Jeesh tough one,huge hugs poor love...be strong you can do this! waiting for him to see the light will be hard. Boys need a role model and a dad to look up to at his age. It will be a while yet, he is your lad , so eventually he will see him in his true light...he might go his own way then , but then he will be free too! just know you will always be his mum, always, no matter what that git says.Its all boys together at the moment..his dad will get sick of having to be responsible for him.
We just have to let them grow and wait for the fall-out its hell isn ...
My Jen's birthday on Monday.... 17, pregnant, in homeless, alone as she wakes-up...not exactly what we'd planned...the car outside the front door with a big pink bow on the roof... and her first 10 driving lessons paid-for.
That drink? Yes....we deserve it
XXX

Ok well here goes, perfect life...tick..perfect house..tick..perfect job...yep perfect husband..well i think so. My daughter? not perfect but hay a teenager going through the pain of her first relationship, a good hearted lovely mixed-up kid..then disaster, pregnant in middle of GCSEs,(oh I told her how to be safe , but "mother I don't need relationship advice from you" was all the reassurance I got)...keeping it..(WHAT!!!)because they have been together for a year! (I have knickers older than their relationship) wants to join his religion..husband exploded,social services, homeless placement,and now the boy who tortured her heart will be part of her life...forever...and won't visit (too tired) but wants her to have his baby...she cries lonely in her bedsit, wanting it all to be "like it used to be".
Sure she drags herself to A levels but will have to leave after xmas....mother and baby unit next..oh how I have cried, but it doesn't do any good, the what ifs are the worst.We are in touch a lot, perhaps the only crumb, but it is tainted with hearing how he hurts her.I think I'll write a book, There is no help or info for the shocked granny...is there?
H

Laid-up with labrinthitis..a revisit to being strapped to the waltzer at the fair. BLergh horrid Seems stress can cause it to reoccur..wonder what did it, my daughter geting preg, my mum keeping something from me (already had breast cancer 3 times) or my work saying how the re-organisation will split my job into 6 different areas? Maybe a combination of all of them. Doc said no-wonder, and dosed me up with brain numbing drugs...haven't noticed much difference ha ha. Anyway I HAVE to be at a v important interview on Monday and on Wednesday I am organising an halloween lunch for breast cancer and on Thursday a day long seminar. I'll get through...going to see my grand-something (couldn't see the flavour on 20 week scan)on a 4d scan for my birthday...I'll allow myself to be ill after that.
Granzie

happy birthday !! do something nice just for you-or even better sit back and let that nice fella of yours do nice things!!xx

how you were going...had to catch up i guess-im waiting for my turn- i just figure if i run fast enough it wont catch me!! so hows your mum? ive just done the hospital rounds with mine...she had a bowel obstruction and i had to get very loud before anyone listened....nearly lost her...labrynthitis is awful-my son had it he was not well for ages...enjoy the pretty pics of the bub and then fall in a heap for a while ok?? take care xx

Sorry hun I have been away for a while...concenrating on family , getting a second life. secondlife.com..its such fun and a rest for my poor old overactive worry muscle. I am Granzie Aeon. It takes a while to load and you have to be patient with the training island..but I am getting addicted.
Glad to hear you are kicking hospital arse...I swear if you make no fuss they'd let you die! Ears better, one battle won over granddaughter's name Jazmin..his mum hates it , but that's tough and at a meeting with them I get them to agree a double barrelled name (don't like them really ) but with his name it protects her legally her just in case the split up.I am so glad it wasn't a boy!Racially would hve been much harder to get a good result for her. see maybe luck turning at last. thnaks for keeping in touvh
xx
h

I have had a big glass of wine, and want more! She has txted me, she is sad , lonely, has nothing in the fridge bored and has bad dreams...what Mum wouldn't run to her side? me , and its kiling me to know I am doing the right thing. I phoned her, she cried, but I can't keep doing this,I am going mad with stress she has to grow up now and the wrench is kiling me . We went out on sunday lunch and a chinese inthe evening, monday I bought pizza after an interview at the mother and baby unit..its cupboard love. I know she doesn't want to cook for herself, "can't be bothered " and she keeps telling me how she hasn't gained weight - she is 5 months pregnant!-and I am clutching at any time she will give me...this isn;t good for either of us.Once again I have been talked round by my husband, she chose all this not us...she has to be independant , its like I'mm rejecting her...god it hurts

im in a really difficult situation with my son....and all i want to do is run there and drag him home with me....my ex said when he left that he would turn him against me....i didnt think it was possible but he has done it and i barely see my precious son who will be 15 tomorrow-its tearing me in pieces but like you i cant change it-im clutching at little moments too-and trying not to stuff up those moments by crying or something!!my son is influenced 24/7 by a man who drinks himself to a stupor every day and has a long hstory of anger management issues....so i really understand that its so bloody hard!!!! i will be in uk in january -i will shout you a wine if you like and we can toast all mothers and know that this too we will survive xx

Jeesh tough one,huge hugs poor love...be strong you can do this! waiting for him to see the light will be hard. Boys need a role model and a dad to look up to at his age. It will be a while yet, he is your lad , so eventually he will see him in his true light...he might go his own way then , but then he will be free too! just know you will always be his mum, always, no matter what that git says.Its all boys together at the moment..his dad will get sick of having to be responsible for him.
We just have to let them grow and wait for the fall-out its hell isn ...
My Jen's birthday on Monday.... 17, pregnant, in homeless, alone as she wakes-up...not exactly what we'd planned...the car outside the front door with a big pink bow on the roof... and her first 10 driving lessons paid-for.
That drink? Yes....we deserve it
XXX

yes we will both survive all this-and one day i trust that he will realise and want more from his life-and yes his father will get sick of it-this is his 1st go at being a parent-the novelty will wear off!but it doesnt get any easier...my daughter wants to drag him home by the collar before he throws his life away...i had planned special stuff for his birthday too....but hey we knew being a mum wasnt easy didnt we? hang in there with her birthday-i cried buckets on his-so did my mum-but here we all are still standing-take more than this to knock us down-see you for that drink in january and we will toast us and all of the amazing women we know-i will be with 2 of them-one im coming with and you i will meet then!!take care xx

OK, we have spent SO long hating this stupid boy..and with a kind word, and meeting her from school...he's made her life worth living again..we also went to the midwife to hear the heartbeat again to reassure her..we had a meal..went to the pictures...and all is well...and what a turn around, I now WANT him to be with her....how fickle am I ?
H

I'm pleased to hear things are going better for you all, I was going to reply to your 1st message but then saw your second one. It's interesting how being in a certain situation can make people change! Lisa

thankyou..not so smug now am I ? Now don't get me wrong..men... I recon I have them sussed..teens..bit smug.....but then I get myself a rebellion to end them all !I mean..why not get a lip pierced..why..cos I am a skin piercing advisor!Dammit..my advice ..don;t be cool hip & trendy , that way the rebellion might be smaller?
Anyway I have some serious childbirth demons to deal-with (50 hours of absolute hell neglect and pain folowed by a caesarian - on the jolly old NHS)and this will do it big-time...nothing can be buried and not dealt-with...a lesson learned the hard way!
Sooooooooo nice to feel I am not alone with this..thankyouxx
H

been wondering where you were darls...hey they can always throw a curved one at us cant they??? but hey thats what the likes of us are here for-the copers of the world....hope its all good-i know you will make it work take care xx

Hi, sorry I've had my confidence kicked lately...(went away adn hid for a bit)but I'm up again..new stuff to learn and some backbone to grow. So goood to hear from you again.You are a lovely person. xx

so glad to hear youre getting back on your feet-my darling dad always used to say to me...up on your feet darls-dust yourself off and get back on that horse....and he was so right....even when there was no horse in sight!! sooo granny...chin up its all good-you and your lovely daughter will be laughing together about this one day!! take care-hugs and squeezes-glynda