feel let down...what do you think?

Hi all, i'm feeling rather down in the dumps. I may well waffle a bit so I won't blame you if give up reading!

It was my birthday on Friday and in recent years I haven't really done much to celebrate (I'm knocking on a bit - partying days are over!) and tbh altho I like celebrating other people's birthdays i'm not really arsed about my own. Anyhow, a few weeks ago 2 of my friends asked me what I was doing so I said maybe something on Sunday day to make an effort at not being a miserable cow. My other friend has her birthday the day before mine and had already arranged to do a spa day on the Saturday with a night at a hotel. Some of my friends went but not all and I didn't cos of no money and didn't feel could spend night away from Sam.

Anyway, 2 weeks ago I texted everyone to say Sunday aft at mine, buffet and chill out get together thinking that would appeal to friends with kids and friends with hangovers! Didn't get many replies and then one of my friends who had originally asked me what I was doing said that she had bought her dad a hot air balloon ride for that day so would only come if it was raining. She had originally told me she was free when she asked what I was doing so dunno where the hot air balloon thing came from. Anyway, ended up chasing people up so we knew how much food to get etc. The girls at the spa said they'd come too.

On my actual birthday 2 of my oldest friends inc hot air balloon one didn't even text or ring so felt a bit gutted by that. Then today only one of the possible 4 friends from the spa managed it as the others all felt too ill. Hot air balloon friend texted and said ooops thought it was your birthday today sorry!

We always club together for birthdays to buy eachother vouchers or something and for the girl who's birthday it was day before mine I collected from the girls that weren't going to the spa and sent her vouchers by special delivery (cost blimmin £4.95) so that she would get them on her actual birthday. Hot air balloon friend kept nagging me to make sure I posted them on time yet I haven't had mine, I know it's not about presents but this is just another thing on top of the others that makes me feel crap.

Have I been treated a bit shoddily, I have a tendency to be a bit oversensitive at times so dunno if it's just that and I have to admit that since Sam came along my life has revolved around him and maybe I've not been such a great friend so maybe I deserve it? Maybe cos in recent years i haven't been fussed about my birthday then that's why no-one thought i'd mind. i dunno!

Anyway...thanks for reading if you got this far! i'd love to know what you think. Be honest if you think i'm being a mardy cow!

Rach x

Happy birthday to you.....

Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday dear Rach.....
Happy Birthday to you!!!

Hip hip..........BIG belated birthday wishes....mmmmmmmmmmmmmmwah!

L xxx

Ta girls

feel better today but still slightly annoyed with some of my friends. I do feel like some of us are growing apart, you're friends aren't supposed to irritate you are they but sometimes mine do...oh well!

My OH did extra stuff with Sam so I could do things that I don't normally get time to like pluck my eyebrows and paint my nails neon pink! (to the point where I was almost missing him!) I had 3 lie ins on the trot...marvellous! and he bought me a lovely watch and made me lovely food so my birthday wasn't all bad.

Thanks again girls, you're all lovely x x x

Hey hun,

you are not a mardy cow, I don't blame you for being upset and hurt - you have exactly the same attitude as me re Birthdays, I do not organise anything as my thinking is that all my friends have kids so why would they want to come out on a night with me (this is before I had Emily). Also Birthdays make you over sensitive anyway as you feel that perhaps your friends / family may (OMG a huge spider has just waddled under the coffee table!!!!!!!) - sorry, may make an effort then when it does not materialise you feel let down.

Of course Sam is your life at the moment and so it should be, any true friend will realise that Sam will take up all your time at the moment.

What did your other half do for your Birthday?

Anyway, Happy Belated Birthday from me and Emily - kiss kiss!

Natalie & Emily (19 weeks) xxxxx

Oh mate, that was a really sad post. I'd say yes - they are rubbish, probably not intentionally, and not because you deserve it being tucked with Sam etc etc, just massively different priorities, and by the sounds of it, none of them are arsed rallying round for peoples bdays (hence why you had to rally round for your other friend!), so they probably were all just thinking of themselves and thinking everyone else would show, and didn't quite realise that as a group that was one massive let down for you when they are ALL being rubbish.

I'm the same, I'd be on here having a good old fast therapeutic type, but hope you don't take it toooo personally in the end (I'm not defending them by the way - Leitia needs to get a wet kipper out for this one!), it's more they are being thoughtless than deliberately horrid I think (as an oh-so-judgemental outsider!! hehe).

Anyway, happy belated birthday hun and hope it feels better getting it off your chest if nothing else.
Lots of love and hugs
N & Isla (8 months) xxxx

Hey hunny

I think In ur situation I would feel the same hunny!
U had tried to make an effort to suit everyone else and it seems like ur friends hav bailed on you!
I totally understand as all but one of my friends forgot my birthday last year and still haven't had the balls to say anythin!
One of them even had the CHEEK to text me a reminder for her husbands birthday, and her sons!!!! when she NEVER gets mat anything!
I know its not about who buys who what, but sometimes you can feel a bit let down!

Hav a hug from me and RIley ((((((((_))))))))

Nikki x x x x x