Other kids at mums and tots!

I have a little problem at the min, when I go to mums and tots,(three days a week), there are a couple of other kids who I have noticed single out Riley and hit him and snatch things away from him.
In his usual laid back style if they take his toys Riley looks a little bit lost and reaches out for the toy and often says "ta" in the hope that they give it back! but when he does there are a few that seem to hit him and run away!
I know theye are only little (around 18 months -2years) but I really feel for Riley. He is such a gentle boy that he doesn't seem to quite know what to make of it if someone's mean to him! lol.
I try not to interviene unless they look like they are gunna hit him but its difficult. and i am quite good friends with the other mums that go so dont wanna cause a fuss!

And I certainly dont want him mimicking the behaviour and hitting other children! Whenever Riley see's another child with a toy he likes he blows them a kiss and says "ta" again to get what he wants! I am so proud of him for tryin to communicate but I have noticed that the last few times we hav been He is picking a few toys and shutting himself in the playhouse by himself! lol.

I wondered if anyone else has the same sort of issues with a mum and toddler group?? and how they dealt with it!
I love his gentle temperament and dont really want him to be a bruiser.. but also am worried I am turnin him into a mummy's boy! lol.

Any advice welcome as always!!
Loves ya all lots
Nikki x x x x x x x x

There is a brat

at ours who wants anything Charlie has. She runs across the room to snatch things from him and shout at him. The mum does intervene but not as much as I'd like. She brings a 6 month old too so is often caught up with him.

I've started spending most of the time on the floor with the kids because of this and also because of new stage Francis is at and now that Jude is on school hols he has been told to watch for her picking on him

On the flip side Jamie was a child like these wrong 'uns It isn't always the parents, honestly (well maybe his sperm donor ) he hit everyone, took all their toys, swore, hurt them inadvertently with his strength. Oh, it was mortifying. All the mums I encountered were pretty nice about telling me things and I guess as they saw me addressing the issue it helped. The only one time when someone approached me like a loony, I didn't do anything cos that got my back up and I thought fk you and I just said they're only fkn kids go away and that was only cos the way she spoke to me. Jamie was 2 and her boy was 3!

I'm rabbling eh? Just saying it's horrid to watch kids being mean but equally horrid to have birthed one

Scarlett is that nightmare child!

she always wants toys that other children have got and will try and take it off of them, she is the smallest child by far, still only weighing just 17lb at 16 months old but it doesnt faze her, if she wants something she will try and get it, she also pulls her friends hair and bops them on the head! nightmare! i always tell her off is she pulls hair or hits and i take nthe toy off of her and put her in the corner and ignore her but to be honest if i told her no everytime she snatched a toy i would be saying it every 2 mins and i worry it will then not mean anything! I'm so embarrased by it and worry that all the other mums are talking about me, i'm kinda hoping that she will grow out of it as she is still only a baby!!

xxxx

I hav trouble

In that the Organiser is also a wife on the barracks! and thus all the other mums are her friends! I endevor to teach Riley Right from wrong! and He ALWASY shares with me, and whover else is around!
The other week ~I did actually shout at one boy who I caught as he punched Riley in the face! His mum and dad were there and just stared at me! poor Riley ended up with a huge Bruise the next day!
there are some LOVELY kids and I think the socialising is doing him good. but the other side Of it makes me wanna keep him at home! lol.
I just pray he doesn't start to copy their behaviour! I adore the way he is so soft and loving and he is so clever that he seems to figure a way round most situations!
I will keep goin.. and if needs be I willl just start tellin the other kids!

thanks for all ur wise words x x
Nikki x x x x x x x

Highly annoyin!

Yep we'v had this 2!
Me n a pal went 2 one with r 1st kids n there it was the same! R 2 were the smallest ones n the others snatched, hit etc, we told em but mums didn't seem 2 care was more bothered in daily catch up!
We would tell r kids when they didn't share etc but then no one else did!!! Highly annoyin n rude of these other parents if u ask me.
I think it happens at alot of these groups though hun.

I agree

the mums of these lil unsharing tots should be stepping in and intervening when they behave like that! all children need to learn to share / play nicely and its down to us parents to teach our kids the way. There will always be some that dont play nicely & some that are more placid & laid back, but that shouldnt mean that Riley goes off on his own to feel safe, bless him. He sounds like such a lovely natured lil fella

maybe a good idea to have a word with the organisers, who may then intervene or ask the mums too?

good luck hun, id feel exactly the same as you do in that situation

becks & tiana
xx

Seems to me

it should be the other mums of these little tykes who should be stepping in and teaching their little ones the right way to behave! How do they ever stand a chance of growing up into decent human beings without any guidance?????! When I go to groups I tend to get in there and say no to kids snatching etc if their mums don't bother. Someone should be saying it you know??!

I hope you can handle it without falling out with the other mums....................... a word to the organisers might be another way to try and handle it??

I usually sit on the floor with Jessica for part of the time so I am on hand straight away if anything happens............

Sorry rambling now!! lol!!

Good luck hun! You are in the right and will raise a gentleman!!

Love Tracey xxxxx