I am hoping that some moms will answer me back. I have been doing reseach on how many the number of children couples have. The most common number is 2, but I love children. I think that I might want to have three, but am unsure whether or not i want one child to be in the middle. Anyone have any input of having three children? The pros and cons?
Thanks so much
Marlise

Hi I am a mum to 3 children age, Ben 4 n Half, Jenna 2 n Half and Jamie 18 months. It is very hard at times dealing with 3 kids. We have been so lucky that Jamie has always been a very happy contented little boy and gets on with things. The plus is that he is learning from the other 2 and as you say they bring each other up and will always have someone to play with. We are glad that Jenna was a girl and being the middle child it is true she has had to be independant to a point. She gets one to one attention going to her grandmothers 2 days a week. Ben and Jamie being boys, Ben has always loved Jamie to bits and is very protective of him. In all the 3 of them get on much more together now and it is true having kids close together is the best bonus there could be as they are into similar things and you can all do family things together. I keep having to tell myself that at times when I get stressed to remind myself what beautiful children we have. I have been so blessed with 3 especially as Jamie was a suprise and has completed me. People have said since last August and to this day that Jamie and Jenna are twins and thats great because the 15 months age difference does not matter they do things together and do look like twins. So if you are thinking about having a 3rd, having them close together is the real plus. Sinead

i am a mum to 3 boys i have one at 4years old one at8yearsold and one at 12 years old i love children so much and they are so fun when you go on hoilday they class a family as 2 children but a lot of people have 3 children

i had 2 kids, and i really wanted more. my hubby was quite reluctant, and then i fell pregnant while i was on the patch. i was really happy, and my hubby too. it was a complete shock, as i had been on contraceptives, but i love having three. it is wonderful. my kids are 7, 4, and 2. theres a good age gap, although there is alot more fighting now, lol. its a decision that sometimes is made for us, but if you are planning it, good for you. none of my kids were planned, but im so happy to be a mummy. more the merrier i say.

I think it depends on you and what you want. I am a mother of two..a girl and a boy. I am trying to get pregnant at this moment but I think 3 is the limit. That is my opinion only. If you love kids and financially you can handle it, I say go for it. Having children are a true blessing.

Um... Last time that i checked you cant choose how many kids you want. Unless your a freak. Let nature take its course. If you have one, you have one. If you have fifteen, then you'll have fifteen. Just let it happen.

P.S. Your awsome, you must be cool person for loving kids. I'm a kid myself. Hope everything goes well for you. chow.

UMMM...... WELCOME TO THIS CENTURY WE ACTUALLY HAVE A CHOICE. LET NATURE TAKE IT'S COURSE? YOU SOUND LIKE A CAVEWOMAN. LIFE IN GENERAL AND MEDICAL ADVANCES ARE HAPPENING ON A DAILY BASIS FOR OUR OWN IMPROVEMENT. EG: DO YOU DRIVE A CAR? OR ARE YOU STILL ON HORSE?
GEEZE
J

im 1 child out of 3, and i remember that it wud be 2 against 1 more or less all the time, me and the middle brother, me and my youngest brother or them 2 against me, we more or less never got on as a 3.. i only want 2 kids myself, but if i wanted more, i would have 4, but not 3..

I have 3 children one boy 2 girls age 2,4,5 and i wouldnt have it any other way they play and help each other. even tho sometimes they fight a little they get on well and were now thinking about adding to our family.
all you have to do is make a time for each child so they get some special time with just u.

its better 2 have 2 children. that way one isnt stuck in the middle and no favouritism is going on. with 2 children the house is also more peaceful. i am 21 and have a 1 year old son - he keeps asking me if he's ever gonna get a new brother or sister yet ! cheeky , eh ?


hope this info helped u

i saw your message and just had to reply. i had my third without thinking about just because i wanted more children now i am paying the price. i have a girl 7, boy 4, girl 2. They are brilliant but having 3 they just fight all the more and trying to separate them is a nightmare as you have 3 places to find.
i not saying that its a bad idea and i would not change it for the world. just one thing to think about before you have the third every where is designed for 2 children all the family deals and holidays are all for 2 children.Getting a room in a hotel somethimes means that you and your hudsband are
separte. Simple things like that that you think about till you can not do them.

i have three children two boys and one girl' the girl being the middle one i know she finds it hard ,she is not older enough to do as her older brother and to old to be with the younger one ages 6 9 11.

i have 3 boys and i know what you mean about they want to do the same as each other my 12 year old goes out on his bike to his friends and my 8 year old wants to go to but i tell him he is to young to go out

Alright, so I have no children. But I'm happy with that at the moment. But with the experiences in my family, the middle child WAS the problem child, the one left out, and the only boy. However, I think it would be preventable if there was no "mom's little girl and daddy's little girl" going on. All the children need the same attention, and not more for the middle child because they're the middle child. My pro would be that yes children are great, more love in the house, more FUN and cute to go around. I don't have too many cons though.

Hi,
I have 4 children, 18,16,10 and 2. I no there is alot said about the middle child, however our middle child didn't become a middle child till he was over 6. He was then and still is vey independant. Just go for it. The only thing i would recommend is not having such big age gaps.

i don't beleive what u did to get 4 children how could u do that

.... HEY LOL... just have 4, that way there it will be 2 in the middle and not just one.. :P problem solved.. love yea as a friend.... :P

well i really don't know what u is talking about reply to me when u get this .


thanksalot

Your funny. This isnt her, but what she means is a friendly good bye. You know, love yeh, but not in the relationship kinda way. I dont have kids, want to, but have any. Bye.