I want to know why young chilren have sex at such a young age and pop up with babies that they cant even take care of????????????

Hold on there
im 15 i started havein sex at 13
and not alll young girls have sex and have babies
belive it or not theres a lot of young girls out there that are senable
but the ones that do have babies at a young age that dosent make them bad parents
i no a girl that had a baby at a very young age and she is a gr8 mum and cares for her child and porvides for her child as best as she can
i think your statement was very crule and very uncalled for!!!

you cant say we dont care for are babys because we do and im 16 and i started having sex wen i was young bout 2years ago nearly and wat ever u say ney43 u cant judge us im 16 a beauty and fasion model

I dont think u should say that younger gurls cant take care f they babies! Even if they cant let dem deal with that not u. And you should try in support them. And I think younger gurls having sex at a young ages because either that boy is cute and the gurl wanna please him or or that gurl wanna be like her friend. Or of course she think she in love. Im 14 and im still a virgin. I might give it u when i turn 15 or 16 cuz im got a nicelil boyfriend and I think i really love him! And when i was 11 12 and 13. Dem bs use to pressusure me to have sex with them. but I never did it. And if I can do it any of these otha lil gurls can do it. I was close ta doin it once. But I catch my self because he was to old and I was to young! And my ma always told me that since I got Back(Ass/butt)boys gonna always wanna hit and try and take avange cuz im young! So every since I was 11 I promised her I wont go round ... err body! But I still undrestand why they having sex at dis age!

Im nearly 17 now, I lost my viginity at the age of 16 and 9mnths,
my point is that people say having sex at a early age is wrong at the end of the day you keep telling some one dont do this dont do that, they are going to do it, im not saying let young people have sex im saying, sit down talk to them like adults as all you can do really, is advise them tell them what can happen if you don't wear protection, tell them what it would be like to be a single mum not being able to work as you've got 3 kids no qualifications at the age of 16, you need to tell them the reality, facts of having sex, as when your a teenager you want to be more independent and do everything that your friends are doing.

As my mum advise me, im am pround of not losing my viginity at a young age with some one that just wanted sex every now and again (which most boys want) i waited for the right person(which im still with now), my mum was always talking to me about relationships and so on. She was always saying to find the right person before you lay down with them, I think young people need advise, instead most dont even talk to there mum about sex they think its embarrising but at the end of the day, if your doing it your doing it.

My advise would be to any young persons that are thinking of having sex.
If you cant talk to you mum, dad OBVOUSLY you aint ready to have SEX!!!!

I agree that parents need to realize that children, actually for that matter "PEOPLE" in general are curious of what they dont know. Television, songs, and music videos portray sex as what you should do and that it is all perfect. Children see these shows or hear these songs, and because there parents don't want to have the uncomfortable conversation, the kids end up having sex without knowing what responsibility comes with it.

Parents need to remember how it was when they were younger and know things are even worse now with the pressures faced. Then sit there child down and explain everything with them. Kids want to fit in or feel loved, or are afraid that if they don't give in that they will loose there boyfriend. But the truth is, that if there boyfriend is throwing out these ultimatims (sp?) then they are not even worth your time.

Hi im 14 and me and my boyfriend decided that we were ready to have sex. To be honest its everyones different oppinion. some people think it is wrong whereas others believe we made the right decision. Neither of us was forced into anyhting. I just felt right.

I'm not sure if it is ever the 'right' decision to have sex at such a young age, as you are not yet independent - unfortunately, the consequences can be well beyond the capabilities of the individuals of the young age to cope with. Others then have to manage the unintended consequences e.g. disease & medical treatment, financial support etc.

In other words - you choose to have sex, but your parents / boyfriends parents don't have a choice in terms of supporting you / your child / your healthcare should unintended consequences result.

And it would appear many (although not all) of the children / teenagers having sex don't have the ability or foresight to prevent these consequences. Otherwise we wouldn't be seeing all these posts saying 'Oh no I am pregnant I don't know what to do!'

No one is immune from the threat of life ending or life altering disease. People getting pregnant are obviously having unprotected sex, and they are not protecting themselves against any type of STD. Its a serious worry, even more serious that an accidental pregnancy!

Okay... I'ma young teen and I didn't have sex because my friends were doing it. I didn't have sex because I thought it was cool... Sometimes I don't even know why I had sex at such a earliy age. I lost my viginiy at 12 years old... The first time was against my will. But after that... With the same guy... I felt as though I loved him. I knew him for so long. Then he just stopped talking to me. I didn't understand why he did that to me. I was hurt. I did it to feel loved. My dad was always working so I never got to see him. My step mom was always yelling at me and I never got to see my mom. Then I met Jesse (My boyfriend) I fell in love with him. He told me he'd always be there for me. I believed him. Now we're having a baby. I'm 8 months pregnant and Just turned 17. So... I think all young girls have a reason to have sex at a earliy age like I did. Maybe they were hurting inside like I was... Maybe they want attention in a different way. Who knows. But I don't think its very nice to say something like that when a lot of girls get pregnant and don't know what to do... We have to be supportive for them.

hi I'm john

its a young age of 12 to have sex do you think 11 year olds could have sex.

is it fun having, sex what is it l ke doing it.

plz answer my questions plz.

I ask myself that question alot. and I finally found out why. They see their friends go and do it, and they think why cant I? I know its wrong, and I dont belive im having sex before your married. I just think kids should realize all of the dangers like STD's ( sexually transmitted diseases) they can get from it. There all WAY to young to screw their lives up like that!!!

I dont really understand
im 13 and couldnt imagine having sex at all
i wouldnt exactly not do it id probably jump at the chance depending who it would be with
but i couldnt imagine doing it with anyone i no
maybe im just immature and think all the boys are icky
but im not even confident enough to kiss a boy and i have had 3 boyfriends in one year alone!!!
i dont no anyone who has had sex (ive nown someone give oral though :P)
i dont who would have sex at a young age its insane . . . the youth of 2day
please any teenagers who have lost their virginity write back 2 me i want to understand

From Zoe xx

Having sex at such a young age has many consequenses. Alot of kids do it to fit in, or becuase they don't feel loved, are curious, the list goes on. Even though I am now an adult, I had a girlfriend that ended up getting pregnant at 14 years old. Her boyfriend also ended up giving her an STD while she was pregnant. Thankfully it was not a deadly one but it will be with her for life as there is no cure for warts.

Remember that if you have a decent mother or maybe another adult that you trust, talk to them about any questions you may have. Not your friends or other kids your age as they have yet reached an age to understand certain actions. I am not putting young kids down, I am talking from my own experience. Ask a trusted adult every question that comes to mind. Girls usually have sex to feel close to there boyfriend, Boys usually have sex as a conquest, or bragging right. Having sex DOES NOT make you mature. Only age, experience in life, and knowledge make one mature. And knowing who you are and proud of who you are and not falling to peer pressure.

Good Luck to you and any other "confused" kids out there.

i lost my virginity at age 13 to my booyfriend who was 14 at the time. we didnt do it to be cool or because everyone was doing it. in reality none of my friends or anyone at our school were really sexually active. we lost our virginities to each other because we felt we were ready and responsible enough. we did use protections (i.e. condoms). and to this day i still feel it was the right decision. we arent together anymore. but we still are good friends. and im currently turing 15 and pregnant. and keeping my baby. my boyfriend that im with right now. is a great supportive person. and i hope anyone who reads this learns that not all people do it to be cool. but have sex because they feel they are ready to. so please dont mark all girls as sluts or any of that stero types. thank you.
*mona*

hi, i was raped at 11 years old and thats when i lost myself respect, i had wanted to keep myself for that special someone as i believed sex was a special thing between 2 people who loved one another, but that was taken away from me ,after this i lost all respect for my self and my body ,i had loads of sexual partners and really didnt care what i was doing anymore ,im not saying what the right age is to start having sex as i dont know,but i wish to god i never slept round i had got my self into some heavy situations when drinking,i finally thought i had my life back on track and stopped drinking i finalyy started to respect myself again until i bumped in to a so called friend who wouldnt take no for an answer and again i was raped ,i tried to kill myself as i belived it was my fault as he new i had a name , but i just want to say to all young girls please be careful and really think about it be fore you do have sex ,because my purity was taken from me i now have gained my self respect back and am a mum of 3 at 25, so my kids are my life and i hope to show them how to have repect for themselves and not give in to the urge unless they know the time is right, i just wanted to share this as i believe there are many reasons as to why girls have sex at a young age .to act cool, believe the guy is the one,wanting to feel more grown up etc.... shell x

i read your message i would like to know to there are allot of kids in my school who did it but they say it like its a good thing to do at the age of 13. my friend asked me if i was a virgin and i said yes and she isnt she told me. she said to me i have to get somebody for you and i dont wantt o tell her know cause then im afraid she will not want to be my friend wat should i do?

dont do any thing you are not a 100% sure on you will onli regrect it later on in life
and if your your friend is areall freind then she will understand that you are not ready
havin sex for the frist time is a very big deal make sure your ready and its with someone you want it to be withx

If your friend is a ture friend then she will not care either way, if she does stop being your friend because of your decision, then you are better off. It's also know ones bussiness what your sexual status is. Be proud of the fact that you are a virgin. It take a strong and courageous person to save themself for later in life and to know what they believe.

YOU ARE THE ONE that will have to live with this decision for the rest of your life, no one else.

Take Care

I think young girls need to sit that butt down some way and go to school and find them a job and finish school

well people feel they love eachother and then they realise after they ont its just a phaze thing.and i notice yu said they cant take care not all teen mums are bad coz i take care of my baby really well thankyou!!!and i am young!!

i feel like peoples is easy to talk to