moan ahead. sorry

Hey everyone hope you are all okay.

I feel so unhappy atm. I feel like I'm a rubbish mum and I'm beginning to hate myself. Rhys is an easy baby but I can't seem to cope with him....

I love Rhys to pieces but I'm wondering why I ever wanted to be a mum and why the hell am I having another baby. I'm regretting not having an abortion even though I don't believe in them. I feel so guilty for feeling like this and everyone says its hormones but I know its not.

People are always telling me how good Rhys is, and what an easy baby so why can't I cope.I seem to have more patience with my friends children. All I have wanted was to be a mum and I don't deserve to be because I'm no good. Ive been sat here for the past 2 hours crying my eyes out and I don't know what to do.

Sorry...

Love Toni, Rhys (1) and Lily bump (27+4) x x x

You are not a bad mum

but I bet you're a knackered one! Being 27 weeks pregnant and looking after a 1 yr old, no wonder you're wondering why you're doing it! I take my hat off to you and to all the mums with more than one child.

I know you don't think it's hormones but it might be as they are devious little ... that creep up on you and pretend to be something else

Sam is an easy baby but I'm still exhausted at the end of the day and I'm not 27 weeks pregnant!

I really hope this hard time passes for you very soon and you start to realise that you are actually a brilliant mum and I bet Rhys thinks you're the best mum in the world.

Take care and don't be too hard on yourself

Rach x x x

Thanks girls

I feel better now to know its quite normal, bloody hormones lol.

It could be a bit of my PND as I chose to stop my tablets when I found out I was pregnant (doc said they didn't know of the affects of anti-d's on an unborn baby).
I know part of the way I feel is because I'm having a rough pregnancy with fainting (been told to take it easy and basically not leave the house) and the fact that I didn't want another baby yet (stupid pill).

I just wish I could calm down a bit as my BP is high and I've been referred to the consultant now.

Thanks again
Love Toni, Rhys (1) and Lily bump (27+4) x x x

Sorry, but..

..yes, it's hormones. I had 2 babies within a year and no, didn't plan or want to be pg 10 weeks after having a baby and during that pgy I just felt like I was a terrible Mum to little Charlie cos he would only get to be 'the baby' for 11 months, the pgy was v.difficult and I was almost unable to care for Charlie the last trimester so he was often with relatives, I felt that my time would be spread too thin and none of my 5kids would get any kind of decent attention from their Mum.

Francis just turned 1 and Charlie is 2 on Saturday and it's not like that at all. It's double sweet (double hard too) but the bonuses of having 2 small ones are amazing. And I do have time for them and their brothers.

Then again, if anyone had dared to say to me 'oh it's your hormones' when I was pg think I'd have punched them hence the apology xx

don't b hard on urself!

Hey there,
I think ur bein 2 hard on urself hun.
We all have days like this. My 3 yr old is what u call an easy child 2. She isn't messy, sleeps well, plays alone, will sit n watch DVD's etc....
I do get fed up n can't be bothered sumtimes 2.
I find myself shoutin n gettin mad about silly stuff! When I was preg with my baby I kept sayin 2 hubby that why did I want another so bad when I can't lk after the one I'v got!!! Little one is 4 wks now n I'm doin ok, I know I can but sumtimes its so hard!

U will get through it hun and u will be a great mum again. xx

mummyand2. xxx

stop it right there. you are not a bad mum.

i dont want to say the same thing as everyone else and cheese you off, but they are right. it is your hormones. i had my second baby when my first one was just 13 months old and whilst i was pregnant with my daughter, i felt like i was a lousy mother to my son. i had no patience, sometimes i felt like i couldnt be bothered, i got angry with him over stupid things etc etc. and it really was just my hormones. my son is the easiest child in the world, although he did go thro a really shi**y phase when i was heavily pg, but what child doesnt!! everyone around me was going on about how easy and well behaved he is, and i knew they were right, but i felt like he was driving me up the wall.

i wont say it will instantly get easier when lily arrives, cos the first couple of weeks are hard. but it soon all falls into place. your body is more your own again, your hormones settle down a bit and when you see your babies together and how your little one's face will light up when she sees rhys, you will realise that being a mum is without doubt worth all the moments where you feel poo and think you have done the wrong thing.

hang in there hun, i promise it does get better.
love kelly, oliver 17 months this week and emilie, 14 weeks

xx