Hi I'm 14 and well I haven't been around that much with Life....But my mom was 17 when she had my sis and you know she never regrets it...Her boy friend was also wild!!! But it all worked out and now she has her own company and is happy! I hope u are just as happy as she is!!! God bless and good luck!!!

hey. i had been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years when i found out i was pregnant..but with another boys baby, it was just a one night thing but it was with my boyfriends best friend. i have recently broken up with my boyfriend and got together with the father of my baby. everything seemed to be going perfectly up until last week at my 26 wk ultrasound i found out that it was not only one baby but twins, a little boy and girl. the father of the babys is very supportive but he is also very wild and likes to party which is what got me into this situation in the first place. my 19 year old sister has been there for me the whole way through and still is, but my parents and his father (as his mother has passed away) are not so supportive. my mother was fine with it, in face she was over the moon but that was when she thought it was my ex's baby, and now knowing who the father is she wants nothing to do with me or the babys. i know she will come around soon and my father as well but for now its just me and my babys. i have no idea what to do and im just so confused, any help or advice would be very much appreciated. xox

Look.... Adults find it hard to be supportive coz even though you are there pregnant already and damage is done, They wanted the best for you which this isn ... I fell pregnant at 16 but had an abortion 1 week later! I was only 6 weeks! At first i was so adimant i was going to have it thinking aw it's a baby my very own baby untill i woke up and realised what everyone was saying to me! How could i look after a baby???? I'm 16 will have to find my own place to live provide clothing! (where would i find the money to get the clothes that kids want today????) I dont want my child growing up on a rough estate or getting bullied coz i have no career and no money to help them fit in!!!! This is what society is like unfortunately! Sitting on the dole for ever is no fun and the chances of you passing all that onto your child is high!!!! I eventually had a boy at 20 who is now 10 and i dont regret it one bit but boy did i have to grow up fast! I still believe now i lost some childhood! I did have a career and my own home by then though so was in a better situation!
I am not trying to be patronising here im telling you how it is basically! If you are grown up enough to be a parent you wont be knocking or screwing your face up at what i have had to say on the matter because you will know what i am talking about! I see 15 year old girls today and they seem so tiny to me! If my son came home in 5 years telling me he got a girlfriend pregnant id absolutely KILL HIM AND THE GIRLFRIEND!!!!
So think yourselves lucky that you still breathing! Also i split from my sons father and he doesnt see him much now! It tears my heart out that my son has to live with that pain as he adores him! Whats the chances of a young boy taking responsibility of a child???? You will know what i mean when your child is crying for their daddy! Finding (or trying which is hard nowadays) the right guy and settling down to have children when you older is great! At least you know now what goes through us adult heads! We are not mean we just know better and want better for our children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

im in a situation aswell.....

i have been with my boyfriend for about 1 year 3 months.... we have only had unprotected sex once, and i have missed my period...

but im only 16 and im scared to tell my dad..

and i chose our story to read because of the whole thing with your parents...

my mam knows because she gets her period the same time as me, and when she found out i wasnt on she asked me and she is getting me a pregnancy test..

but because im only 16, and im going to 6th form for 2 years, i dunno whether to get an abortion and wait untill im ready to have a baby, but im agaist abortions, but if i have the baby i wont be able to finacially support it, but my only other option is abortion, i dont think i would be tough enough to give away my baby..

but im soooo scared to tell my dad because i dont think he likes my boyfriend..

was it hard to tell your dad??

my dad neva lykd my bf n jst alwez gev im dirty luks,
ur mam swnds reli undastndin wich helps alot cz ma mam wz 2 n she managed t tlk my dad rwnd cz e dint lyk dat a wz keepin it . . .

. . cz a dnt bleev in abortions eeva n a fwnd owt a wz preggi cz a gt sent t hospitalwid pains n dey did an internal scan n i wz ony 6 1/2 wk preggi n it alredi had a heartbeat !

Me and my family ent reli in a financially safe situation bt wen i first went t midwife she gev me all dese saving vouchers, books, my NHS card so doctors, dentist, pills n w.e u need wid d NHS is free, i also got a form t fill in to get £5.60 sent to me in vouchers a wk to get veg, fruit, milk and baby powderd milk !

Wen me dad fwnd owt dat me bf wz gna stnd by me n nt leev me tho . . he strtd t respect me bf alot mor n nw dey tlk n av convos wi each uva n am ony 5 mnth gne lol

dnt wurry bwt uva ppl . . . do wa u finks best

x Hez x

You'de rather ruin your career and struggle and bring a child up on a rough estate on benefits forever and maybe ruin you child future rather than end a pregnancy when it isn't even a baby yet? Listen love! It's so not nice to have an abortion but if you just think off the top of your head you dont believe in them without looking at everything else around you then your not grown up enough to have a baby! Im sorry and dont mean to be rude im just trying to help you make the right decision! Do this for the fetus!!!!!!!!!! Bring a baby into the world when your ready to provide a promising future for it! Life is tough and getting tougher in this country by the day! Give a child a chance! Just becareful in future! You cant punish a child for you making a mistake not using contraception! You might make a great mother sure, But just wait hey and do it with someone you dearly love at a better time! Look at it like your just saving it for later! Goodluck and i hope you make the best alround choice
Cath x

Hi I'm 14 and well I haven't been around that much with Life....But my mom was 17 when she had my sis and you know she never regrets it...Her boy friend was also wild!!! But it all worked out and now she has her own company and is happy! I hope u are just as happy as she is!!! God bless and good luck!!!