Endometriosis & fertility

Hello all, I am new to this site and discovered it by accident while looking some other bits up. So hello! I just want to talk about something that is really bothering me at the moment...I'm 27 years old and on Friday I went in hospital for a laparoscopy as I had been getting mild pelvic pain. Anyway they discovered 'minimal endometriosis' on the pouch of douglas which was lasered off. I was really scared when they told me they had found some endo, even tho it was minimal, as I was worried it can cause fertility problems. The consultant said to me that it shouldn't cause me fertility problems and I should be ok. All my reproductive organs were normal with no endo on them. However, since coming home I have stupidly looked up things on the net, e.g. what is the pouch of douglas...?! (i now know its the area between the back of the womb and the rectum!) & other endo related things and it seems that there can be a link between even minimal endo and infertility. Now this is doing my head in, I am off work at the mo after having the op and still in a bit of pain altho feeling loads better than what I did. I am not allowed to have sex for at least 1-2 weeks after the op and now I know they have found endo - albeit a small amount - I want to start trying for a baby straight away as soon as I am able to. Or even a bit later on, like next month. My husband - he was there with me at the hospital when the consultant said my endo won't cause me fertility probs - wants to wait a bit longer. I have wanted a baby for years, but my husband always wanted to wait, so this is what we have done, as I know a baby is a big decision and one you can't force someone into. We had agreed to start trying towards the end of this year as we are recently married and wanted to have a bit of married life alone together first.

This whole situation is doing my head in and driving me crazy. I just feel incredibly down about the whole thing. My husband knows that I have found things on the net about the endo/infertility thing and also a couple of friends who've had endo have said to me it is best to start trying asap. It just seems he is digging his heels in trying to retain the upper hand. He is a stronger character than me (I am a bit of a wuss) and can be quite forceful. I am not slagging my husband off, he is brilliant, I love him to pieces and he has looked after me so well since the op. I guess I am just posting because of the sheer frustration & powerlessness I am feeling. I have tried to broach the subject with him a couple of times, but it ends up with him getting annoyed, and me crying my eyes out, which is not good when I need to recover after the lap. He said to me that I could find anything on the net if I look hard enough, and he said that he thinks I wish the consultant had found loads of endo just so we could start trying. I am just feeling so depressed about this situation and so helpless. I am just wondering if anyone else has a similar experience.

I know some people may think I am selfish but I am not trying to be. I am just really scared.

Thank you

Sarah xxx

Endo

hi sarah am new too was lookin for diets to go that help with my pain an i come up on this website... cant believe how many girls have endo.... iv find out iv got in in 2006 been tryin for a baby now 9 years since i had my little girl i think tho lookin back that i had it befor i had her an it come back cause iv always stuffed with pains an always had painful sex i just didnt tell anyone... there is loads of help out there its just gettin it, iv been under the womans hospital for years they tryed to help with my endo but wasn't very good i didn't say much when i went cause it got me down that much an i lost my nan the same time so head was else were, but now am in whiston hospital an they are really nice understand how bad its gone an they are puttin me on hormone tablets tomorrw see if they work, dont really understand much myself cause people say different unless they have had it them selfs no one understands 2 of my friends have got it 1 got told by her doctor that she would never have kids an she is 8 months pregnant now an other one is 5 months so dont let anyone tell ye what they told them and they was only tryin for a few months they was both on the pill befor tryin, just try soon as dont let it take over tho... my life has been baby baby baby for years now an its hard just carry on with ye life as normal an injoy tryin.... if ye pain isnt that bad now ye wont have it much but it growns an gets harder to try just talk to your doctor if you are tryin for months without gettin pregnant they will help i think you will be fine just dont worryin or dont get stressful like me am a stress head thats why am still tryin lol... dont no what else to say just hope iv help an you can understand my message no good with computers hopefully talk soon claire xxxxx

Endo not the end of a pregnacy

Finding endo does not necessarily mean infertility. I went to a seminar where this was discussed and many times endo is only discovered during a caesarean!! so pregnancy is possible.

Dont loose hope as you can still become pregnant and if not there are other options eg surrogacy

Hugs xx