Hope things get better soon.

Hey ladies, babies and new little beans

Well Im really struggling to make things work with Lee, Im trying and I dont think its down to my thyroid anymore.
I have blood test on the 19th so Im holding out for a few weeks to see how we get on but it seems a lot deeper.

He has come down with a cold, and with this diabetes aswell he feels rough but after something to eat he feels a bit better, but he spends his morning messing around on his computer, or reading stupid magazines,so he doesnt get breakfast unless I make him eat toast.
Friday he didnt go into work, said it was because he didnt feel well, but he wasnt that bad so we wont get payed for that day, now hes told work he has an appointment and gone to a computer fair, so he is going to loose more money. He cant understand why im annoyed. He hasnt brought Megan anything for christmas, I have brought it all, and I asked him to go halves on her big present and at first he was a bit put out, I couldnt believe it.

He comes in says hi to Megan, and goes on the computer, at the moment im trying to get the house straight, everyone is buying Megan toys for christmas so we need the space, so I want the little room sorted, its pretty much all his stuff apart from my wedding dress, 2 suitcases and some wedding decs, i keep asking him to get it sorted but its just not working.

The other night I told him Im going to bed, he told me he was coming up, it was geting on, got to half 10 (i went up at 10) he still hadnt come up, so i feel asleep, woke up at midnight as I realised he hadnt come up, went downstairs he was still no the laptop, I was soo mad with him, then he had the nerve to be in a strop with me cos I went down and said oh you didnt wanna come bed then.

Im starting to feel like his Mum, I have had enough.
I cook dinner, wash and iron his work clothes aswell as other clothes, look after Megan, do the food shopping, take Megan to see his family, clean the house, do the washing up and Megans bottles every day. Then he moans at me he is tired, he hasnt got up with Megan in the night since she was about 3 weeks old

Better stop now or this post will get soooo long.

Really sorry but im fuming at my mum is at work so I cant rant and rave at her lol and my best mate is now having major troubles with her ex.

Sooo mad!

Sorry

Nat xxx

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hiya hun... hope you're feeling a but better today... i agree with the girls in that it's not your medication... men can be a nightmare sometimes..! they do literally need things spelt out for them... you have to tell him everything you're feeling and what you expect from him and then let him say his piece.. let him know you wont put up with it forever.. and try spending sme time together away from tv, computer etc... sorry i'm rubbish at advice i just hope you get things sorted xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx danica xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thank you ladies, would be lost without you.

Im gonna sit it out will I have my test results back and see if they change my dose, and then talk to him cos then it cant come down to have you taken your tablets, have they got you on the right dose.
Have been thinking about giving him a time limit, but im scared and deep down i think i know that it wont make much of a difference. Things will get better for a while and then change again.

By the time Lee had got home tonight, Megan had been bathed and put in bed, I tried to keep her up to see him but she was too tired, so he isnt happy, but im not changing her routine for him.

Only a few weeks to go and wil see what happens, needed to get it off my chest now though.

Thank you once again

Nat xxx

Hey

Hi Nat

Sorry to hear your having a crap time of it, it took chris and me a while to get used to things changing with euan i.e me not having as much time as it did before to do the cooking/washing etc. ALthough we had a bit of a rocky start i have to say things are much much better and we have found a new rhythm in our lives--but i'm not really helping much am i? sorry

I have to say i would agree with the others, in that you need to try and talk to him and prob be a bit harsh so he gets the picture as to how hard it is being a mum. Men arent always as tuned in as we would like them so be so perhaps spelling it out to him would make him realise how unhappy you are with things?

Being a mum is the most rewarding job in the world, but its also flipping hard work and i dont think anyone realises it until they have done it themselves!! Have you thought about maybe leaving Lee on his own with Megan for the day? he'd soon realise how much you have to do everyday

I really hope you sort things out hun, and this site is all about the ranting so go ahead!

Kate and Euan x

Hey Nat,
Sorry 2 hear that things r still the same with Lee. Not very nice situation 2 find urself in a couple of months after havin a baby.
He is bein very selfish towards u as a family. He obviously is still living a single life!
I think it mite b time 2 sit down n talk hun. Uv been feelin down by it all 4 a while now.
Maybe wait til ur results like u say. U take care n think bout urself abit more hun.
All the best, PM me anytime 4 a moan!!!
mummyand2. xx

aww hun

that's just not on!
i have to admit with my last 2 relationships i ended up feeling like i was their mum! some boys just can't look after themselves. some come around and get their act together - some don't. i waited a long time for one of my ex's to grow up - he never did. i was forewarned with the second one lol
it's much easier when they grow up/ you find someone who takes thei responsibilities seriously!

it sounds to me like he is being a selfish, spoiled little boy - which is not fair on you or megan!
i ended up feeling like a real nag and that most of the problems were my fault because i was trying to get said exs to do something useful - and that was without having a baby to consider. the chances are it is not to do with your illness nor anything you have done at all. it's them being idiots.
you should feel good about yourself, hun, not that there are problems because you are ill. if you are having issues because of an illness then your partner should damn well support you!

if i were you i would be tempted to give him a metaphorical kick up the behind and point out that you need a MAN to help care for your daughter, not a boy who is feeling sorry for himself.
with my second ex he had a timeframe i gave him - i warned him that i couldn't take it anymore and he had a month to prove himself. he didnt - stupid me gave him another month - then i left.
and that was when i got together with anders
which i should have done the month before lol.

i know i sound a bit harsh here - but i wasted alot of time with the wrong people before i realised that i was just fine and it was them with the issues. so i get a bit mad when i hear of guys who are lucky enough to have amazing partners like you and a beautiful baby girl and the stupid lads take that forgranted! idiots!

sorry bit of a rant there!

huge hugs
love from
elizabeth, Siri (almost 10 months!) and new bean! (unknown weeks!!!) eek...
xxx

Hello

it seems we're all having a bit of a hard time right now. I feel for you hun, it's not much fun.
Sorry i can't be of much help, but just thinking of you. Men just don't get it, do they?
good luck,
flo
xxx