please tell ...

I had a naming day for Lydia!!!
It was a lovely day, but some relatives who I haven't seen for over 6 years took some of the flowers of the tables (ran in, grabbed them & ran back out without asking)!!
I had decided who I was going to give the flowers too, so I was rather annoyed esp as I've then had to send 3 lots of flowers to peoples houses!!!
To me taking without asking is stealing, and they shouldn't have done it!!!
They say (through horrid fb messages from their kids) that at weddings etc flowers are put on tables, and people just help themselves! I disagree, and wondered if I am the odd one out ????
So I'm asking you guys ... do you help yourself to flowers at weddings, or are you offered them???? Or those who are married, did people help themselves, or did you hand them out????
Lots of love & cooling thoughts on this boiling hot day,
Janice & Lydia,
xxx

I cant believe the cheek!!! Thats stealing!! pure and simple!
and the fact you have had to spend more money to replace them is disgraceful...

At my wedding, in the speeches, we let everyone know which flowers were accounted for, but then towards the end moved the other flowers towards the door and let people take what they wanted

Its disgusting what they have done

Nat and 11 day Megan xx

Hi hun

I am totally disgusted I can't believe them doing that and then having the cheek to be rude to you!!!! I have never ever ever helped myself to any flowers or anything esle at weddings, christenings etc. Flowers are usually given to close relatives and friends who are special to you or helped out, or donated to church / venue etc. not just a free-for-all!!!

How disgusting that they had to taint Lydias day like that!!!! And that they felt the need to get angry instead of apologising.

Fkn idiots!!!!!

Read your email and it's great hun did you get a reply?

Love and hugs.

Rach xx + Holly 6 months

No reply

I'm still waiting!!!
xxx

Thanks again ladies!
My reply:

Dear Tara,
Firstly; I would like to say that I didnt know who had taken the flowers when I put the comment on Facebook!!!

Secondly; Im sorry if you have been to weddings etc where people have been able to help themselves, I have never been to a wedding like this!!! I was hoping that the Pimms/fruit juice, £14.99 pp buffet Costing us £1499.00) and full use of the hotel would be enough for peoples memories!!!

Thirdly, on the point of why you mum and Aunt Elsie didnt have any flowers allocated, I would like to point out that this is the first time they have ever met Lydia. The people we wanted the flowers to go to have regular contact in Lydias life! They have helped us out with Lydia (or helped pay for the day), and helped Martyn and I when I had a missed miscarriage (and had to carry a dead baby for a week), an ectopic which should have killed me, and a normal Miscarriage!!!

The flowers (costing a total of £385) were intended for:
Cynthia & Mike: (Martyns parents who paid for Lydias outfit)
Wendy & Indulis: (who I lived with for 10 years, & Lydia will know them as grandparents)
Jill: (Guiding parent)
Georgina: (Guiding parent)
James (via) Ruth: (Guiding parent)
Aunt Maureen: (speak on the phone most weeks, have also lost a brother-in-law (granddad), sister, & have another sister dying (Nan) in less than 12 months)
Aunt Marion: (speak on the phone most weeks, have also lost a brother-in-law (granddad), sister, & have another sister dying (Nan) in less than 12 months)
Richard & Kerry: (Martyns brother & sister-in-law, paid for the order of services)
Kathryn: (Martyns sister)
Anne & Chris: (Martyns aunt, they did all the electrics in our house), they also did the videos when we got married
Rebecca: (lent us all the toys for the day, and has been with us every step of the way)
Amanda: (paid for the photographer)
Martyn & I were hoping to keep the large one (which we gave to his mum)

It is a shame that this has all happened, as we were so excited to have some of mums family attending the celebrations (even though many didnt even have the courtesy to reply), and we have now been left with some bad memories & bad feeling!!! I am also very upset, as were Kerry, Kathryn, Jill and Cynthia who didnt get any flowers (who I then sent some to on the Monday).

As far as Im concerned, it is all over and done with. Everyone involved has been made upset by the matter! I would like to put a line under it, forget and move on!!

As for who they are, Aunt Elsie and her mum are my dead mothers sisters! Mum died when I was 10, and I've hardly heard from them since (I'm 30 this year ahhhgh!!!)!!!! It doesn't mention that Tara's sister also took some flowers, and that actually it was her daughter who took two lots (after destroying the flowers that were on their table by pulling it appart and putting it in their hair)!!! One of my Aunts has sent me a letter saying sorry, and that she didn't actually take them, Gabbie did, and they gave them to her as they dropped them off (and a cheque for £15 to go towards them)!!! My cousin said that she hadn't taken any which was a dam lie!!!

Oh well, we just won't ever invite them EVER again, they had £75 out of us this time (not to mention that there were meant to be 14 of them who came, and only 4 turned up, waisting £145 on the buffet)!!!

Thanks for your thoughts again ... it's starange how my cyber friends are better than family ... maybe I should have invited all of you!!!

Lots of love,
xxx.

Your reply

was very well put.....good on you!

A sincere apology is the least you deserve back! xXx

Reply?

Have you had a reply back??

That was very well written! I'd have had a massive go causing a huge fall out!!

Rachx

How rude.....

Stealing flowers from the tables at a wedding or any other occasion is wrong and damn rude..... You have paid for these flowers as it is up to you who you decide should receive them after the event.....

I would never steal flowers at a wedding......!

Hope it did not spoil your day.

Natalie & Emily xx

I'm....

With everyone else on this one.

I would have to reply to the e-mail as i would keep going over it in my mind etc-and drive myself mad!

Who are the people that e-mailed you? If you didn't have any flowers for them, just reply and say that! 'Sorry only selected people had flowers-and they werent any of the selected few!'

Rachx

They should be ashamed of themselves

NO NO NO NO NOOOO!.......dIsgusting behaviour on their part!

Glad apart from that you had a lovely day though! xXx

Thanks ladies ...

My thoughts exactly,
They had free food, some free drinks (although they complained that it wasn't a free bar, and to them waiting an hour for the food after the ceremony was too long)!!!! They had full use of the hotel (pool etc), what else did they want!!!! Esp as I hardly know them!!!!
Now ... any ideas for a reply to:

Hi Janice,

Can you please respond with regards to what and who has stolen from you, as my mum and elsie are upset as to things being stolen, and with you putting the flowers were stolen on the facebook, they only took the flower centre piece of the dining table, which is what everybody does anyway at weddings, engagements etc.they only took them after seeing everybody, (other side of the family and friends walking out with them), so my mum and elsie wanted to have one for themselves, they took the centre piece and the card with the service details on it, and with regards to you saying that flowers were allocated, can i please ask then where was my mums and elsies flowers, who was allocated theirs. this has upset them badly. x

I just want to say F**k off!!!!!

Love you all,
xxx.

No way

should they have taken the flowers without asking.

Usually folk always have plans for the flowers, like mine at wedding were to be placed on my MILs grave. Are they so desperate for a free bunch of flowers? Bl**dy pikeys!

It wouldnt even occur to me.......

........... to take flowers off the table at any event........ tramps lol............

the mind boggles!!

i have never heard of people just taking the flowers from a table at any event? what on earth?!!!

i know people sometimes have plans for the flowers, like a friend of mine put them on her grandma's grave but to just take them? no!!!

love kelly and rugrats
x