Really upset

Hey ladies,

Sorry to come on and have a moan but I'm feeling really down in the dumps today and cant seem to shake it.

Olivia's been really hardwork the last few days and is getting me down a bit. Also, and more importantly, its her 1st birthday on Friday and hubbie and I have been planning for weeks to take her out to the zoo for the day. Hubbie decided to tell me late last night that he cant have the day off work after all so we're not going to be able to go. I know I shouldnt be too cross with him but last week was his b'day and he took a day off for that even though they didnt want him to. I told him at the time that if he thought he could only have one or the other then I'd really rather he'd have Olivia's as she's only one once. He was adamant that he'd be able to have both days off and now I'm sooooooo disappointed. I feel like we're letting her down by not celebrating her birthday properly and I'm really upset.

I was hoping he'd change his mind but I just spoke to him on his way home from work and he said he's not having the day off. Am I being really silly and over reacting?? Have any of you not been able to spend the day as a family on little ones first birthday? I just feel like its such a big milestone and I really wanted us to all be together

Sorry again for whinging but dont feel I've got anyone else to talk to and I'm so upset

Shelley & Olivia xx

You have every right to be upset and annoyed. I would go mad at lee if he wasnt off for megans birthday.
hopefully he will change his mind and you will get to spend it together, you can always make it special even if you dont go to the zoo that day, i know it wont be the same but im sure olivia wont mind as long as she gets lots of attention from mummy and daddy

Nat and Megan
xxx

No way

are you over reacting. Not if it was planned and like you say, he took a day off for his own birthday. Of which he has had many of by now. If he was never having the day off then you wouldn't have your heart set on the trip.
I've never expected OH to take a day off for this kind of thing but as I've got older kids who are at school etc then I plan a sort of birthday tea thingy at dinner time.
Is there anyone else to come to the zoo with you and Olivia? Might stop you being so p*ss*d at him if you manage to have a lovely trip with her regardless.

Jen x

Ahh belss ya hun

I feel disappointed for you MEN! sometimes I think they just don't get it I would be pretty miffed too. However, rather than letting it get you down (easier said than done), maybe set aside Saturday to celebrate it? Not the same I know but LO hopefully won't know the difference just yet. That way she'll get to spend birthday celebrations with her mummy & daddy. I would make it known to Daddy though how p*ssed off you are & let him know the birthday plans, but set that aside & plan for her birthday.

Hope that helped
((BIG HUGS))

Caz & Thomas xx