feel awful for an old friend & her baby that lost his battle

I bumped into an old friend in town today. We're friends on FB & I saw months ago that she gave birth at 24 weeks to James, 1lb 90z. As far as I was aware he was getting stronger day by day.
But then when I said to her today "oh how is James" & wondering where he was - probably still in SCBU I thought. Sadly he lost his battle for life & so she said in the middle of the street with a laugh (a very uncomfortable laugh as I expect she really wanted to cry) "Oh he died". I felt awful for her that she had to tell me like that, I think we both wanted to ground to open up & swallow us both. I feel so bad for her as I was there carrying Thomas.
I have sent her a PM on FB but not sure whether I should have or not, it was just a few words along the lines of "Sorry for the awkward meeting today, but more so I'm sorry for your loss. I was stuck for words when we met, not that any words would help. I give you my deepest sympathies & a kiss for your sleeping angel."
Does that sound patronising or daft to say?
My heart goes out to her

Caz xx

Hey
Doesnt sound patronising at all.

You werent to know
I think she realised it would be awkward for the 2 of you, so sending her a message was a good idea.

Must be really hard for her, but you werent to know.

Nat and Megan xxx

Hey hun............

Im sure she didnt think it was patronising, I bet she knew it was difficult for you once you found out!
I think you did the right thing sending a PM, thats what I would have done.

What a sad story tho, poor girl, I cant begin to imagine what she must be going through xx

Adele xx

Hiya,
Oh hun,
Wot a horrible situation 2 find urself in. I'm sure u won't b the only person 2 have asked her hun.
I think ur message 2 her sounds very nice and caring and not at all patronising.
I'm sure she will appreciate ur kind words.
Hope ur ok n not 2 upset by it all, its very hard 2 hear news like this.
mummyand2. xx

Aww bless her

She PM back & really appreciated the mssg. She's moving on as best she can.
Cheers girls xx

No at all hun

that sounded lovely ... nearly crying myself now

t care

Em & Dylan x x

actually crying myself now, how awful for her!!
x