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Hi Ladies,

Tys mum came over yesterday she was lovely had cuddles etc and went... this morning she called me and said she had been speaking to her sister (a nurse) and one of the symptoms of GBS is difficulty in breathing - she already nows hoe paranoid and panicky i am so why say this to me as its put tons more worry into me....

I didnt get my ful course of IV antibiotics in labour only the first dose but they said he wouldnt need any as i had no risk factors and kept him us in 24 hours to be monitored...

im petrified now im so scared he going to get taken from me now im even more worried as if he got anything to do with GBS i would blame myself - im sooo scared.

A very tired and down Sammie, Angel Mya + André 9 days xxx

Hiya,
Although they want the best 4 us, mums n in laws sumtimes put their foot rite in it!!!
She was out of order really. I have no experience of this either but like the others say, the hosp have monitored so I'm sue all is fine.
My baby has a real bad cold n a very bad cough. My MIL came over asking Q's n said it sounded very much like whooping cough, she knew a baby who had it n it sounded the just the same.
Hence, we tk baby 2 doc n they said all was fine, just a common cold n calpol etc would b sufficent!
they really do know how 2 worry us don't they?!
I'm sure Andre is doin fine hun.
All the best. U GET SUM WELL DESERVED REST!!!!!!
mummyand2. xxx

Hi sweetie

To be honest I know nothing about GBS but wanted to try and help ease your worries if poss so I've just looked on the GBS support group website and it says that as well as difficulty with breathing the baby may be off food, be lethargic, irritable, have a high temp and have blueness round lips. It wouldn't just be the grunting, you would def know it was more. From my exp with Sam and from all my friends who have recently become mothers we have all commented on the strange breathing patterns convinced it wasn't normal but it does seem to be that way.

I think you mil might be trying to help but a bit misguided, she is prob feeling scared too? You say that they were not worried as you were low risk, did they test your urine or take a swab? They must've been sure to not be worried about the rest of the antibiotics.

I remember with Sam that he grunted, snorted, held his breath and did all sorts of scary things. He even did a thing a couple of times that scared the life out of me where he would hold his breath and then he would scream out crying. He did this twice and the GP, lovely as she is just looked at me like I was a bit mad when I tried to tell her. I think it was just one of those things that happens and he's fine now and André will be too.

Like some of the other girls say, there's always something to worry about, it's just with you the worst thing did happen so it must be impossibly hard to dare to feel safe but this time everything will be fine. Just take it a day at a time, try and rest (easier said than done i know) and before you know it time will pass and it will get easier, there will prob be a whole new batch of worries (i'm beginning to get that that's how motherhood works!) but the pain of losing Mya and having these worries for André will ease as he grows into a big bouncing boy who is gonna bring you so much joy that you deserve.

Take care, you will get thru this scary time and all will be ok, sending you a huge hug, Rach x x x

Hi sammie

I doubt anything anybody says will take away the fear and panic you must feel. I cannot possibly imagine even a sliver of the pain you feel loosing Mya. Keegan was my fourth and first healthy pregnancy resulting in a live birth. The stipulations on my pregnancy was I had to reach 14 weeks (not your 12 weeks usually) before I could 'breathe' and when I did, I didnt relax like they said I would, I became more anxious as I wanted to reach 26 weeks viability and then when I did, I still didnt relax I was so worried about stillbirth and when he was born perfect and healthy I still didnt relax because there was SIDS. The bottom line is you never stop worrying! There is always something to worry about.

When Keegan was born right up until about 6/7 months he would also breathe very very shallow. It was so shallow you couldnt even see his chest move. It was very very scary. Some nights he wouldnt sound right either. He also had to sleep in his moses basket for the first few months because he too would set off his monitor constantly! I remember one night it went off. I jumped up from a dead sleep and grabbed him well he got such a fright it took me an hour to settle him. The MW told me that boys (I dont know if there is a difference) but apparently boys do breathe much more shallow than girls.

I dont know anything about GBS but I am sure the hospital would have you monitored very closely if they were concerned.

Hun I think I speak for all the ladies on this forum when I say I wish I I could take away your pain and your fear and your hearache! A day at a time girl - face it a day at a time.

Lots of love

Awww hun

I know its a hell of a lot easier for me to say but try not to worry too much as a babys breathing can quite often be very erratic. I know your gonna be constantly on tenterhooks watching him 24/7 but you need to try to relax a little or else your gonna make yourself ill with stress.

I had Group B Strep with 4 of my babies. Luckily on no 5 the test I had at 36 weeks came back neg. With no 1 & 2 I was given the antibots but no 3 I only had 1 lot and no 4 I wasnt in labour long enough for them. Thomas was kept in for 48 hours as he showed symptoms of it and he was given antibots. They are all healthy little men now

It was silly of you mil to put this extra worry on you but in a way im sure shes just looking out for you (remember we will be mil's one day lol). You cant blame yourself if Andre has any symptoms hun, you gotta give yourself a break.

I wish I could give you a huge squishy hug and tell you that everything is gonna be fine with Andre.

I probably havent been much help (wheres Elizabeth when you need here ) but if you ever wanna moan/talk etc just pm me. I think you are the most strongest lady I have ever known, now you just gotta show yourself how strong you really are.

All the love and hugs in the world coming your way <3

Sarah xx

ps, you have one gorgeous little man there

Hey

She should know better than to start saying stuff like that.
You dont need anymore worrry than what you already have. Like you said in your post yesterday, it sounds like it is to do with wind, plus doesnt sound like André has trouble breathing, it just sounds like its different, he is just practicing and developing.

If you feel the need to, talk to your midwife or hv, let me know how much its worrying you, and then they could do something to reassure you just a little, I cant imagine how hard it is for you, but your doing a great job and im pretty sure it gets a little easier as time goes on

Cant wait to see the piccies, think the whole of sofem is waiitng.

Take care lovely

Nat and Megan xxxx

Flipping MIL's, I know she probably meant well but her approach and delivery leave a bit to be desired, esp when you are feeling so anxious at the moment already.

I've tried to google this and read up to see if I could find something that might put your mind at rest, and did seem to find lists of symptoms (grunting was one) but seemed to suggest other symptoms too (similar to meningitis symptoms). Has he got anything else that would cause you concern? were you diagnosed with it? the fact they monitored him for 24hrs is a big bonus too.

I know you posted a few days ago being nervy about going to hospital etc but I suspect the only thing that will definitely stop you worrying is a trip to the docs and you should absolutely not feel funny about going. I know plenty of people who are at the docs every 5 mins for much less, but where babies are concerned so much better to do a million unecessary trips I always think.

Would have been nice if your MIL's sister had called you instead with some practical advice rather than planting a seed of panic in your mind!

Hope you can get your mind put at rest soon hun.
Love N & Isla (11months) xxx