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Help! oh dear i am so upset and down in the dumps

I am so upset and confused

please can someone give me some advice as soon as possible

I told my partner I was pregnant(5 weeks) and he is not responding to phone calls or texts messages or emails, i am so sick with worry, i feel so alone and confused.I really need support and i am crying all time and running back and for-wards to the toilet with worry. i am so sore on my boobs and peeing all time, i take it thats some of the symptoms

I don't want to be a single parent but i guess i will deal with it if i have to, but i am seriously considering if termination is an option here even though i would regret it.

please can anyone help me

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Don't worry, you will be fine


Dear Scotnewmum,

Don't worry, you will be fine, dear. I am also
going to be a single parent soon, because my
husband and I had so many problems during my
pregnancy..we fought a lot and he kicked me out
of the house once!! He never took care of me at
all during my pregnancy and keeps abuising me
verbally. It's tough to be a single parent but
you will pull through. Be strong, believe in
yourself and have faith. Praying helps and
talking to friends helps. Please contact me
if you need any help or advice.

Take care..I support you!

Super Mom-to-be

Pregnancy

Hi there, I couldn't help but to reply to your email, I found that I was in a similar situation. I was living with a guy and we broke up in Jan 07 but decided to keep in touch. I saw him again in Feb 07 and we were fine again. Then in March I found out I was pregnant and had been since just before xmas but didnt know till 3 months later. Once I told him by phone I was pregnant he was angry and then went cold on me and started to ignore me. Now we dont speak.
I have decided to keep the baby cos its my first and im 32 years old even though the dad has a boy already. I feel quite alone but I have to be strong and I accept I will be a single parent. I feel if you really want the baby you will keep it. I understand that you dont want to be single mother neither did I. Theres lots of single mums now. Do what you feel is right but if you really want the baby then keep it. Hope to hear from you. Take care .

Hi

I understand your concern about your partner. Its got to be hard for you.
You will feel confused and alone, but turn to people who can help you. Family friends, your baby.

Being a single parent is hard.. But maybe it may just take some time for your partner to come around. If you want to talk further you can email me back .

You are both in shock

Ok, now firstly I am amazed no-one has responded to you yet!
Still here I am , and as a total stranger I care..no honest ..I do. I can't say I have ever been in your position, but maybe I can help with a bit of advice and support..I hope.
First, sit still take some deep breaths. you can deal with this , you just need somone to hold your hand while you work things out..consider it held.Now lets get some questions out of the way.
1.Did you wait so long to tell him because you were afraid of what he'd do.
2. Do you have any contact with his family? Can you get them to talk to him?
3.Would you like a baby?what are your true feelings about termination (what would you advise someone if they came to you?)
4. Sore boobs and peing are fairly normal..but what about your work..whatever happens don't you need to get some money-in.
5.Where are your family and friends?
Sory to be blunt but if I advise you I ned some basics first. whatever happens, I will be here to talk with you alll the way I promise
xxhugs
H

Keep your chin up

Obviously this guy was man enough to do the deed with you, but he is not man enough to take care of his responsibilities...you have to ask yourself do you really want a man like that in your life??..yes being a single parent is hard that is no doubt...but a mother will do anything for her child..I would give him a lil more time and if he doesn;t come around..then forget it, he wasn;t a real man to begin with...and as for as the peeing and be nauseated that is just part of the pregnany experience!!!..

I'm here if ya need anymore advise



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