Single with 3 kids and pregnant!

I am a single Mum, I have 3 children aged 11, 9 and 6. I have gone and got myself pregnant totally by accident, yes I should have been more careful so I only have myself to blame. I am currently 6 weeks gone, and the man in the situation doesn't want to know and wants me to get rid of the baby, but I am so unsure as to what to do about it. I am totally against abortion for any reason, and can't see myself being able to go through with it. but having this baby will affect me, my kids, my ex and the man and his family for ever. It is an awful situation I find myself in and am so angry with myself for being so careless. Is there anyone out there out is in or has been in a similar situation that could offer any advice - I know ultimately I will have to make the decision, but anything would be appreciated. thanks

3 kids also and pregnant

wow i thought only I could get myself in this situation i have 3 kids too 6 8 and 10 and im pregnant 8 week with so much pressure to abort im a actress singer and radio commerucal anouncer and work in a christain radio station atmosphere so many people are telling me im distroying my career and the fact that im not married my job has turned againt me I was so sick had to stop working whats crazy is my ex got on me to remove my IUD and I did stupidly so \ this pregnancy was planned and now my boyfriend are non existant and Im am having serious financial problems and dont want to abort like in the past i just want to handle the situation I put myself and listen to me in Ive had so many abortions in the past i should be hanged and this time im not letting no one tell me what to do no matter what

It's ultimately your decision

I'm also a single mom of 39! with 2 boys aged 15 and 10. I'm 24weeks gone by mistake and had the same response from my partner. I'm nursing a heartbreak, fear and financial woes but it was ultimately my decision and I don't regret it now. I think I have a lot more to look forward to again. Just feeling the baby kick and my kids excitement warms my heart - I know they are trials ahead but also a lot of joy.

Just turned single with 1 kid and 1 on the way!

I am replying to k3lly4. I have been single for quite some time since my 6yr olds father passed away 5 years ago. Last year i got together with a guy i had known for going on 10 yrs. Everything was great, we got engaged at christmas and planned for a baby. I am now 7 weeks pregnant and our relationship is non-existant. We have split up and i am finding it hard to cope with the guilt i feel for letting another man into my son's life and then him up and leaving. I am hurt and upset that i have got myself into this situation and that i trusted someone who obviously had other ideas. I haven'e told anyone that i am pregnant yet and there is no way i can get a termination as i have had 2 in the past and regret both. I think k3lly4 shouldn't feel too bad about the situation she finds herself in. Remember it takes 2 to make a baby but unfortunately its us mothers that are usually left holding them. I am going to keep my baby regardless of what anyone else thinks. I will just have to make sure that my kids lead a happy life and have everything they could ever need.

Wanting whats right

I got fixed after i had my 3rd child i regret it every since i got it done .The man im with has been with me since 1980 we cant have kids so please keep it or give it to some one who will love and care roe it as if it was there own.[I have every thing i need for a baby but the baby and formula i look in boxes on the side of the road hoping i can find me one but it hasnt happened yet]Think befor you do something you dont want to do.

Single with 1 child and pregnant

Hi there, I have just read your story and i sympathise with you as i am in a situation like yourself. Im 8 weeks pregnant and my man doesn't want to know. Despite his decision im keeping my baby. I know i only have 1 child, but i believe if you've managed to raise your 3 children by yourself you'll be fine doing it again. Your kids are at the age where they can help you too. My daughter is 9 and is very excited about our new arrival. There are lots of us single mums out there and i think we do a damn good job, so keep your chin up!

Same situation

I have 3 kids also, 10, 5, 4. 2 boys and 1 girl. I am recently divorced for the second time. I am 15 weeks pregnant and I was not careful either. I felt awful too, I come from a really Catholic family. We are all totally against abortion. I know everyone will look down on me, single with 4 kids. I dont plan on being with father of baby. I have not even told my parents yet, that will be the hardest think I will have to do. Im sure you can make it, abortion is forever. God will bless you for making right choice.

Ask your family

No one can make this decision for you, and it doesn't matter what other people's views on abortion are. If you don't think that you will be able to cope with another child on your own then don't have it. talk to the father and see what he thinks. don't feel that you have to do it on your own, surly you have family around you who can help.

Hope you figure out what to do soon.
Abi x

Dont do it!

whatever you do, ont get rid of the baby. Cause I dont care what anyone else tells you, its wrong. If he wont support you, then he isnt the man for you! He needs to be with you when ever you need him, and now you need him, and he isnt there for you. I would say get rid of him! I love that your against abortion, I think if the world had it made illegal, then the world would be a better place. abortipon is murder, ad sorry to tell you this sweetie, but if you felt you couldnt handle this baby, then wy did you have xes. but, im not here to critisize. I'm here to help, and give advice. Keep the baby. As I'm sure you know form your other kids, pregnancy and raising a child can be a wonderful thing. I say go for it. And as for the man, well, women can do any thing, and we don t need a man in our lives that isnt onna be there for us to help. Good luck.

Thanks

thanks for responding. I went to the hospital yesterday not knowing what i wanted to do, but as i sat there in the same room that i had sat in carrying my other children, it made me realise that I have been blessed once again and couldn't ever go through with an abortion - so I have decided to keep the baby and deal with it. I have a fantastic family who will support me and great friends, plus I am sure the kids will help all they can. I will enjoy this pregnancy as I have all the others and look forward to welcoming my new baby in November. Thanks again. Kelly x