago and his wife fell pregnant straight away. and im sure your husband would love this baby just the same as as his other 2 i wish you tons of luck xx

HI Saunders3 - your story sounds similar to mine - got married again last Oct - had reversal done on 12th April this year - now on 2nd cycle of trying. Wish you lots of luck - would be great to hear a success story to keep our spirits up! xx

Just worked out the total cost was about £2025 - will be well worth the money if it works - although we cant eat for a while!

hey im 20 and im the product of a reversal. my dad was 45 when he had it done and i was concieved just a couple of months later. that was years ago medically speaking and the proceedure is alot simpler and less evasive now. if you want children and you know your hubby is def fertile because of his other children then you have every reason to go ahead with it. i was my mums miracle girl.... she had had 4 boys from her first marriage and was exstatic with a lil girl. just get your own fertility checked out just incase and find a very repuitable clinic that can provide you with good references. youll be sorted soon enough!! tc xxxx kayla

Hi, I read your story and thought I was reading about myself, I am 31 and have just celebrated my 1st wedding anniversary, my husband has 2 kids from his previous marriage and we have been looking in to a reversal. We were refered by our GP to through the NHS in June last year, they advised as it was considered as cosmetic surgery they could not do it, the only way they would do it is if it was for medical reasons. We have pleaded our case as my husband got the vasectomy as his previous wife had severe post natal depression. After several meetings with the board they have still come back and said no however we are getting it done in an NHS hospital and only costing £1200 which includes the consultancy fee.
I thought my husband would not love a child we had together as much as his other 2 but he is already looking at prams and baby clothes so reckon I have just been a bit paranoid.
We should find out this week when he is going in - they said it should be done by the end of April.
It can sometimes feel like a slow process however it will all be worth it in the end.
All the best.x

Hi, i was just looking for success rates when i came across this link and your story. I am also 21 and my fiance is 33 he a daughter from a previous relationship and had the snip 3 years ago. Has your husband had the reversal? We are having it done in May and it will cost is £2000.
I wouldnt worry about your husband not loving the child you have together, he wouldnt be going through this if he didnt want a baby with you.
We got an appointment to see a doctor on the nhs to have a chat about the reversal, i recommend you do that, he can talk you through everything.
I hope this helps x

I am in exactly the same situation! My husband had 2 kids with his ex and had vasectomy done 14 years ago! He has "vasectomy reversal" op 28th Apr'08 at the Nuffield Hospital which will cost us £2,300.00 + £150.00 for the consultation.
Now, I am 29 (almost 30) and really freaking out that the op might not be successful. Is there anyone out there who had it done after such long time? Pls let me know what are the chances for me to get pregnant?

hi im new here.my name is tracey.this post is for tatyana,i was just wondering how your hubby got on with his op as myself and my partner are in the process of going through the same.we are also going to the nuffield,and i wondered what you thought of the service you got.my partner had his vasectomy nearly 7years ago.
i hope you have had success.
good luck
lilmumma xx

like you i'm freaking out too. have you had any samples analysed yet as this is the first step that we had to take. i also found (my partner's was done at the nuffield) that your just left to your own devises which can lead to so much frustration and can make you so low after the operation. we're just hoping that it is going to work as my partners first result came back positive for sperm! fingers crossed for you x