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"if it comes, comes...": i am fed up!

I am fed up with that phrase.. but it works. I am feeling so anxious these days... I've been looking for 4 months with out any chance of anything... I know I have to wait for 8 long months to see the doctor... I feel really sad... because I understand that I cannot know how to wait... but it's true..whether I like it or not...it's a matter of waiting as our mothers did. Do you feel the same as me??? Reply to me, please if you do so. Vir

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Worrying won't help

My husband and i tried for 2 years, my first year off the pill I had not periods at all (undiagnosed PCOS, as I found out!). No point in stressing, my Dr was able to sort it out, after clomid for a year or so then did laparoscopy and removed a small benighn lump, and a few months later - became pregnant. It took a long time but I tried to stay philosophical, and tried to remind myself all along that if it never happens, then it never happens. I still have a great family, best husband in the world, good life. Life doesn't necessarily treat us all the same. So as it is I feel pretty lucky - I should mention I finally fell pregnant at 39, so time was truly running late but I couldn't think that way or I would have gone nuts.

Another risk of too much worry is alienating your partner if you obsess too much. My best friends husband left her when their baby was 1, there are obviously many reasons but a big one is that he felt totally alienated by her single minded 'baby-drive' and he felt less important than the baby process... he stuck around for a while but gradually fell out of love - and she is devastated as he truly was the light of her life - just in her driven state, she didn't/couldn't show it. YMMV.

Chill out..

Vir - you sound so desperate. You've really got to stop letting it take over your life like this. For me it's been 4 years and still nothing and have been through the works, the stress, depression, mood swings ... everything. Now I'm finally getting some treatment, it's just yet another waiting game. That's life, but good luck!



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