Help with 3 year old pleeeeeeeeeeease

Hey girls

My 3 year old seems to ignore me all the time. i am constantly repeating myself and i end up screaming the house down for her to listen, and thats the only time she listens! When i talk lowly and ask nicely she ignores me, continues what shes doing like im not even there! I dont understand it and im at the end of my tether. i dont want to shout but i seem to have no choice and its not nice when theres a 3 month old also around (even though her facial expressions make me laugh she has that "im not gettin involved" kind of look when i shout ) id ont know what to do. its actually quite upseting. and she shouts alot too when she talks she shouts she talks really loud then she cries and screams when she doesnt get what she wants (sometimes even bangs the doors etc). i dont give in, i just let her shout and do what shes doing she eventually calms down and doesnt ask again but its heartbreaking hering her like that. she also has started talking back which i dont like at all, if anything its embarressing when i go out!
I mean shes not a bad child she has alot of manners and she knows when shes doing wrong, but she still does it! she knows exactly how to get at me and its actually starting to stress me out. im getting really bad migrains from all the shouting. what can i do?????

Totally know how you feel honey!!!

My 3 year old is the exact same. If she's playing with her toys and I ask her to do something she completly ingnores me. Pretends she hasn't heard me. I have to tap her shoulder or get infront of her to get her to notice me and even then she sometimes still ignores me.
She also gets in strops if she can't get her own way. She has developed a right attitude and answers back when I tell her off. She has started throwing her toys around, kicking and punching etc. She calms down after a few minutes then seems all lovely again. She has really good manners and isn't naughty. She can be a real princess at times speshly just lately. But she still does it too!
I don't have any advice to offer you hun. I just wanted you to know you're not alone. I'm also fighting a battle!

If I get anywhere or find some advice I will let you know!

Kirsti, Daisy (3) and 33+1 Yellow Bump.x

Hi hun

aww ((((hugs))) it can't be easy!

just a thought - has her hearing been checked recently?

otherwise my only other suggestions are
1 - if she doesn't respond, tell her what you want her to do, for example 'in 5 mins it is dinner time, when 5 mins is up i'll call you, come and sit at the dinner table' then if she doesn't come when you call her, ignore her. don't respond to her bad behaviour. when you do this make sure the dinner is one she loves. then when she finally comes to the table act as though she didn't do anything wrong - just praise her for the good thing and talk about nice things. if she doesn't come along, then she goes hungry until she does come to the table.

2 - create a 'yes set' as much as possible when talking with her - when just having random conversations that do not involve you asking her to do anything in particular. that basically means asking her things you know she will say 'yes' to - this gets her used to saying 'yes' to you.

3 - www.emofree.com download the manual, use it with both of you - sit there with her in the evening before her bedtime and for ten mins just follow the tapping pattern while talking with her. she might copy you. just talk about her day etc, nothing stressful. and then maybe talk about the fun things you will all do the next day. she may well copy you tapping, she might start talking about why she is unhappy. she might just start to feel and act better

4 - how involved is she with your newest beauty? what is she expected to do? have you had any time with just the two of you since the birth? are you able to move around again now?

is it possible to ignore the talking back? i mean to ignore her totally when she is doing that?

sorry i can't be of any more help - i'd ask hubby but he is asleep atm (he works with 0 to 6 year olds)

huge hugs
elizabeth & siri
xxxx

ps the acupressure tapping is great for migraines