Thinking of another baby

Yes! Another baby! Im soo soo broody, ive always wanted a little brother or sister for Olivia and wanted them close in age, seen as shes 2 in march i thought it was a good time. Yes im starting college in sept, but my course is only 9 months, then i have a long break till my next years course and i will NOT quit college because of having another baby
Hmmm... id love a boy!
Some of you probs r thinking about heath, my partner, we havent been getting on for some time, however hes made a step and we r going to the docs next week to get him some help with his anger, i must say he hasnt had an outburst for sometime, and we havent had a major fall out for a while!
And we r hopefully moving house too, fresh start. OOh and we r thinking of marriage in the next few years too if we have another baby! All so exciting, more of me is saying yes but sometimes i do think shud i? but i did when i was pregnant with olivia, but i actually want to get pregnant now!
What does every1 think? Am i insane?
lol.
Brooke xx

Hi

Thanks to every1 whos replied. Ive been thinking it through and through and Mrs V, inside out ect ect lol!
We've been talking about it and we've both decided its what we want.
We've put some rules in place too for us both to ensure our household is happy. I know it is very important to have a happy, comfortable atmosphere at home.
Ive been thinking about the trust issue more too, If hes gna cheat, hes gna do it no matter what. I actually dont believe he will cheat on me anymore, from the beginning of the relationship i always used to say that to him even though deep down i knew he wouldnt, ive been insecure for aslong as i can remember, even before heath. Him not going out is only the start of things, then we will gradually have our own time too, like him going out alone. I actually dont really like going out partying and drinking, id rather be at home spending time with my chilrdren or having a nice evening in or at the cinema. Things are looking up. I know people will have mixed feelings about this and i appreciate that, but this is something i really do want, along with heath.
Thanks.
Brooke xxx

Aww thankyou Letitia!
I think he will too! XxX

oops spelt it wrong sorry!

Hehe thanks Leitia XxX

Heya

I don't know you very well so I don't know of the situation between you and OH.
But going by the sounds of it, things aren't brilliant.

Don't assume that having another baby will bring you back together and make things perfect again.
I was 15 when I got with Daisy's dad and I thought I loved him! We started to fall apart so decided on having a baby to bring us close again!! (i was young and silly!)
I got pregnant at 16 and had Daisy just before my 17th. As soon as I had her I knew we had made the wrong descision. Things got alot worse and he ended up leaving. Now she dosen't see him at all. She wouldnn't even recognise him. I'm not saying I regret Daisy as she is the best thing that happened to me!

I know my situation is different to yours but I don't want you to just have another baby thinking it will mend your relationship.
Think carefully about this hun.
I sound like I've really stuck my nose into your business here.. Sorry!

Ignore me!

Kirsti, Daisy (3) and 28+2 Yellow Bump.xxx

Hey

Dont be sorry hun!
Im not actually wanting a baby to 'mend' our relationship, i know that having a baby to try make things better is wrong and im totally not doing it for that. Ive wanted a baby long before our problems started. The only issue really is his temper and trust which we r sorting out at the docs. I want another baby with him because i do love him and i would love livvy to have a brother or sister, and also it is what he wants too.
And as for the trust issue, we have both decided ( his idea) that he wont go out partying with his mates unless we go out together or its some1s birthday.
I do keep thinking wether or not to, but then it always wins that i want a baby with him. We have been together 4 years and we dont intend to split up anytime soon.
thanks for replying hun xx

As long as your 100% happy with him then I'd say go for it then. You do sound like you love him alot and if your willing to trust him and give him another chance then good on you.
I wish you all the luck in the world hun.

Keep us posted

Kirsti and gang.x

As long as your 100% happy with him then I'd say go for it then. You do sound like you love him alot and if your willing to trust him and give him another chance then good on you.
I wish you all the luck in the world hun.

Keep us posted

Kirsti and gang.x

Hi hun

i'm not going to say what i think because you know... we've spoken alot about it in the past...

i just want to say please, please give youself time to think over everything before makng a decision like this...

take care
hugs
elizabeth & siri
xxxx

Hey

I appreciate your concern hun, i have taken time to think through everything and ive been thinking about it for months, ive wanted a baby quite badly for sometime now.
If i hadnt of gone to see that phschic and have a reading i wouldnt be thinking of leaving heath, because i do love him and we do have issues yes, but we want to stay together, and i dont see why having a child is a bad thing atm in time, we want to be together, hes getting help and i just want a fresh start and for my life to be positive, if we do end up splitting up down the line then so be it, but i dont want children to different men and i think having a brother or sister for livvy is good.
thanks for replying hun
xxx

Hi brooke

Having a baby is not a bad thing but at this moment in time your relationship (and this is purely going off your FB status and conversations on here) is not very stable. I can understand how you want to have a baby with Heath and that you love him but like Letitia said - the stress of a new baby so soon into getting help for his anger management could actually have an adverse effect. There is also - and by your own admission - the trust issues. Fair enough - you have agreed that you wont be going out unless with each other but that isnt really solving the trust issues. That is a quick fix how to STOP him from cheating as you will be there type of thing. Think about it this way too -you have Livvy and a new baby and Heath wants to go out - how are you going to go with him when you have a family at home??
Yes there are baby sitters and family etc etc but can you do that ALL the time???

You say you want to have your babies with Heath as opposed to having different Fathers. I understand that but do you honestly feel it is right to have another baby and possibly have both babies in the middle of a separation. That is not fair on your children. Sometimes divorce and separation is inevitable but you can choose how many children are subjected to the pain and heartache that separation can bring.

Having a baby and extending your family is the most amazing thing in the world. But you are responsible for ensuring that you have as stable an environment as possible for any baby that you actively decide to bring into this world. Please give yourself time. Think it over back to front, side ways and inside out. You not just making a decision for you and Heath but you are making very important decisions that will shape you children's future.

Good luck with everything.