Moody kids

i have a 10 yr old girl who has recently become moody,stubon and arguementive i think the hormones are kicking in im positive she is not being bullied we genrally have a good relationship and she comes to with her worries.
she refused to tidy her room today so i sent her to bed early she refused that to so when i tried to put her into bed myself it ended with her pulling at my clothes and scatching me i dont know how i stopped myself from thumping her can someone please give me some advice on how you cope with hormomal children
i also have two other children and work and im already reaching the end of my teather please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok

ok this is kinda late but i have a cousin whos ten and she's gettin the same way and really don't force her just like remind her that she is being moody and try to get her to realize that if she acts like a baby then u can treat her like one but dont go on her to strong
try to keep her busy with fun things to do that also help you

Dont enforce

just think back to when you were 10? i know times have changed but what is the tools of parents today.electronics and money use that as a punishment instead.as long as you stay calm she will see that unless she does as she is expected she will lose.