Abortion clinic

One of my friends had an unfortunate experience last week.
Due to building work going on at the hospital, the waiting room for her abortion clinic was shared by women having fertility treatment.
She has coped very well with the abortion itself, but can't forget the experience of sitting opposite two fertility patients who didn't take their eyes off her. This has just added to her feelings of guilt and she is going through a bad time because of it, feeling selfish, but not regretting her actions.
has anyone else had similar? I think it's an appalling piece of hospital planning, they must have had complaints. She didn't feel like it when I picked her up, but I think she's going to mention it when she is back to rights.
i was compltely disgusted.
lolxxx

Yes i have

im not proud to say that i had an abortion when i was 17. while i felt very well treated in the first stage, of being given the ... etc, the second stage was awful. i too ended up sitting wating to be taken to my room, while beside a pregnant lady waiting for a scan.the looks i got from her and her partner were unbeleivable. i was hating myself enough without that. i then went back to work(where no one was aware of abortion). i collapsed that day, and had to be taken back into hospital for a d&c. afterwards, i woke up to find i was on a ward next to woman who had just suffered miscarriages. i ended up being the most hated person on the ward. i can understand their feelings, but i had my own to cope with too. my work also found out, because i had to be off for several weeks, and the atmosphere got so bad i left. abotion was not a decision i took lightly, and people should respect that.

Abortion

Bridgetpants,
I had a horrible experience post abortion some time ago. I had a VTOP and was traumatised enough after the experience , when I developed extremely heavy bleeding and had to be rushed into hospital. after spending the night I was 'wheeled' yes, 'wheeled'into a waiting room full of hugely pregnant women to wait to have a scan to see inside me,. This was so humilating and awful that I will never forget it
Now, some years later I am happily married and want to try for a baby but cannot forget my experience and feel that It may in some way influence my chance of having another pregnany, this time which is wanted. The guilt and feeling of ';what goes around comes around; is awful.
Your friend is not alone, the hospital were in no way sensitve to me and I was left in the most horrible situation ever. I hope this doesn;t happen to anyone else

Nhs-no help (or) sensitivity!

This doesnt surprise me at all, i had to go into hospital for fertility tests and was put on a maternity ward, which wasnt great when i was told i could never have children! Tell your friend that she did what was right for her and nothing she did could hve changed how those women were already feeling, and i think complaining is absolutely the right thing to do, too much of this kind of thing goes on,it is very damaging to everyone concerned.

Dreadful

God, that's awful bridget.
I'm not surprised she feels bad, who wouldn't, on either side?
how thoughtless.

Poor thing

I feel for everyone there.
How on earth could they let that happen?

I know slightly off-thread, but has anyone seen Vera Drake yet? What did you make of it? In fact will take this over to TV and cinema as not really appropriate.

lol, hope you're friend is feeling better. Did she say anythign in the end (or did you?) how did the hospital take it?xxx

God, that's unbelievable

she should sue!

Bad experiences

My friend's friend was around four and a half months pregnant. She did not feel great so went to the hospital and they confirmed that her baby had died! She was admitted to hospital and was to have surgery the next day to ensure the whole "thing" was removed. She had to stay that night in a ward full of new mothers and they babies until 4pm the next afternoon. She is still distraught however will not complain. I would, why should we be subjected to such unacceptable standards?

Bad experiences

hi i had a first abortion when i was only 17 the ward i was put on was a side one just off maternity, i had the none sergical an had a bad time i had to stay in an all night i could here new born babys, familys comin to visit them an new mothers so proud with there new babys, i was very upset by this an just wished that they had thought about the situation the termanation was a hard decission to make an not made any easier by the proffesionals, i did put in a letter about how i felt others shold not go through this, maybe ur friend just wants to put the whole thing behind her, any way my heart goes out to her and any one else who has been put in this situation x x x v!ckz x x x

Abortion bad experiences

hi just wondering, you said you had yur first abortian at 17? howm many have you had all together? sorry if it seems nosy?