We want a baby so much

I am 44 years old my husband is 30 we have been married for 2 1/2 years and have been trying for a baby for just over 2 years. We miscarrried in Sept 07, when I was 11 weeks which was horrible no one expalins what is going to hapen to you.
I have now been off work for over 6 months with stress and depression as I am finding it so difficult to cope with the guilt I feel.
My husband is so supportive and understanding
I have 2 grown up children from my 1st marriage my husband does not have any children. We have seen a fertility specialist at our local hospital, my husband has had a sperm count done and that was all fine, I had my 21 day blood test done and that has shown that I had ovulated, I have had swabs done to check for any infection and just had an Hysterosalpinogram (HSG) but htey were unable to complete this as my womb was so tilted that afer 2 attempts toget this to work they had to give up. Now my insides feel sore and we dont go back to hispital til the end of Feb for the results. I feel so low and have no idea what we will be told when we go back to hospital (just the thought that they will tell us we will not have children) then to top it all my daughter and her partner have announced that they are expecting their 1st child , as her mum I am pleased but as a wife trying for a family of her own I am devastated, listening to her talk about how she wants the nursery and watching her bump form rip me apart.
I know no one can give me any answers I just needed to get things off my chest

Hi

im 23yrs two beautiful children but every1 says that but mine are, i'm cmv neg A- blood and cf neg if you need my help just ask. i'm from blackpool and my husband is happy to take me anywhere not a prob
lisa
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Are you still available for donating?

Hi Lisa,

I read your message and wondered whether you were committed to donating at the moment or were available for sometime around April 2010 using ocerseas clinic?

Surrogacy

Many people in your situation turn to surrogacy.

If you would like more information you can start here - http://surrogacy.a-little-wish.co.uk/surrogacy/information.aspx

Infertility is so hard and so painful, but there can be light at the end of the tunnel

Hugs xx

Maybe i can help.

I have four children and got steralised after my last child who is eight. My husband then decided to leave us and since then i have met a lovely man and we are both desperate for a child of our own. I have been told i am a ideal candidate for egg share as i already have children but we will need IVf ourselves so we are hoping to be able to share to reduce costs and help others at the same time. Only problem is local clinic cut off age is 35 and i am 37 but if you go in with another couple as their doner it will be ok. Am willing to travel, currently in the midlands. Can anyone help??x jaybee246@hotmail.com

Maybe we can help each other?

Hi Im a 34 year old happily married lady with 5 gorgeous children (1 set of twins) As you can guess im super fertile but as a result of an awful abusive relationship I got sterilised 7 years ago. However, Ive been lucky enough to find hapiness with a new partner and things couldnt be better except that we d now love to bring the family closer by having the common link of our own child, especially as my husband has no biological children of his own. As you can imagine money is tight we such a brood and we v been told our only chance is ivf which theres no way we can afford.After talking to a fertility counseller she suggested that some couples needing donor eggs may consider covering our costs for treatment in exchange for donation. If you are willing to consider this Id love to help or if you know anyone else who might consider it?
wishing you lots of luck, hope you get what you want either way xxx

Xxxx

Hi there

Egg donation is something that i have been thinking about for a long time and i would love to help a family conceive.

I am well educated, attractive Scottish woman (former model) who likes to take good care of herself. There is no history of serious illness on either side of my family tree. No cancer, heart disease, nothing. I realise that this is very desireable for prospective parents and that is why i have decided to come forward as a donor.

I am aware that it is illegal at present to pay egg donors for their service however my solicitor has advise me that it is perfectly acceptable to accept a 'gift' or donation' from parents and it is the norm to have expenses covered.

I would love to help a loving couple realise their goal without having to fork out for course after course of IVF.

If you would like to meet to discuss my becoming a donor or would simply like more infomation or photographs then please get in touch by email at: onevodkamartini@live.co.uk

Kind regards


Victoria Campbell

Im 48 and also long for our baby ( but too old for ivf on the nhs)

Hi sorry to hear your story...Ive never had children and neither has my partner.We both left it too late to find the right person,but now weve finally found each other we both want what weve always longed for....a baby in a loving relationship.I was devastated last year when I found out that the month I met the man I loved was the month I gave up my chance to have my own baby naturally(MENOPAUSE had set in)I was so happy to have met a great guy and believe me Id spent many years alone after an unhappy marriage and never thought Id meet someone who would want me AND want a baby.But you cant have it all.I found my guy but lost my chance.We decided to try IVF but in the UK and other parts of Europe the costs were 8000 pounds plus and of course I was too old for IVF on the NHS.Makes me laugh really cos Ive looked after myself and most people think I am still young enough to have my own baby.We eventually contacted some Indian doctors in Hyderabad (Kiran Fertility Centre) and they are amazing.I had a hysteroscopy there to ensure everything was okay after the second cycle failed and theres no reason I cant conceive.Ive read stories where women have had 11 cycles and fell pregnant on the 12th attempt.While we were at the clinic there were on average 3 pregnancies a week and one of these was an Indian lady who I spoke who had her implantation the same day as me and it was her first attempt.We also saw a 2week old baby boy who had been conceived on the 4th attempt.We are not giving up and we are going back asap cos we trust the doctors and the low price of each cycle means our baby is within our reach.....we hope and pray.God bless you too and never give up hope cos where theres a will theres a way.unfortunately nobody really wants to talk about costs but if youre over a certain age you do have to find a great deal of money in the UK to have a baby.Sorry in this day and age when people are living longer and it may take longer to find that special person,who says youre too old to have IVF on the NHS at 48!!!

Maybe i could help..........

I have four children and got steralised after my last child who is eight. My husband then decided to leave us and since then i have met a lovely man and we are both desperate for a child of our own. I have been told i am a ideal candidate for egg share as i already have children but we will need IVf ourselves so we are hoping to be able to share to reduce costs and help others at the same time. Only problem is local clinic cut off age is 35 and i am 37 but if you go in with another couple as their doner it will be ok. Am willing to travel, currently in the midlands. Can anyone help??x jaybee246@hotmail.com

thanks kerry

Thanks for your hugs .
Fingers crossed for us.
We will battle on hoping its going ot happen for us.
x