Need to let off some steam...if you don't care don't read! lol!

Ok as some of you know i have a daughter who is 2 next week...my mum and sister saw her last when she was 3 weeks old! They both live within walking distance of me...but basically only want to be in my life if they have control over it!

My little sis who i am still in touch with and who see's my daughter had a baby girl this morning.......( I have a niece wooohooo so excited - sorry! ) anyway i had to find out on FACEBOOK last night that she went into labour yesterday lunch time.....then I got a text this morning from a mutual friend to check i knew that she had the baby!....i didn't!......but i did receive a text from my little sis about 20 minutes after that telling me.

I text her back to say congrats etc and asked her to text me when she had a spare sec to say it was ok for me to ring her.....she told me b4 she went in she didn't want visitors at the hospital & wanted people to wait til she got home so i also said let me know when it's ok to visit..................haven't heard anything back yet.

Just been on facebook again though & found out on there that a couple of people have got mobile pictures of my niece sent to them via the sister i don't get on with..............so all i know is her name, time of birth & weight......and it feels everyone around me knows more than me!

So sorry girls......just really need to get this off my chest...needed someone to listen....you don't have to reply guys....i feel better already!

Fankoo!
xXx

awww hun im so sorry
Families are a real pain some times!

So sorry that your having to go through this

Nat and Megan xxx

U have every rite 2b upset...

Hiya,
Well can see why u r clearly upset with this matter.
They r treating u badly and ur sisters baby is ur blood relationship! How horrible.
Hope they start 2 rethink what their kids will be missing out on n heres hoping u can get on with ur life n move on from this situation.
All the best 2 u n ur own little family hun.
mummyand2. xx

Families!

Hi!

I really feel for you coz as you know from recent posts I have similar troubles but nothing like this - it is so sad and my heart goes out to you hunny!

We are all here for you and please let off steam on there as that is what it is all about....

Families!!! Grrrrrr

xxxxxxxx

Alie

Thank you.....you may regret saying that though - lol

Thanks hun

xXx

Hello again

just been on the phone to my Mum and again NO menton of a 'when can we come down and visit' they go on holiday on 18th so that would mean no visits for 2 weeks so if they dont come down before th 18th, then it will be sometime in October which means the last time they saw Emily would be the beginning of August..........

Arrghh!!

x

aww hun

it is truely baffling how some people can behave like that.
it is so small minded!!! they are all missing out on so much because of stupidity!

i would think that as you already see your little sister then you will start seeing her all the more as she realises how important it is to share your children with the people you love. i really hope so!

it must feel so horrible to find out from other people! i know how i'd feel if it were my little sister!

it is insanely controlling behaviour from your mum and other sister - real bitterness, i really hope they realise what they are missing out on. until they do, they would not be healthy company for your little beauty anyway. i think you will have happier family times with your daughter, little sister and your neice than with the others. at least until they realise the huge mistake they made!
aside from anything else, perhaps your little sister will see more now how awful your older sister and mum have been - i think having our own children teaches us alot. and she may realise how important it is to make our own decisions when we have babies.

i hope things smooth out for you!

and huge congratulations on your neice!!! she has a wonderful auntie in you!!! (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))) ))))))))))))))))

elizabeth & siri (8 months today!!!)
xxxx

Hi Summerlee,

i have no advice what so ever but did not want to read and run, all i can say is family politics are the harshest and big hugs (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((h ugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))) ))) and congrats on your new niece!

Tc Karen&16w+4d marshmallow

Thanks for your replies x

You two have me in tears here....thank you for your kind words! x

*Quote* ( it is insanely controlling behaviour from your mum and other sister - real bitterness ) ...... this is what my counsellor said too!

* Quote * ( may be your little sister will see more now how awful your older sister and mum have been - i think having our own children teaches us alot. and she may realise how important it is to make our own decisions when we have babies )......I really hope so, because up until now she has said she doesn't wanna get involved & i respect her wishes therefore never talk about the situation in front of her, but she does hear their side and has a few tmes text me to have a go when she has only heard half the story!

I text her boyfriend last night to say Congrats and to say i wasn't having a go but i was a bit upset that i was having to find out info on facebook and felt really excluded so please not to forget about us!

Thanks again ladies
Tons of luv
Summerlee
xXx

Hey hon

I actually have no idea what to say that will be of any help as I really just can't get my head round it in the slightest! Why would your mum and sis sacrifice seeing their niece and granddaughter? I don't get it! I really feel for you tho and just wish there was something I could say to help. Elizabeth is right, maybe your little sis will see how bad it is and maybe speak with them? Has her bf text you back yet? Really hope you get to meet her soon and I wish you could all be ok together but that's not very helpful of me cos it's clearly a very complex issue.

I'm sending you a ginormous big hug cos I don't know what else to do!

Sorry for being a bit cr*p!

Rach x x x