if you want an opinion here goes i am not biased in any way i am 23 have 2 children may be pregnant with 3rd i fell pregnant at 13 thought i was mature enough for this quickly realised everything i had to give up on sadly i lost the baby at about 12 weeks looking back i know i wouldnt have coped to well i wanted something out of life to offer my child i then had my 1st baby at 17 i love my 2 kids more then anything in this world but you loose alot of what you want to do i would wait if i was you even another 2 years as you want to be able to show your child the right way of life and you need to think of yourself 1st

Do you think im crazy for wanting a baby i really want to bring another baby in this world im sick of all the downers who just wanna say im some little hoe but im not i have been with my bf for almost 2 years and we have never had sex me and him want a baby so bad and i think its time is that a bad thing please write me back his mom is so suported of us and my parents would kill me if they new i wanted a baby they told me if i wanted to have sex that i have to use a condom if i was really ready for sex but im only 13 about to be 14 and i just want one i think it would be a blessing i love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul and he loves me to please give me some advice!My sister got married at 16 and had a baby by 17 she didnt get married becasue she was pregnant she wasnt pregnant when she got married and im out of school already dropped out of 8th grade becasue all the kids would call me a how and a whore and all this stuff but im not like i siad i have been with my bf for almost 2 years and never had sex before im still a virgin but i want to loose my virginity to my bf now please give me some advise please i need some really bad!

ok, i am also 13 and i hav also been with my boy friend for about 2 years we have had sex before and it was because we loved eachother not some slutty thing. But, i believe that being only 13 you are definetly not ready for a baby at all. My sister went throught the same thing wen she was 14 and she thought she was ready but it put her in way to much stress. I t confusses me that you have dropped out of school. get an education and then when you do have a baby you can support it and raise with the things it needs. I would suggest a program where you and your boy friend can try a month with some one elses baby to see what it is like but at 13 your very own baby is just not natural. If you do have sex be safe do use a condom. I trust you make the right choice and even if it is to have a baby i wish you the best of luck and if you know thats what your are 100% sure of doing and in your heart know is right then ok. Just know there is options and help dont rush these things you are still a kid live your life to the fullest just do what will make you happy c u lata

Well you are deffinataly deserving, apposed to all these tramps that get knocked up and abort their babys. but i think you should hold off untill your at least 15 or 16. not because you cant handle a baby, but because it can mess up your body at this age. if you get pregnate and your body cant handle it then it can mess things up for later years and disable you from haveing any children. but if your really ready for it i say go ahead. your very brave

Are you serious?? You shouldnt even be thinking about having a baby. What you should be thinking about is how your going to get a job to support this baby. I mean really. How dumb can you be! You cant get a job without a high school education and you cant even manage that!! What in the world makes you think you can manage to take care of another human being?

If you have a baby you will be throwing your whole live away. How would you support it anyway, your not old enough to get a decent job, and I'm guessing your boyfriend isn't either.
Another thing is what happens when you decide it was a bad idea, you'll want to back out of it won't you, and theres no way unless you get an abortion with is a horrible option to chose so I say think carefully about what you want to do with your life!

sorry to be mean..but u sound so immature!!!like u want a dolly 2 play with or smething!im not bein a hypercrite but i should no i have a baby myself!and u do have 2 gove up ur teenage life!now i no how it feels!and lookin at wat sum of u are sayin u sound so silly!!!finish school 1st and go to college then have 1!

I knw how you fee. i am the same age as you soon be in febuary. ive allways loved children ad babis and i realy want one. my mum died when i was 11 and ive never had th chance to have a baby in my life. everytime i alk past baby clthes i just go awww sometimes i even bye them secretly and put them on some of my old dolls i still have. but i havent got a oyfriend i never had and i am 13! soon 14! i just want baby to care for i can be good with babies though, my friend has lots of younger bros and sisters and i help ot quite a bit with them. i dont want to have sex i just want a baby alo on that note i havent actually started my periods so teres no way i can get pregnant right now. but sometime near the future i want a baby

your still a child your self let alone wanting 1 of your own if you have a child at this age you will regret it for the rest of your life im 18 and 30 weeks pregnant and it changes you completley your whole life will be gone before you no it.you have all the time in the world to have a baby what you are feeling now is probaly no more that a phase i no this because when i was about your age i felt exactly the same most girls do.you are not ready to have a baby yet it wouldnt be fair on you or the child!

hiya you r only 14 trust me do not have a baby yet you have all the time in the world to have a child.I have a 2 year old girl and im expecting my 2nd i had my daughter when i was 20 and even though its the best thing in the world its hard work.not only does your social life go out the window but you are up 3-4 times a night for about an hour each time which is very hard when you are consantly on your feet all day and you are tierd.But you are so young and you havent lived your life yet u should get your school work and exams finished go to collage get a good job and go out clubbing and go on holidays before you have a baby because trust me u will regret it.Just think about what you are doing what if you cant cope and you suffer from deprssion its the child that suffers too.they aint fashion accessaries they r little lives that we r responsable for just think about it really i think you r being stupid. xxxx jade

hi my name is jade im 24 and just found out that im pregnant. i had my first child when i was 19, i found it easy because i had the support of my parents and he was a good baby.. im not going to tell u not to have a baby but i will say that you should seriously think about everything before you make the biggest decision of your life, i personally dont think you should rush into it you and your boyfriend are only young and have a whole life ahead of you. and also think about the financial side of things im guessing you both dont have jobs so how are you both going to support another life.. well its just something to think about hope you both make the right decision...

Listen Im almost 15 meaning Im just a little older then you and let me tell you your NOT ready for a baby. Your not even in Highschool yet and I dont know where you live or what your schoolings like but you havent even gotten to algebra 1 yet. Having a baby at such a young age is very stupid thing to do. Thats nice that you and your bf have been together for two years big freakin deal its a middle school relationship nothing close to what a real life realtionship is like. I was in a two year relationship in middle school to and its nothing! You and your little boyfriend are NOT ready for the emotional, mental, finacial or physical things that come along with having a baby. Its not gonna be rainbows and sunshine living at Barbies dream house its going to be difficult and tuff with the morning sickness, weight gain, not to mention your going to be throwing your whole life away along with the life of your baby. Because that baby doesnt deserve a life where they have no toys no love a broken family and home life! How are you gonna take care of it? Get a job at 7-11? Cause I doubt they'll hire you when you havent even taken a real highschool class. Also the hard times that are gonna come in its life with having a young mother. How would you feel if that babies 14 years old and comes up to you saying they want a baby? And how will you feel if when their older and their friends are thinking their mothers a slut? I mean you cant even deal with what the girls at your school already say about you what are you going to do when you have an oversized belly or if your boyfriend decides he doesnt want to be a father anymore and dumps you? Its nice that you want a baby lots of little girls want kids cause thats what you are a LITTLE GIRL! Grow up live life and atleast wait to have a baby when you know what square roots are!

ummm...i hate to break ur heart but ur already goin down the wrong path.....u dropped out of skool just cause u were worrided about waht other people would have thought of you???....u already messd that up but u culd still go bac....now if you have a babi theres no turning bac.....so just think it throu a lil more b4 u decide ur whole future.

U R ONLY 13 DAT IS NOT GOOD...... IF U HAVE A BABY UO LIFE IS GON B BASICALY OVR...... U WONT HAVE NO FREEDOM.... U WONT B ABLE 2 HANG WIT UO FRIENDS OF NOTHIN JUS WAIT...... 18 ISNT BAD.....WAIT!!!!

omg plz wait all is good if u reli love him then y do u want a baby at 13/14 when u cud have 1 at a reasonable and supportive age for the baby!

if you want an opinion here goes i am not biased in any way i am 23 have 2 children may be pregnant with 3rd i fell pregnant at 13 thought i was mature enough for this quickly realised everything i had to give up on sadly i lost the baby at about 12 weeks looking back i know i wouldnt have coped to well i wanted something out of life to offer my child i then had my 1st baby at 17 i love my 2 kids more then anything in this world but you loose alot of what you want to do i would wait if i was you even another 2 years as you want to be able to show your child the right way of life and you need to think of yourself 1st

Im not entirely sure where you got this idea to have a baby(i see alot of *children* seeing other girls getting pregnant, or on tv its now the in thing to do.. pregnancy isnt the in thing to do its a life and must be treated with respect, a baby is not a fad, fads die, dont assume your baby will die out when the fad does it doesnt work that way), i am 35 in a few days ill be 36.
people are thinking smarter these days in having children, by waiting.. you have had 14 years, to live your life, most of which has been monitored by "your" parents, that is what parents do, they try to help guide you through life, to live it the fullest possible.
Ask yourself, exactly if you have lived your life to the fullest..
are you on your own?
is your boyfriend and you working to support a baby?
do you make enough money without a high school diploma to make it on your own?
my thoughts to all of those questions for you are a big no.
I will tell you this, even at 35 years of age, and just being at the limit you shouldnt have children, i am scared to death.. i think about all the free time i used to have, my boyfriend was in the beginning happy, for us and me since ive had problems carrying to full term in the past.. now he isnt so sure himself.
I think daily im in this alone, even though he loves me... my brother told me best just yesterday, people think that the easiest part of having children is the pregnancy, that is totally wrong.. he agreed, and he being a man cannot have children, but has watched his wife go through serious complications, also i suffer complications as well.
its a really tough road to travel, and in 7 days i will have a baby, that i cannot put back into the womb, and say i made a mistake.
I am sure most of my feelings right now on my baby being born are from hormonal changes, depression, crying all constant things on my mind of worry.. all things you should not have to be dealing with at your age.
im not saying you personally, would be going through this, but what if you go through something much worse? having lived your life, and growing and learning through your life, will only help you to be a better mother.. and trust me, nothing will prepare you for the changes your body goes through, and after.
but the learning experiences through life, are a must for any one person. your wanting to give life, but your not wanting to live your own to the fullest, so your contradicting what you want to do.
How is that a possitive role model for your unborn ?

OK i am 18 nearly 19 been with my boyfriend for 4years and expecting a baby boy in june. I hate to say it but i think you are stupid wanting a baby at 14 your to young im young and your 4years younger than me. Think about it carefully. If you feel ready for sex then fine but don't have a baby because you want one. COuld you and would you be able to finacialy and emotionaly surpport your baby? I think your to young. ana

you are so young. and dont bother saying "don't patronize me"
to me, actuall considering HAVING a baby at your age is totally selfish and CHILDISH.
STICK PLAYING WITH DOLLS, AND BARBIES, UNTIL YOU GROW UP.
you say your parents would go mad. WELL, SURPRISE, SURPRISE. what do you expect honey, a reward, for being totally irresponsible.
have a life, go out and WORK, settle down,THEN have a family.
any chance of being jealous of big sister, mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?????????

I can't really believe what you are saying, how can someone who hasnt lived her own life even think about bringing another life into the world. My advice is go back to school get an education live your life then think about having babies.

Is the person who started this thread on a wind up or something ?
Theres a thread on here from a 13 year old ( my daughter is nearly 13 incidentally) and the girl, Zoe, seems to have her head screwed on far more than some of the adults on here !

Seems to me you

i am 15 and have wanted a baby for 5 years my dad wont let me have one he is so unsupportive but mum said that she cant wait to be a grandma.i say go for it.