My husband also had a vasectomy 5 years ago, mainly because we have 4 children already and my last 2 pregnancies were problematic and I was on crutches throughout, so he decided that enough was enough and I kind of agreed almost immediately after my last son was born, to him have the vasectomy and he went straight out and had it done.

Since I have been breaking my heart over the prospect of never having another baby... I know people will think "well isn't 4 enough for anyone", but I just love being a mum so much, it has been my life for the last 13 years and I feel lost now my children are all at school. I know I could go out and get a job, but there aren't many that fit into the life of a mum to four children, with illnesses or school holidays etc... mum's know what I mean!! But my hubby has a good job and we live well on what he earns, so it isn't urgent for me to work. I just have this deep longing to have another baby and I feel grieved that we were also not offered councelling before my husband did the deed.

I have since done some reading up and most places advice that councelling is should be offered before any action is taken to be sterilised, to avoid this problem that you and I have felt. It might be worth seeking legal advice on this issue.

Currently I am praying that my hubby's vasectomy failed, as I have missed 2 periods and am having pregnancy symptoms... but I am also worried it might just be a phantom pregnancy because I did have a negative test (but I've had them before and been pregnant) and I know how I've been feeling about wanting another child and hope I'm not just imagining it up.

It is a deep heartbreaking feeling, I know!

Take heart in the fact that my auntie's partner had a vasectomy reversal and they were successful in having a child together. He had a vasectomy after a previous marriage, which failed... he then wanted a child with my auntie when they married.

Discuss it seriously with your partner and tell him how deeply you feel and seek councelling now. You may still want to go ahead with a reversal... I believe they cost about £2,000, but if you so deeply want another child together, it might be worth every penny to try!

I hope you find a way to resolve your pain that brings you happiness again.

Wishing you all the best,

With love Claire.

When my 2nd son was 1 yr old he was admitted to hospital with pneumonia and was really ill. At that time I went alittle mad and said "No more children". My husband stood by my wish and not long after had a vasectomy. Live has changed so much in the past 2 years since and we regret it hugely. I have read loads of articles about people in past relationships and with children from previous marriages having a reversal but not any who are still in the same relationship and just want more children. My hubby went to the docs to ask about the reversal and was told it would cost us. At the time I was not of stable mind and never even seen by a doctor regards to this only my hubby. Does any one know where I may stand or if this is a common situation to be in?

Unfortunately we were told the same about paying for reversal. last sep just before my youngest turned 1 we decided to have a vasectomy. It had been a tough yr my son was very difficult and demanding. Just after his 1st birthday he became a bit easier, my partner had already seen his gp who got the ball rolling, xmas came and went as we waited for his appointment. Eventually we got a letter saying 2 appointments had gone to our old address and the mix up had been sorted. By this time i was having second thoughts. My youngest was like a different child, 2 of my friends had babies and i was becomming broody. Just before my man got app to go for op i fell pregnant and we were both overjoyed. App came through so we decided 3 kids was def enough, he went for vasectomy, then the unthinkable happened, I misscarried. We just couldn't beleive it, the stupidest mistake in our entire lives. I just cant believe we never thought about how we'd feel if something went wrong. Our gp said we would have to pay for reversal, but i feel really cross cos my friends man went for vasectomy and his surgeon said they dont do them without a consultation 1st, this is at the same hospital and only couple months after my man had his op, yet he was not sent for consultation, i cant help thinking mayb things would have been different if someone had suggested something going wrong with the pregnancy.

My husband also had a vasectomy 5 years ago, mainly because we have 4 children already and my last 2 pregnancies were problematic and I was on crutches throughout, so he decided that enough was enough and I kind of agreed almost immediately after my last son was born, to him have the vasectomy and he went straight out and had it done.

Since I have been breaking my heart over the prospect of never having another baby... I know people will think "well isn't 4 enough for anyone", but I just love being a mum so much, it has been my life for the last 13 years and I feel lost now my children are all at school. I know I could go out and get a job, but there aren't many that fit into the life of a mum to four children, with illnesses or school holidays etc... mum's know what I mean!! But my hubby has a good job and we live well on what he earns, so it isn't urgent for me to work. I just have this deep longing to have another baby and I feel grieved that we were also not offered councelling before my husband did the deed.

I have since done some reading up and most places advice that councelling is should be offered before any action is taken to be sterilised, to avoid this problem that you and I have felt. It might be worth seeking legal advice on this issue.

Currently I am praying that my hubby's vasectomy failed, as I have missed 2 periods and am having pregnancy symptoms... but I am also worried it might just be a phantom pregnancy because I did have a negative test (but I've had them before and been pregnant) and I know how I've been feeling about wanting another child and hope I'm not just imagining it up.

It is a deep heartbreaking feeling, I know!

Take heart in the fact that my auntie's partner had a vasectomy reversal and they were successful in having a child together. He had a vasectomy after a previous marriage, which failed... he then wanted a child with my auntie when they married.

Discuss it seriously with your partner and tell him how deeply you feel and seek councelling now. You may still want to go ahead with a reversal... I believe they cost about £2,000, but if you so deeply want another child together, it might be worth every penny to try!

I hope you find a way to resolve your pain that brings you happiness again.

Wishing you all the best,

With love Claire.